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Shared Parenting

The Center for Alternative Parenting provides counseling and support for individuals seeking to co-parent without the requirement of marriage or cohabitation. Their goal is to help participants establish shared parenting agreements that suit their needs and prioritize the well-being of their child.

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Shared Parenting

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  1. Shared Parenting The Center for Alternative Parenting Racheli Bar-Or | Gidi Shavit 053-4266496 horut.acheret@gmail.com www.alp.org.il

  2. The Center for Alternative Parentingwas established by Racheli Bar-Or and Gidi Shavit in 1994.By January 2017, some 500 children had been bornas a result of the Center’s activities. Aims of the Center for Alternative Parenting: • Provide a center for gay men and straight and gay women seeking the opportunity to parent without the requirement of marriage and/or cohabitation • Provide counselling and support to establish, develop and create shared parenting. • Enable participants to choose a framework for parenting that suits them (this includes single parenthood or non-parenting).

  3. Basic Assumptions of theCenter for Alternative Parenting • The need for self-continuitythrough parenting exists among men and women alike. • People have the basic right to parent regardless of marital status or any wish to live as a couple. • Every child born to the family structure we offer has a father and a mother who recognize him/her as their child. • Every child in our family structure has the right to know both of her/his parents.

  4. Basic Assumptions of theCenter for Alternative Parenting • The activity of parenting is shared and divided between two parents, including conception and concern for the physical, emotional and material well-being of the child. • It is the parents’ right to select a relational context that suits them, though always putting the well-being of their child first. • Participation in parental responsibility does not necessarily require marriage or sexual relations, but it does require participatory relations, mutual respect and care and good communication.

  5. Route to Shared Parentingvia the Center for Alternative Parenting Getting-to-know- you meeting Facilitated group meeting Enrolment + participation Initial approach Singing the agreement independently Finalizing the parenting agreement Finding a parenting partner Meeting the partner’s family + friends Guidance and support as required throughout the process Birth Conception Pregnancy

  6. Central Pillars of the Agreement FINANCIAL ARRANGEMENTS Joint bank account for the needs of the child to which both parents contribute (in accordance with their respective incomes) And from which both can draw funds. VISITATION RIGHTS These are arranged according to months and years, in line with the child’s needs and development. DISTANCE BETWEEN HOMES Agree on the maximum distance between the parents’ respective homes. CONSULTATION Agreement and adherence to shared consultation in cases of difference of opinions.

  7. Counselling Process Leading to theSigning of a Binding Agreement • Each of the partners determines his and her own optimal conditions for shared parenting, and together they assess various sample agreements, such as those available on the internet. • The partners receive counselling on the psychological and material implications of their suggestions and agreements. • From the suggestions raised by both partners, the counselling process enables them to agree on the basis of what will become their first creation – a signed and binding agreement. • The partners finalize the agreement. The clarity of this process, the way it is completed and signed should facilitate good future collaboration of the parenting team well into the years of raising their child.

  8. Goals of the Detailed and Binding Agreement • Matching the expectations of both the future parents. • Sharing observation and dialogue regarding relations between the partners. • Establishing a safe dialogue to ensure good listening and flexibility between the partners. • Taking discussions about the future child from fantasy to reality. • Establishing the paramount importance of building good relations between the partners to ensure the mental well-being of future children.

  9. Goals of the Detailed and Binding Agreement/2 • Provide a stable robust safety net. • Clarify and safeguard the rights and responsibilities of the partners, including during times of tension. • Take responsibility for building a shared parenting team which is both active and supportive. • Ensure the process of consultation regarding the agreement serves as a model for dialogue between the parents as needs and desires change. • Experience in negotiating material and emotional issues. • Create a secure mechanism for resolving future differences.

  10. The Final Outcome An agreement, formulated and signed by the parties themselves, within a consultative process that creates interpersonal dynamics for coping with difficulties and resolving conflict. The parties may submit the agreement to the Family Court and with its approval the agreement will be validated by the court’s judgement. Consultation for the formulation of agreements is given to all applicants,whether or not they are members of the Center for Alternative Parenting

  11. The Binding Nature of the Agreement From the ruling by Judge Ben Ari, July 5th 2007: "... regarding the matter of weight and significance that must be attributed to the agreement signed by both parents ... It is impossible to annul the value of the commitment the mother has taken upon herself when she signed the agreement even before the child was born. This "travel visa" that, only when it was issued and signed, signified the parents' agreement to undertake the long journey of raising children together... ... The talk of freedom of movement, human dignity, the right to self-development, and such issues, are all important values ​​both in ourpublic and personal lives, and their full weight endures long after humanity recognizes the obligation to uphold agreements derived from consent and will."

  12. Shared Parenting The Center for Alternative Parenting Racheli Bar-Or | Gidi Shavit 053-4266496 horut.acheret@gmail.com www.alp.org.il

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