MEDIEVAL vs. MODERN

http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-eBg51pP9GZk/TpVOSpM0bFI/AAAAAAAAAKk/64KL04qjHrI/s1600/CourtlyLoveWound.jpghttp://4.bp.blogspot.com/-eBg51pP9GZk/TpVOSpM0bFI/AAAAAAAAAKk/64KL04qjHrI/s1600/CourtlyLoveWound.jpg http://i2.cdn.turner.com/cnn/2010/TECH/social.media/11/19/facebook.modern.romance.mashable/t1larg.teens.computer.jpg MEDIEVAL vs. MODERN COURTSHIP By: Emily Ladig

Private: Medieval Courtship http://indianapublicmedia.org/harmonia/files/2009/07/courting_ed.jpg http://fc08.deviantart.net/fs70/i/2010/197/f/b/Medieval_Door_by_nub4sh.jpg In Medieval times, courtship was something that usually took place between the privacy of two lovers, and was not made a public spectacle. “Courtly lovers were pledged to strict secrecy. The foundation for their affair was that the rest of the world (except for a few confidantes or go-betweens) was excluded. In effect, the lovers composed a universe unto themselves--a special world with its own rules, codes, and commandments.” http://condor.depaul.edu/dsimpson/tlove/courtlylove.html>.

Public: Modern Courtship http://www.funnystatus.com/images/facebook-love.png http://www.thelostogle.com/2011/04/27/gentle-readers-ibaka-wicca-and-webcams/facebook-relationship-status/ http://www.thelostogle.com/2011/04/27/gentle-readers-ibaka-wicca-and-webcams/facebook-relationship-status/ Nowadays, relationships are made more public with social media sites like Facebook. Couples want their relationship status to be seen by other people instead of keeping their love private.

Public: Modern Courtship The Bachelor http://www.teenjury.com/the-bachelor-sued-for-racial-discrimination/ The Bachelorette The Bachelorette and Bachelor series is based on courtship and is publicly viewed by millions as a form of entertainment. http://www.usmagazine.com/uploads/assets/celebrities/28872-the-bachelorette/1278083567_bachelorette-290.jpg

Public Display of Affection: Modern Courtship Showing affection used to be considered a private act, but now, people don’t think twice about doing it in public. http://images.sodahead.com/polls/001348803/movie_kiss_xlarge.jpeg http://readhappy.files.wordpress.com/2012/05/door-hold-not-quite.jpg http://www.catholicmatch.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/06/iStock_000013149072Small.jpg

Styles of Courtship: Medieval http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3422/3239317207_5b72236ddf.jpg http://www.history.org/History/teaching/enewsletter/volume7/images/mar/courting.jpg “The emergence of chivalry during the Middle Ages brought forth the courtly practice of wooing one's intended with love poems, music and acts of bravery to prove one's desirability as a mate.”http://www.ehow.com/about_4587310_history-courtship.html>. “Suitors wooed their intended with serenades and flowery poetry, following the lead of lovelorn characters on stage and in verse.”http://www.ehow.com/about_4587310_history-courtship.html>.

Styles of Courtship: Modern http://cdn0.fiverrcdn.com/photos/1069887/medium/facebook-friend-request.jpg?1349010115 http://www.indiavision.com/news/images/articles/2012_03/284659/u8_texting-dangerous-neck.jpg http://matchuptodate.files.wordpress.com/2011/11/girl-and-guy-talking.jpg?w=500&h=334 Lovers show their interest in each other nowadays by friending each other on Facebook, asking each other on dates, and through text messaging.

Communication: Medieval http://www.justbeenough.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/iStock_000017376402XSmall-1.jpg http://merryfarmer.files.wordpress.com/2011/12/medieval-couple.jpg Lovers in the Middle Ages primarily communicated in person, or through written letters and it was more of a personal ordeal.

http://cdn2.business2community.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/10/4390873_f2481.jpghttp://cdn2.business2community.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/10/4390873_f2481.jpg Communication: Modern http://stopbeingaloser.files.wordpress.com/2010/09/busy-lifestyle-man-talking-on-mobile-phone-thumb7372582.jpg http://www.neontommy.com/sites/default/files/uploads/Facebook%20Chat.jpg Today, lovers communicate through texting, talking on the phone, and through social media sites. Many people believe that texting does not compare to what it is like to hold a conversation with someone in person. “Suitors now contact each other in an instantaneous, frictionless sphere separated from larger social institutions and commitments.” “Today’s technology seems to threaten the sort of recurring and stable reciprocity that is the building block of trust.” Brooks, David. "Cellphones, Texts and Lovers." The New York Times. N.p., 3 Nov. 2009. Web. 25 Nov. 2012. http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-q6UlzvvDcIk/TVP9b8y2cLI/AAAAAAAABEQ/qi8PW3viCGU/s1600/young-man-texting-on-couch.jpg http://www.hercampus.com/sites/default/files/styles/square_thumbnail/public/Girl-Texting-On-Cell-Phone-485x363.jpeg

Male Courted Female: Medieval Courtship http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-eBg51pP9GZk/TpVOSpM0bFI/AAAAAAAAAKk/64KL04qjHrI/s1600/CourtlyLoveWound.jpg In Medieval courtship, men were the ones who always wooed the women, and never the other way around. “Thus, just as a vassal was expected to honor and serve his lord, so a lover was expected to serve his lady, to obey her commands, and to gratify her merest whims.” The lady “expected to be served and wooed, minutely and at great length.” "The Middle Ages and Courtly Love." The Middle Ages and Courtly Love. N.p., 17 Aug. 2000. Web. 25 Nov. 2012.http://academic.brooklyn.cuny.edu/english/melani/cs6/love.html>.

Male Courts Female, Female Courts Male: Modern Courtship In our society, it is not unusual for a woman to ask a man out. SURVEY: how many girls would ask out a boy? In a survey of 32 girls… 18 14 Said YES, they would Said NO, they would ask out a boy. not ask out a boy. http://wonderfulpresentsformen.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/09/2.-Girl-Gives-Guy-A-Present.jpg http://www.glamour.com/sex-love-life/blogs/smitten/2012/04/27/0427-guy-giving-girl-roses_sm.jpg

http://www.google.com/imgres?q=to+the+virgins+to+make+much+of+time&um=1&hl=en&client=safari&sa=N&tbo=d&rls=en&biw=2467&bih=1242&tbm=isch&tbnid=z1L-xmFAIPpxLM:&imgrefurl=http://www.docstoc.com/docs/84034986/To-the-Virgins-to-Make-Much-of-Time(3)&docid=hQrjrDpdxsibMM&imgurl=http://img.docstoccdn.com/thumb/orig/84034986.png&w=1275&h=1650&ei=bFu1UIjFAoiu8ASvwIDACg&zoom=1&iact=rc&dur=758&sig=107841264822469826632&page=1&tbnh=145&tbnw=113&start=0&ndsp=113&ved=1t:429,r:22,s:0,i:157&tx=36&ty=56http://www.google.com/imgres?q=to+the+virgins+to+make+much+of+time&um=1&hl=en&client=safari&sa=N&tbo=d&rls=en&biw=2467&bih=1242&tbm=isch&tbnid=z1L-xmFAIPpxLM:&imgrefurl=http://www.docstoc.com/docs/84034986/To-the-Virgins-to-Make-Much-of-Time(3)&docid=hQrjrDpdxsibMM&imgurl=http://img.docstoccdn.com/thumb/orig/84034986.png&w=1275&h=1650&ei=bFu1UIjFAoiu8ASvwIDACg&zoom=1&iact=rc&dur=758&sig=107841264822469826632&page=1&tbnh=145&tbnw=113&start=0&ndsp=113&ved=1t:429,r:22,s:0,i:157&tx=36&ty=56 Music/Poetry: Medieval Courtship Men used poetry and music to win over women. The poem “To the Virgins, to Make Much of Time” is aimed at boys sleeping with girls. This poem is written to the virgins (young girls) of the world. Herrick is implying that the virgins should get married while they are still young, beautiful and capable of having children.

Music: Modern Courtship http://images2.fanpop.com/images/photos/6400000/-Usher-usher-6465568-1280-1024.jpg I see you over there so hypnotic, Thinkin' 'bout what I'd do to that body, I'll getchu like ooh baby baby, ooh baby baby A-ooh baby baby, ooh baby baby Got no drink in my hand, but I'm wasted Gettin' drunk off the thought of you naked I'll getchu like ooh baby baby, ooh baby baby A-ooh baby baby, ooh baby baby And I've tried to fight it, to fight it But you're so magnetic, magnetic Got one life, just live it, just live it Now relax and get on your back Popular music heard on the radio today talks about guys trying to “get with girls” in crude or even dirty ways. Ex: “Scream” By: Usher, talks about seeing a girl, and wanting to get with her and do sexual things. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qnjqNHB1bKw A portion of Usher’s “Scream” lyrics

Music: Modern Courtship A Portion of John Mayer’s “Edge of Desire” Lyrics Don't say a word, just come over and lie here with me 'Cause I'm just about to set fire to everything I see I want you so bad, I'll go back on the things I believe There I just said it, I'm scared you'll forget about me So young and full of running All the way to the edge of desire Steady my breathing, silently screaming I have to have you now Also, like poetry in the Middle Ages, modern day rock stars write songs about women to woo them. John Mayer’s song “Edge of Desire” is one example. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IcZcd9ZuvqE John Mayer’s song is more poetic and lyrical,but is still a modern example about a singer/songwriter wanting to be with a woman. http://blogs.phoenixnewtimes.com/uponsun/john1.jpeg

Sex: Medieval Times http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_l4z_uk_P7MU/TQfdcwTuDGI/AAAAAAAAI1M/Ct0eIMe8f3A/s1600/Canterbury.jpg http://www.maidenhead-drama.co.uk/past/canterbury_tales.jpg Sex, and stories about sex were seen as funny, or silly during the Middle Ages. In “The Millers Tale”, the characters saw sex as humorous content and talked about it in their stories because it was funny and entertaining.

Sex: Modern Times http://collegecandy.files.wordpress.com/2012/01/glamour.jpg?w=600&h=337 In our society today, sex is not seen as humorous. It can be seen as a status symbol or even similar to a contest sometimes. People are judged on who they have sex with, the amount of people they have sex with and many other factors. Sex is such a common topic today that tabloids even have articles about sex advice for women and men.

Behavior Medieval Times Modern Times Today,when men are in love they become cocky, and arrogant. • When men were in love, they would act sickly, and seem weak when around the woman. • Lovesickness http://www.domestic-executive.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2009/05/dsc_7234.jpg http://www.girlwithnoname.com/images/Cocky-Muscular-Man.jpg http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/b/bf/The_Lovesickness_of_Frey.jpg

Courtship in the 20th Century Here is a look at dating in the 80’s and 90’s from the perspective of my parents! “It was very formal back then. You would be asked out either by note, on the phone, or face to face.” “You would always have your friends check out the situation to see if the girl/guy liked you back, so that you wouldn’t embarrass yourself.” “You had to wait for the phone call and worry if you would be by the phone. Basically you would sit by the phone and wait. If your parents answered the phone, it was pretty embarrassing.” “Dates were very formal. Boys would go to the girls house, meet the parents, be drilled by the father and mother. They would always ask where they were going and what time the girl would be home.” “A typical date would usually consist of dinner and a movie.”

Petrarch: LOVE http://www.biography-center.com/images/petrarch.jpg Italian scholar and poet Was famous for poetry and wrote how to woo Thought that true love should be distant Said that the idea of love is always bigger http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Petrarch http://www.biography-center.com/images/petrarch.jpg

Compared to Medieval times, the styles of love and courtship today have been changed drastically and have evolved to fit our modern society. http://www.karamayphotography.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2012/02/the-end-.jpg

MEDIEVAL vs. MODERN