WICT: What Happy Working Mothers Know Webinar # 5

1. Resolutions to Be HAPPY in 2010 WICT:What Happy Working Mothers KnowWebinar # 5 Cathy L. Greenberg Barrett S. Avigdor

2. What are your New Year’s resolutions? • We will need a couple of volunteers to help • Would you say your resolutions are easy or difficult to keep? • Are they aligned to your values? • Do you need to re-phrase your resolution to be closer to your values? • Try it and see if you like it…better

3. New Year’s Resolution • Make yourself happy by aligning your time more closely to your values • Are you being deliberate about where you spend your time or are you being reactive? • Look back on your week and see where you spent your time? • Look at the weeks ahead and see where you can be more purposeful and work to your values rather than be reactive to others.

4. Values and Your Happiness:The Strange Connection • A “Presidential” story • Under-utilized capacity, but still basically happy because she made a choice to stay home and raise her daughter • Living to your values truly will: • Engage your self respect and acceptance • Decrease judgment of others

5. Judging and Being Judged • When was the last time you felt harshly judged by someone else? • Who were they and what was your relationship to them? • What were you doing? • Do you believe they were/are living in alignment with their true values?

6. The “Mother Standard” What do you value most about you? • Loyalty, unconditional love, safe space, etc. • Living your life aligned to your values is really the ultimate act of self love. (* Daily Worth Newsletter- Gretchen Rubin, “when people wish they are different from who they are- they spend a lot of money on fantasies trying to be someone they’re not” • If you could be the person your Mother loves what would you most value about you right now? • Why don’t you?

7. Fall in love with who you are – not who you want to be • If you were to fall in love with yourself – which aspects of yourself would you start with? • The aspects you choose are reflections of your true values (not what others think of you) • Be sure you love yourself for your values

8. Align Your Resolution's to Your Values: An Exercise • List your top 3 attributes and compare how you use them with your top 3 values • What percentage of time do you spend on these attributes and values? • What can you do differently to align yourself more closely to your top values?

9. Values and Happiness • When you align time/energy to your values, you naturally feel happier and that happiness creates energy for a more resilient “you” (Happiness = Joy = Engagement = Performance) • What happens when you have to do things that are not aligned to your values?

10. 21 Days to “Stop The Drain” • We are almost 21 days into the New Year • It takes 21 days to start a new habit. • If you feel drained by an activity or action, stop, assess your situation and be honest – Why do you need to do this - if so - what is it actually providing for you in the long run.

11. Make the Commitment to Honor Your Resolutions with Your Values Check in on your resolutions – be honest Are they matched to your values and your key attributes for success – at home or at work? Make a plan to engage more energy creating activities and reduce opportunities for “drain” Live your true values – not someone else’s See the energy shift – it makes keeping your resolutions possible and creates more energy for your life, your dreams and your success!

12. QUESTIONS & COMMENTS