Bullying

1. Bullying

2. How do you picture bullying? • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gWl0kSG4FP0&list=LLQY9xw7lqYuPqcHCAtDHKLQ • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jEiadfGehKU&list=LLQY9xw7lqYuPqcHCAtDHKLQ

3. Bullying: To influence others through force or threat of force. • Nearly one-third (approximately 33%) of American teens are involved in bullying. • In a recent study, 13% of teens admit to bullying, 11% admit to being bullied and 6% have been bullied and also bully others. • Bullying is a form of intimidation that may be verbal, nonverbal or physical.

4. Examples of verbal bullying: • Threaten someone • Force someone to do or not to do something • Tease maliciously • Dare a person to do or not to do something • Put someone down • Try to influence what others think about another person or group • Spreading rumors • Make fun of someone’s physical size, appearance or ability • Dictate what others will do or even wear

5. Examples of Nonverbal Bullying: • Ignoring or excluding someone from a group or an activity • Using nonverbal put-downs (with body language)

6. Examples of Physical Bullying: • Stealing or destroying property • Pushing/fighting or hurting someone • Surrounding a person with a group • Cornering a person in a hallway or classroom • Intentionally bumping into someone

7. Possible feelings of people who intimidate or bully others: • Insecure and unsure about how to relate to others • Frustrated by failed relationships • Lonely and angry • Fearful that others will hurt them so they hurt others first • Desire or need to feel important • Desire or need to feel in control • Low self confidence

8. Possible feelings of people who are being intimidated or bullied: • Fearful and scared • Angry and frustrated • Sad and lonely • Resentful of others who are not standing up for them • Revengeful • Embarrassed • Low self-esteem and confidence

9. There are things you can do to deflect people who bully: • Walk away if you can • Stay confident. If a person who bullies feels that they don't have any power over you, it takes the 'fun' out of it for them. • Stay positive. It can be hard to remember all your good points when someone is doing their best to be negative. • Hang around with friends or an adult at times when you're most in danger of being bullied. • Don't fight back. It can make the situation worse. • Tell someone you trust, a teacher or adult.

10. Bullying Bystanders • Bullying situations usually involve more than the bully and the victim. They also involve bystanders—those who watch bullying happen or hear about it.  • Depending on how bystanders respond, they can either contribute to the problem or the solution. Bystanders rarely play a completely neutral role, although they may think they do.

11. Why don’t more bystanders intervene?  • They think, “It’s none of my business.” • They fear getting hurt or becoming another victim.  • They feel powerless to stop the bully.     • They don’t like the victim or believe the victim “deserves” it. • They don’t want to draw attention to themselves. • They fear retribution. • They think that telling adults won’t help or it may make things worse. • They don’t know what to do.

12. Hurtful Bystanders                           • Some bystanders . . . instigate the bullying by prodding the bully to begin. • Other bystanders . . . encourage the bullying by laughing, cheering, or making comments that further stimulate the bully.  • And other bystanders . . . joinin the bullying once it has begun.  • Most bystanders . . . passively accept bullying by watching and doing nothing. Often without realizing it, these bystanders also contribute to the problem. Passive bystanders provide the audience a bully craves and the silent acceptance that allows bullies to continue their hurtful behavior.

13. Helpful Bystanders      • Bystanders also have the power to play a key role in preventing or stopping bullying.  • Some bystanders . . . directly intervene, by discouraging the bully, defending the victim, or redirecting the situation away from bullying. • Other bystanders . . .  get help, by rallying support from peers to stand up against bullying or by reporting the bullying to adults. 

14. Cyberbullying • Refers to any incident in which a person is tormented, embarrassed, harassed or threatened by another person through the use of technology ---- whether by internet, instant message, text message, digital photo, interactive gaming forum or other interactive technologies. • 33% of young people have been cyberbullied • 50% of students say cyberbullying is worse than real-life bullying • Girls are significantly more likely to be cyberbullied than boys • BOYS (1:37) http://www.netsmartz.org/RealLifeStories/CantTakeItBack • GIRLS (2:19) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T6r-D-GGaM0

15. Taking a stand against cyberbullying • Refuse to pass along messages you receive. • Refuse to view or contribute to cruel websites, polls or comments. • Tell an adult

16. Cliques and Friendship Groups • A clique is a group of friends that leave other kids out on purpose. • One or two kids who have been deemed ‘popular’ usually run a clique. • A friendship group is not a clique but a group of peers that have developed a friendship out of shared interests, sports, activities, classes, neighborhoods or even family connections. • A friendship group does not leave others out on purpose.