Social Intelligence

1. Social Intelligence The New Science of Success Presented by: Alecko Eskandarian, Kam Yen Kwan, Trevina Lyiscott, Marco Ordonez, and Kelly Straube

2. S = Situational Awareness having a good situational radar means having a respectful interest in other people.

3. Six Points of Situational Awareness • Situational Dumbness and Numbness • Making the Worst of a Situation • Reading the Social Context • What to Look For • Navigating Cultures and Subcultures • Building the Skills of Situational Awareness

4. Making the worst of a situation Reading the Social Context

5. What should you look for? Three dimensional contexts: • The Proxemic Context • The Behavioral Context • The Semantic Context.

6. Six Points of Situational Awareness • Situational Dumbness and Numbness • Making the Worst of a Situation • Reading the Social Context • What to Look For • Navigating Cultures and Subcultures • Building the Skills of Situational Awareness

7. P = Presence the way you affect individuals or groups with the way you look, your attitude, demeanor, body language, and the space you occupy.

8. How do you determine Presence? • Attitude • Looks • Rules of Engagement • Ugly American Syndrome • More of You, Less of Me

9. A = AUTHENTICITY how honest and sincere you are with people and with yourself, in any given situation

10. Can you fake sincerity?

11. Are you true to yourself? • The Snap-On Smile • Left Handed Compliments • Narcissism • Puppy Dog Syndrome

12. Head Games, Power Struggles, and Manipulation • Learn indicators – complaining, whining, asking for sympathy, making you feel bad • Only way to win is simply not to play

13. Building the Skills of Authenticity

14. Building the Skills of Authenticity • Keep track of situations in which others induce you to contradict your personal values • Keep track of situations in which you felt uneasy about a choice you made • Make a list of your “emotional inputs” • Get a book about values and think through your primary values • Write a personal mission statement

15. Thinking of what is clarity?

16. So I looked it up in the dictionary…

17. C = Clarity the ability to express your thoughts, opinions, ideas, and intentions clearly “The difference between the right word and the almost-right word is like the difference between lightning and the lightning-bug.” Mark Twain

18. Points of Clarity • Hoof-in-mouth disease: Sometimes silence works best • Role-speak and Real-speak • Helicopter language and Elevator speeches • “Clean” and “Dirty” language

19. Points of Clarity (con’t) • Verbal Bludgeons • Taking a brain for a walk • The Power of Metaphor • Building the skills of Clarity

20. E = Empathy the state of feeling between two people, commonly referred to as a condition of rapport.

21. Empathy

22. Point of Empathy • The platinum rule • The Stone-Face syndrome • Empathy in Four Minutes First impression Pick up line syndrome Restart their relationships every time they meet Relationship maintenance

23. Social Intelligence

24. Special thanks to Maya Ordonez for making our signs