Pro Social Introduction Lesson 1

1. Pro SocialIntroduction Lesson 1 Interactions with Others Self-Control Understanding others’ feelings Fitting In Conversation Time Wrap Up

2. Pro-Social Group • Expectations • Show Respect- by listening, raising your hand, take turns speaking, sit up • Show Responsibility- by coming on time, having your DPR card ready. • Be Safe – Stay seated and place books/materials on the side. Remember Confidentiality What is said in the room stays in the room!

3. You will get a pass Period: 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 Show this pass to your teacher BEFORE leaving class Come to: Room 317 Room:________________ If this period is your lunch time please bring your lunch/drink Pro-Social Group • Students Name-### Students Name-### Students Name-### • Students Name-### Students Name-### Students Name-###

4. Student Name_____________________________Rater Name:__________________________ Week of ____/____/_____ This student is participating in our S/AIG Pro-Social Skills group. The targeted social skills are listed below. Using the provided criteria, rate the student’s use of the individual skills during this past week. 2 = Student exhibits skills all/most of the time 1 = Student exhibits skills half or less of the time 0 = Student exhibits skills rarely or not at all Pro-Social Group Weekly Progress Report /16 /16 /16 /16 /16 /80 PARENT SIGNATURE:______________________________ To be returned daily. Beth

5. Mondays: Card is sent to teachers • Teachers complete the card based on behavior presented that week. • Wednesday: Cards are returned to Mrs. Knief • Fridays: Cards are shared with you • Goal is 80% average for 4 weeks What happens with the WPR Card?

6. Pro SocialInteractions Lesson 1 Interactions with Others Self-Control Understanding others’ feelings Fitting In Conversation Time Wrap Up

7. Purpose: • To have students work together and see what social peer interactions skills they use to work together. • Activity: • Build a tower • Materials: • Indexcards • Directions: • Break students into equal groups. • Give each group a stack of index cards • Tell the groups that they are working together to build the tallest tower out of index cards. • Notes: Facilitator should look for the social skills peers are using with another, such as: • Observe group dynamics – Who takes charge? Is there discussion or does one person take over? Any positive or negative comments being said? **You may want to take some notes on your observations so that you can refer back to what you saw. Tower Game

8. Discussion How did you get started? How did you decide on the design? Was it easy to get started? Did your team agree right away on the plan?

9. Pro SocialSelf-Control/ListeningLesson 2 Interactions with Others Self-Control/Listening Understanding others’ feelings Fitting In Conversation Time Wrap Up

10. Pro-Social Group • Expectations • Show Respect- by listening, raising your hand, take turns speaking, sit up • Show Responsibility- by coming on time, having your DPR card ready. • Be Safe – Stay seated and place books/materials on the side. Remember Confidentiality What is said in the room stays in the room!

11. What is Self Control? Definition: The ability to demonstrate control over one’s emotions & reactions. Examples of non self control behaviors are: shouting out making sounds fighting giggling shutting down avoidance eating too much or not at all

12. Why do people lose control? • Sick • Tired • Sleepy • Heard bad news • Got into trouble • Experienced some sort of loss • Home troubles

13. How do you know when your about to loose control? Physical changes • Tense, hot, sweaty, fidgety and red color Emotional Changes • Sad, Bad Mood, Upset, Sarcasm, Joking, feeling Overwhelmed, Anxious Mental Changes • Negative thoughts, Racing Thoughts, Worry

14. Put on your thinking caps! Questions: 1. What would school, home and your community look like if no one had self control? (think of your relationships with your parents, teachers, peers) 2. Do you think its important to have self control? • 3. What can you do to ensure you don’t lose self control? • For example: A teacher tells you something, and you really didn’t hear what the teacher said, but all you hear is noise around you. What can you do? A: Ask the teacher to repeat him/her self A lot of times, misunderstandings occur because… • we don’t hear correctly • we don’t listen to what is being said.

15. Fun Activity Time • Story time: Pass Right/Pass Left • ACTIVITY: • Have your entire group form a circle. The best format is to have them seated on the floor sitting “Indian" style. If this will not work with your group, you can have them in chairs or even standing in a circle. Give each person in the circle a penny, card, or some other small item that can be passed easily from hand to hand. Tell the group that you are going to read them a story and every time they hear any word that sounds like right, they are to pass the button in their hand to he person on their right depending on what they heard. Start reading the story slowly so that they have a chance to catch on to what you want them to do. After a few passes stop the story and ask them how they are doing. Check to see that everyone has a button in his hand. If your group is typical, some will have two or three buttons and others will not have any. Have them redistribute the buttons so that everyone has one again. Now continue to read the story, getting faster as you go. Stop the story a couple of more times to check on how they are doing. • From the book: Activities that teach

16. Its not always easy! You’ve already mastered one skill: Listening….YEA! Why should you show respect, even if you feel its not being returned? Example: Some one is constantly talking and you want to say something:. What can you do? • Raise your hand • Wait till their done to speak • Say Excuse Me Demonstrating these respectful turn taking skills, will not only help you keep cool, but will show the other person you’re ABOVE them.

17. One More Skill!!! Wow, 2 skills down Listening & Taking Turns, one more!!!! STOP, THINK and REACT!!!!! Situation: • You wake up late for school and your mom is rushing you to hurry up. You find yourself feeling rushed and upset that your mom is yelling at you, when you already know your late You should?.....

18. You could …………….. • Stop: • STOP- (Count 1,2,3,…10) • Breath in and out • Think • Self Affirmations: “Its ok, I am late but I can do this, it will be ok, no need to get upset” • React • Acknowledge the situation with your mom • Try your best to hurry and let your mom know your going as fast as you can (Calmly)

19. You have mastered self-control!! • Listening • Taking turns • Stop-Think-React

20. Pro-Social Understanding the feelings of others Lesson 3 Interactions with Others Self-Control Understanding others’ feelings Fitting In Conversation Time Wrap Up

21. Pro-Social Group • Expectations • Show Respect- by listening, raising your hand, take turns speaking, sit up • Show Responsibility- by coming on time, having your DPR card ready. • Be Safe – Stay seated and place books/materials on the side. Remember Confidentiality What is said in the room stays in the room!

22. What do you see?

23. ???? • Why is it important to understand body language when speaking to someone? • Making Friends, talking to an adult, a peer in class. • What “Cues” will help you understand how someone else is feeling? • Tone of voice, posture and facial expression • Try to figure out what the other person might be feeling? • Angry, sad, happy, anxious, etc…

24. Body Language Speaks Volume? • http://www.howcast.com/videos/10608-How-To-Interpret-Body-Language

25. How to Tell! • How can you tell if someone is interested in what you have to say? • How do you know when is your turn to speak? • How do you know when its your turn to just sit back and listen?

26. Your turn • Role Play  How can you let the other person know you understand what they are feeling? • Nod your head • Keep good eye contact • Touch or don’t touch the person • Get closer or don’t get closer • Stay or walk away • Etc. Decide on what's the best way and do it!

27. Pro SocialFitting in Lesson 4 Interactions with Others Self-Control Understanding others’ feelings Fitting In Conversation Time Wrap Up

28. Pro-social Group • Expectations • Show Respect- by listening, raising your hand, take turns speaking, sit up • Show Responsibility- by coming on time, having your DPR card ready. • Be Safe – Stay seated and place books/materials on the side. Remember Confidentiality What is said in the room stays in the room!

29. Fitting in……. • Definition: To Belong, To make Plan for it, to make an adjustment for it. • How do you know when you fit in to a group? • Likeable behaviors and non likeable behaviors. • 2. How do you know when peers are accepting of who you are? • Accepting behaviors? • Body language is important!!!!!! (learned in lesson 4)

30. Activity time • Worksheet and Scenarios! • “Bomb Activity”

31. What are you doing? • Attention Seeking Behaviors • - Center of Attention • Party, Class, Home • - Inappropriate Behaviors • speaking out of turn • making jokes • making noises • body language • - Appropriate fitting in behaviors: • taking turns • staying on topic in a conversation • appropriate eye contact • smiling, body language mimics the others • appearance and hygiene • You like to make people laugh, when would be a great time to be funny?

32. How Do You know? • How do you know when your not fitting well with others? • - Body Language (ignoring, walking away, looking somewhere else like the clock) • - Verbal (changingtopics, talking to someone else, insult, making fun of you) • Do you continue trying to talk to people who don’t want you to be with them? • Yes or no? Why? • How do you know when you ARE fitting in? • - You feel accepted, peers are looking for you, they respond back too you appropriately)

33. You got, it! • You’re an expert on Body Language!

34. Pro SocialConversation time!! Lesson 5 Interactions with Others Self-Control Understanding others’ feelings Fitting In Conversation Time Wrap Up

35. Pro-social Group • Expectations • Show Respect- by listening, raising your hand, take turns speaking, sit up • Show Responsibility- by coming on time, having your DPR card ready. • Be Safe – Stay seated and place books/materials on the side. Remember Confidentiality What is said in the room stays in the room!

36. What is? • What is a conversation? • Aform of interactive, spontaneous communication between two or more people who are following rules of etiquette. • What are some “cues” to look for when wanting to talk to some one? • What are some “cues” to look for to maintain a conversation?

37. When and where? • How do you know when it’s a good time to start a conversation? • How do you know it is not a good time to start a conversation? • Do you talk to adults the same way you talk to your peers? If not, why not? • Where are some appropriate places in school to start a conversation?

38. Practice it! • Activity time • Card game

39. Pro Socialwrap upLesson 6 Interactions with Others Self-Control Understanding others’ feelings Fitting In Conversation Time Wrap Up • Celebration • Student Survey

40. Pro-social Group • Expectations • Show Respect- by listening, raising your hand, take turns speaking, sit up • Show Responsibility- by coming on time, having your DPR card ready. • Be Safe – Stay seated and place books/materials on the side. Remember Confidentiality What is said in the room stays in the room!

41. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0Y1SO4ATzNM&feature=plcp&context=C39a743aUDOEgsToPDskLA3CluWnE0Eqz7nIlREM09https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0Y1SO4ATzNM&feature=plcp&context=C39a743aUDOEgsToPDskLA3CluWnE0Eqz7nIlREM09