This first half Starters brief overview self-esteem & leadership Then 3 Options

1. This first half Starters brief overview self-esteem & leadership Then 3 Options Remain in here - Self –skills & facilitative leadership , Servant leadership Facilitated discussion with Rick on self-esteem issues in Noble Firs Self-directed discussion in groups (cafe style) 10.40 Everyone – back here for feedback

2. Summary of previous session

3. We ended with... The link between unity, mission & the character traits (self-skills) this landscape of the Spirit requires ...with all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love, making every effort to maintain the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.

4. Particular character traits needed particularly in our cultural landscape

5. Leadership & self-esteem What are the relevant issues to consider here? Any thoughts or observations?

6. Leadership & self-esteem Related themes Shame (felt in relation to others) Skem Adam and Eve ‘Narcissistic wound’ Secondary narcissism - older children and adults seek personal gratification over the achievement of social goals and conformance to social values.

7. RELEVANT FACTORS

8. RELEVANT FACTORS

9. RELEVANT FACTORS

10. How might we help ourselves and our co-leaders? What practical steps can we take?

11. STEPS TO TAKE

12. Covered more in other units on leadership formation:

13. Finally... Do accept praise graciously but don’t become addicted to it: ‘Applause: enjoy every moment of it, but never believe it.’ Oscar Wilde

15. Session 2 Poor self-esteem

16. Self–skills & facilitative/empowering leadership

17. Self–skills & facilitative/empowering leadership Past models (pre-modernity)

18. Self–skills & facilitative/empowering leadership current models (emerged in modernity) The ideal leader = good at one of the above + has a demonstrable devotional life

19. Current leadership paradigm Is there a different paradigm? THE FOCUS OF LEADERSHIP THE MINISTER(S) Focuses on church questions NOT QUITE SO IMPORTANT PEOPLE

20. Puts mission questions at the apex THE MINISTERS Still important because they equip church members to ‘do the work of ministry’ Eph 4: 11-16

21. A Catholic Perspective Pope John Paul II identified two fundamental priorities of evangelization - “solid and deep formation” and a “strong testimony.”

22. WHICH MODEL DOES YOUR CHURCH OR ORGANISATION EXPECT? • WHAT ARE THE CHALLENGES FOR YOU?

23. Does facilitative leadership have a theological rationale, apart from Eph 4 (which can be used as a proof text)? The day of Pentecost 50 days after deliverance / the exodus (parallels with Calvary) they came to Sinai. Sinai - The giving of the Law – which then made them a kingdom of priests (intermediaries) Sinai - Fire (lightning) and noise (thunder) Pentecost - Tongues of fire and mighty wind

24. ...Pentecost The Spirit given to all The Law written within each person through the Spirit Each person now a priest (standing between God and others) What are the implications of this for leadership? Any thoughts?

26. FACILITATIVE (EMPOWERING)LEADERSHIP • negatively... • Is not about having all the answers which may frustrate people (the drive to appear omniscient) • Is not about doing what people want us to do, which also might frustrate people (avoiding the drive to be popular) • But neither is it about denying our knowledge, expertise etc (false humility)

27. FACILITATIVE (EMPOWERING)LEADERSHIP • positively... • It is about doing what we believe will facilitate discipleship – i.e. formation of people both spiritually and in terms of personal maturity. • It is about helping people develop and express their charisms (helps, prophecy, mercy etc). • It is about helping others to become servants in the way their exercise their charisms. • It is about shaping systems (groups etc) which will facilitate community formation, create alliances between people etc...

28. FACILITATIVE (EMPOWERING)LEADERSHIP • Two questions: • Is empowering leadership the same as delegation, or is it different? • How to do it in practice?

29. FACILITATIVE (EMPOWERING)LEADERSHIP • How to... • Deal with: ‘What if they are better than me?’ • Get to know people – gifts, capacity, aspirations • Learn to ask the ‘impossible dream’ question • Begin to differentiate between pipe dreams & people who are willing to make a difference • Don’t feel responsible for entitled demanders

30. FACILITATIVE (EMPOWERING)LEADERSHIP • Concentrate on people who are joined to the church community (somewhere) • Don’t discount people who might not look like leadership material (example – P S) • Take the risk • Pray for them, give them a book, equip them in some way that does not make you too prominent • Don’t try to realise people’s visions for them

31. FACILITATIVE (EMPOWERING)LEADERSHIP A leader is best when people barely know he exists, when his work is done, his aim fulfilled, they will say: we did it ourselves. Lao-Tsu

32. You know that the rulers of the Gentiles lord it over them, and their high officials exercise authority over them. Not so with you. Instead whoever wants to become great amongst you must be your servant, and whosever wants to be first must be your slave. (Matthew 20:25-26).

33. Points to note: This is in response to their experience of leadership in their own culture, where Rome ruled over a slave economy with a rod of iron. Would Jesus say something different in a culture where leaders were often treated as existing purely to meet the demands of their followers? All Christians are called to be servants, not just leaders. The servanthood of leaders should never be seen as a special level of discipleship – this would denigrate those who serve in other ways.

34. Which comes first Leadership or servanthood? NOT: MORE LIKE THIS:

36. Marks of Servant Leadership • Menial tasks ---------- A here-for-others focus • We primarily express servanthood through leading well • We lead with the attitude that status is unimportant • Those we serve are not our masters • Openness to others doesn’t mean we will inevitably do what they suggest we should do (doorkeeper vs doormat)

37. The Status Syndrome • ‘Everyone who exalts himself will be humbled and he who humbles himself will be exalted’ (Luke 14:11) • The Basin and The Towel • What are the status symbols used in your church to identify leaders (you may think there are none – but think carefully)? • What effect have they had on you and how do you deal with their potential to separate you from those you lead?