Chapter 2

1. Chapter 2 Responsibilities of Parenting

2. Chapter Objectives • Explain who can benefit from knowing about child development and parenting. • Describe the five areas of responsibilities for parents • Identify pressures involved in sexual development • Summarize the benefits of abstinence • Describe the possible consequences of sexual activity • Compare and contrast the options to a teen parent • Explain what it means to be sexually responsible

3. 2.1 Parenting and families • Preparation For Parenthood • Being a parent is a job unlike any other. • On call 24 hours a day; 7 days a week • Rewarding • Parenting is the process of caring for children and helping them grow and develop. • Require knowing and understanding a child’s needs and then meeting them • Good Judgment • Most important role a person can have in life • Few people are trained or educated

4. Having reasonable expectations • “act your age.” • “How old are you, anyway?” • “Would you grow up?” • Many parents make remarks such as these • Impact on a child? • How does it make someone feel? • Not all children progress at the same rate; parents need to be aware of each individual child's development

5. Parenthood readiness • People considering parenthood should take a close close at all that parenting involves. • Emotional Maturity, health considerations, financial concerns, managing personal resources • Children DESERVE to be born to parents who are READY for parenthood. • EMOTIONAL MATURITY • Being responsible enough to consistently put someone else's needs before your own. • Secure enough to devote their attention to a child. • Control their temper (crying, breaking things, etc.) • Prospective- are you sure you are ready for all of the challenges ahead?

6. Health considerations • Both parents should have a medical check up before deciding to conceive a child. • Some medical problems can affect the health of a baby or the parent’s ability to care for a child. • Under 17 or over 35- Complications • Pregnant teens: are less likely to get proper nutrition, gain adequate weight, and seek good prenatal care. • Over 35 • Greater risk of developing diabetes and high blood pressure • Greater risk of children with birth defects

7. Financial concerns • Raising a child is EXPENSIVE • Clothes, health care, food, equipment, and a lot of other expenses. (Childcare) • RESOURCE MANAGEMNT SKILLS • 1. Set Goals: what is important – wants vs. needs • 2. Identify Resources: Make a list of resources needed to achieve goal • 3. Make a plan • 4. Put the plan in action • 5. Re-evaluate from time to time.

8. Parenting skills • Can parenting be learned??? • YES IT CAN! • Ways to build parenting skills: • Read reliable books, magazine articles, and online information about parenting. • Gain experiences working with or caring for children • Ask the advice of family and friends who have parenting experience • Observe parents and children whenever and wherever possible. • The more experience you can get, the more ideas and strategies you will have for numerous situations.

9. Stages of parenthood • Insert picture from textbook

10. Parenting responsibilities and rewards • New Responsibilities • Takes time to get used to new responsibilities and finding balance • Lifestyle Changes • Major adjustments to daily lives. • Caring for a child takes a huge amount of time and energy, • Newborns need to be feed every couple of hours • Parents have less time to themselves, and with friends

11. Emotional Adjustments • Emotional changes can be very stressful • Many parents feel conflicting, and sometimes difficult emotions, such as: • Fear of not being a good parent • Frustration at the loss of personal freedom • Worry about money • Jealousy of baby and attention he or she gets from the other parent, friends, and relatives. • Depression due to exhaustion and the physical changes of pregnancy and birth. • Relationship Changes • Parents can feel overwhelmed. • Lack of Sleep • Dynamic of relationships

12. EMPLOYMENT ADJUSTMENTS • Some parents stop working or cut back on their hours to care for their children. • Employers can be flexible, allow you to work at home, etc. • LEGAL RESPONSIBILITIES • Food, Shelter, Clothing, medical Care, Education, and Legal help. • Physically fathers can walk away from parenthood more easily than mothers. • Law holds them equally responsibly • Legally required to provide support until child turns 18 • Doesn’t matter age, etc.

13. Rewards of parenting • There is nothing like a baby’s first smile or hearing a toddler say I LOVE YOU. • Parents feel happiness, pride, and love that they have never felt before.

14. 2.2 teen parenthood • SEXUAL DEVELOPMENT • Teens become physically able to reproduce and have an increased interest in the opposite gender. • Choosing to make responsible decisions about sexual behavior is part of becoming mature.

15. Sexuality • Sexuality is your beliefs and values about sexual behavior. • Involves more than physical maturity or the ability to be sexually active. • Includes how people feel about themselves and their sense of responsibility • Adolescence is a time when boys and girls begin to develop their sense of sexuality. • Hormone- is a chemical in the body that controls the changes that occur as teens become sexually mature. • SEXUAL PRESSURES • Social development is on high gear during puberty • Teens questions authority and listen to their peers • Messages from media • Dating and Intimacy • FAMILY VALUES/INFLUENCES?

16. ABSTINENCE • Abstinence is a deliberate decision to avoid high-risk behaviors, including sexual activity and the use of tobacco, alcohol, and other drugs. • Abstinence is NOT ALWAYS EASY.. Here are tips to stick with your decisions. • Talk about your feelings before you get in an intimate situation. • Say no to any situation that does not feel right. • Show affection in nonsexual ways. ABSTAINING FROM SEXUAL ACTIVITY IS THE ONLY GUARENTEEED WAY OF AVOIDING DISEASE AND PREGNANCY. • AVOID!!!!!! • “IT CAN’T HAPPEN TO ME” ATTITUDE.

17. CONSEQUENCES OF SEXUAL ACTIVITY • SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED INFECTIONS (STI) • Is a disease that is spread from one person to another by sexual contact. • Also called Sexually transmitted diseases (STD) • 1 in 5 people • Completely preventable- abstinence

18. Hiv/aids • Acquired immune deficiency syndrome (AIDS) • Caused by the human immunodeficiency virus (HIV) • HIV can stay in a person’s blood for many years before it develops into AIDS. • AIDS does not directly kill its victims, it allows other diseases to enter the body. • NO KNOWN CURE 

19. SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED INFECTIONS • INSERT PICTURE FROM TEXTBOOK HERE.

20. Pregnancy • Possible consequence of sexual activity. Teen pregnancy creates four basic problems. • Health Risks • Teen is not yet emotionally stable • Serious Medical conditions/complications • Babies from teen mothers are more likely be low in birth weight • Educational Challenges • Continuing education • Job-Money? • Financial Issues • Medical care • Both parents legally responsible • Parternity- legal identification of a man as the biological father of a child. • Emotional and Social Stress

21. Teen parenting options • Marriage • Commitment, responsibility, work • Possible Problems? • Single Parenthood • Responsibility, Time management, Financial Support • Adoption • Birth mother and father give up their rights and responsibilities for raising the child to another family. • Difficult decision • Confidential Adoption :is an adoption in which the birth parents do not know he names of the adoptive parents. There is no exchange of information after the adoption. • Open Adoption: is an adoption in which the birth parents and adoptive parents know something about each other. • There are different levels of how open the adoption is.

22. Take responsibility • What does it mean to be sexually responsible? • Knowing the facts about sexuality • Knowing the outcomes of your decisions/actions • Knowing your values and living by them • Many people are willing to wait until they have a relationship built on fidelity. • Fidelity: is faithfulness to an obligation, duty, or trust.