SCPS Bullying Policy

2. SCPS Bullying Policy Defines Bullying and Harassment Examples • Teasing (unwanted/taunting) • Social Exclusion • Threat • Intimidation • Stalking • Physical Violence • Theft • Sexual, Religious, or Racial Harassment • Public Humiliation • Destruction of Property Even Cyber-bullying

3. MYTH: It’s a normal part of growing up, it makes you stronger Truth: The damage is real & it can last… • Effects on Targets • missing school out of fear • trouble studying • reduced academic success • trouble sleeping • depression • wanting revenge • suicidal thoughts

4. What is Bullying? R Repeated Imbalance of Power I P Purposeful

5. Bullying Repeated Harming of Others Use of Words or Physical Aggression Face to Face or Cyber Unfair Advantage Individual or Group KEYS: REPEATED, HARM, UNFAIR

6. Types of Bullying Verbal • Name-calling • Teasing • Insulting Physical • Hitting, kicking, or • pushing someone...or even • just threatening to do it • Hitting, kicking, or pushing someone...or • even just threatening to do it • Making someone do things he or • she doesn’t want to do Emotional • Stealing, hiding or ruining someone's things • Refusing to talk to someone • Spreading lies or rumors about someone • Mocking • Putting down • Ignoring

7. Other TYPES of bullying Cyber • May be ANONYMOUS • May occur off school property • Further under the radar than bullying • Ethnic minority children are at risk for racial bullying • Name calling is one common technique • Taunts can be directed to family members or ethnic group Ethnic

8. WHO is involved? The Bullying Triangle BULLY TARGETS VICTIM BYSTANDER

9. The Bystanders Two types Identifies with bully and may help Identifies with victim and feels immobilized Enjoys the bullying Has mixed feelings and can see the problem but may fear to actively intervene. Avoids the situation or tries to minimize it

10. Why don’t some Bystanders Intervene? • Myth/Fear: • It will make it worse if I ask for help • Fear of being seen as a Snitch • Fear of becoming next target • I can’t trust authority figures • It won’t make a difference • No one will like me if I say something “In the end we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends.” —Dr. Martin Luther King.

11. MYTH: It’s not hurting ME Truth: Bullying hurts everyone, even the BYSTANDERS who are... • afraid that it will happen to them • helpless to do anything about it • guilt for not helping the victim • educational/classroom disruption

12. CYBER-Bullying: Bullying meets Technology • Online anonymity gives: • -Confidence • No Empathy • New kind of freedom • Parents unaware • Spreads quickly! • Cyber bullying can be more damaging than face to face bullying • Longer duration • No Escape in the safety and security of your own home • Greater audience impact or perception audience size

13. Reporting Bullying at Milwee MS There are three ways that you can report bullying here at Milwee: 1. Tell any adult on campus (Principal, Asst. Principal, Dean, Counselor, Teacher) 2. Anonymously place a report into one of the two RISE Against Bullying boxes on campus. (Media Center and Front Office) 3. Anonymously report via the Milwee website under the bullying section.

14. Classroom Activity • Next you will watch several clips from popular movies and discuss their meaning as a group/class.

15. Forrest Gump (Sensitivity to Others) http://www.schoolclimate.org/bullybust/upstander/video-resources/forest-gump-pg-13 Go to the link above and view the short video as a class; then click to the next slide for discussion.

16. Forrest Gump (Sensitivity to Others) Each set of shoulder partners will select one question from below. One partner will share his/her answer for 1 minute and the other partner will share his/her answer for one minute. If called by the teacher, you will share the answer to your chosen question with the class. • Have you ever done a kind act to someone who no one likes? What did you do? How did it make you feel? • Have you even been in the situation where you are different from most of people or no one talks to you? How did you feel? • Why is it easier to be nice to someone who is different when you meet him or her alone than when you are with your friends? • Have you ever tried to hide your difference from your friends because of fear of exclusion?

17. Mean Girls (Cliques as Bullies) http://www.schoolclimate.org/bullybust/upstander/video-resources/mean-girls Go to the link above and view the short video as a class.

18. Mean Girls (Cliques as Bullies) This time, each set of face partners will select one question from below. One partner will share his/her answer for 1 minute and the other partner will share his/her answer for one minute. If called by the teacher, you will share the answer to your chosen question with the class. • What is a clique? • How can a clique be harmful? • How can cliques control you? • What are some methods to make sure we are being true to ourselves and not following someone else’s ideas of how we should act or what we should say?

19. Remember the Titans (Respect Differences) http://www.schoolclimate.org/bullybust/upstander/video-resources/remember-the-titans Go to the link above and view the short video as a class; then click to the next slide for discussion.

20. Remember the Titans (Respect Differences) This time we will have a class discussion. Be prepared to answer if you are called on. • What divisions do you see in your school or neighborhood? How can you overcome those divisions? • Why do you think people hang out with others who have the same race, religion, abilities, socio-economic class, or sexual orientations, etc.? • How do people form cliques?

21. The Ant Bully (Scapegoating) http://www.schoolclimate.org/bullybust/upstander/video-resources/the-ant-bully Go to the link above and view the short video as a class; then click to the next slide for discussion.

22. The Ant Bully (Scapegoating) This time, we will do a Round Robin with your table. Each person will have 1 minute to answer the questions below. Be prepared to share answers from your table if you are called on by your teacher. • In this film clip, why does Lucas turn on the ants instead of the bully? • How could he have reacted differently?

23. The Sandlot (Including Others) http://www.schoolclimate.org/bullybust/upstander/video-resources/the-sandlot Go to the link above and view the short video as a class; then click to the next slide for discussion.

24. The Sandlot (Including Others) In groups of four, each person will select a different question and answer it to their group using the Round Robin structure. If you are a group of three, each person choose one question to answer only using three of the questions. Be prepared to share with the class if called on. • Why are “the new kids” so often teased or picked on? • Have you ever been “the new kid” and tried to join a group? What did you do and happened? • How would you feel when you are a stranger when everyone seems to be very close to one another? • How do you want to be treated if you are a new kid in a class or club?

25. Think • Write • Pair • Share Take 10-15 minutes to think about a time when you experienced a situation of bullying either by being bullied or by being a bystander of bullying. What happened? What did you do about it? What could you have done differently to make the outcome better? Write one paragraph answering the question above. After you teacher has called time, be prepared to share your story with your shoulder partner. Your teacher will collect your paper after the activity.