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How is Your Vision of Success and Influence Changing? Developing Strategies that Work for You. 6/25/13 Janet Bickel Career and Leadership Development Coach . Individual Reflection followed by Discussion in Trios. What does Success mean to you now?. Success “Traps”
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How is Your Vision of Success and Influence Changing?Developing Strategies that Work for You 6/25/13 Janet Bickel Career and Leadership Development Coach
Individual Reflection followed byDiscussion in Trios What does Success mean to you now?
Success “Traps” • Thinking of success and failure as opposites • Unfettered commitmentexpected • Past successes breed expectations • Boss wants to know what you’ll do for her tomorrow • Unrealistic metrics • No inspiring role models?
Success = (Purpose x Talent) Culture
you Goals Aligned? Department Organization
Why do Women often shy away from Organizational Politics? • Less alignment between their approaches and values and typical organizational practices • Under-estimate their own abilities • Need to please, make others comfortable • Less likely to be effectively mentored • Less “social capital” • Fewer role models
Increasing your Organizational Savvy *Build your capacity for competition and unpredictability *Try to see your assumptions and ask more questions *Study how people interpret their roles *Differentiate between what you can and cannot influence *Discover and build on shared commitments *Reflect on and learn from surprises and feedback *Build relationship-centered communication skills
What does Power mean to you? What are your assumptions about power? ------------------------------------------------------------ Categories of power: *positional *expertise/competency *relationships with stakeholders and connectors *strong connection • with a deep purpose
“Influence” Self-Assessment 1) How effectively do you? • Use meetings as learning opportunities • Listen to unfamiliar as well as familiar voices • Encourage collaborations • Notice and recognize others' contributions • Bridge all kinds of differences 2) How might you expand your influence in the directions of greatest meaning to you?
Managing “Up” *develop a pattern of interaction with your boss that produces the best results *let your boss know about your successes Seek to understand her: Goals, priorities, pressures Limitations and blindspots Preferences re communications NB: You don’t need to like your boss
From your boss’s point of view: • What will you do for me tomorrow? • Do you communicate effectively? • Do you keep the boss informed? • Use boss’s time well? • Do you express appreciation? • Solicit and use feedback? • Bring solutions to problems? • How do you handle disagreements?
Speaking up about Your Goals and Accomplishments Problem/Opportunity • What needs to be fixed? • What are the opportunities and challenges? Action: What will you do? Result/Benefit: What difference willyou make?
PRACTICE TIME • You are sharing a 30-story elevator with your new boss. She says “Please tell me about your work.” • Using a PAR, make a positive, memorable first impression. • Close with a bridging question
Resilience depends on: • cognition: free of arrogance and nostalgia • strategies: experimenting with alternatives, building community • risk-taking: improvising, inventing options • physical health • spirit: living your values • reflection and renewal: giving yourself time to connect to deeper purpose/creativity
Top Derailers of Careers of Leaders/Managers • lack of emotional intelligence • not reflecting on what drives you • not producing results • avoids risks • unable to adapt to change • failing to build an effective team • lack of integrity Source: Center for Creative Leadership
Emotional Intelligence (EQ) --To be aware of & understand my own & other’s emotions --To effectively manage my emotionsin relationships • In many performance areas, EQ matters TWICE as much as technical expertise or IQ • The more complex the work, dependent on others to get the job done and degree of stress, the more EQ matters
Career Derailers [cont.] • Isolated • Arrogant/Defensive • Overdepends on one boss or mentor • Overdepends on a single skill • Politically naive • Ignores feedback
In Trios: Please discuss the question most important to you • Which derailer poses the biggest threat to you? • How might you improve your focus on what’s most important to you? • What can you subtract or STOP doing? * What personal characteristics or competing commitments stand in your way?
*Use this opportunity to practice a difficult conversation related to expanding your influence*Name 1 action you will take based on an insight you've gained today.