Cyber Bullying Workshop

1. Cyber Bullying Workshop Lynne Hall Sarah Woods Marc Hall Susan Jones Anne-Marie Chiswell Barnard Castle School, 20th November 2007

2. Overview • Bullying • Coping with Bullying • FearNot! • Cyberbullying • Using cyberspace to beat cyberbullying • Your experiences, your turn… • Final thoughts

3. Bullying Experiences “I was bullied on the way home on my bus every day. I was punched kicked and they even smashed my watch. One day I was followed to my house and they kicked my front door over and over until my mum got home and she called the police and they where cautioned”. Daniel, 13, Bognor Regis (http://news.bbc.co.uk/cbbcnews/)

4. Bullying Experiences “I was bullied for being the quiet one who refused to pick on other people so I was picked on by people who were supposed to be my friends! But I am proud that I refused to be like them even if it did knock back my confidence a lot. I have never forgiven them and I stopped hanging around them and avoid them when I can but thanks to my best friend Heather. She has made me realise that I am worth something.” (http://news.bbc.co.uk/cbbcnews/)

5. Bullying Experiences “It was always verbal bullying, but it hurt. Each time they said anything it felt like they were cutting into me.” “I do it just out of fun, because I know I am the stronger person and also just to act hard in front of my mates.”

6. True or False? • There is no bullying at my school • Bullying others toughens you up • Fighting back with the bully is the best thing to do • Ignoring the bullying will make it go away • Bullying only happens among boys. • Bullying is part of growing up & you just have to accept it. • Bullying only happens in disadvantaged schools • There is more bullying in large classes compared to small classes.

7. What is Bullying Behaviour? What is bullying? What is teasing?

8. Why is bullying different to teasing? • Bullying behaviour is different to teasing & aggression because: • Bullying behaviour is repeated over time and does not just happen once. • Bullying involves power relationships. The victim feels over powered and intimidated by the bully. • Bullying is planned and deliberate and is not just a joke.

9. How big a problem is bullying? Our recent research showed that up to 1/3 of children cited experiencing being bullied frequently and a few times every week. A recent survey carried out by CBBC News found that half of primary school children and more than 1 in 4 secondary school children said they had been bullied in the last year.

10. Bullying Behaviour • Direct / Physical Bullying • being hit • being kicked • being punched • being blackmailed or threatened • people being spiteful to you • Verbal Bullying • Being called nasty names • Having lies spread about you • Receiving nasty or threatening text messages.

11. Relational Bullying • Uually involves the people who you hang around with: • Friends deliberately leaving you out • Friends deliberately falling out with you • Friends spreading nasty rumours about you or stories that are not true

12. Bullying Personalities Bullying behaviour involves groups of people with a range of roles: Bully Victim Bully/Victim Assistant to the Bully Bystander Defender

13. Bullying Personalities BULLY: A bully bullies other children and is never a victim. VICTIM: A victim gets hurt by the bully & never bullies others. BULLY/VICTIM: A bully/victim both bullies others and is a victim at times.

14. Bullying Personalities ASSISTANT TO THE BULLY: This person helps the bully out and eggs them on to keep hurting the victim. DEFENDER: A defender tries to help the victim and sticks up for them. BYSTANDER: This person watches what happens but does not get involved with anything

15. Why is Bullying bad? Bullying can result in: health problems (stomach aches, headaches) Problems at school with work because you can’t concentrate Bunking off school Psychological problems (anxiety, depression) Behaviour problems, children sometimes become aggressive In some instances even suicide

16. Why do bullies bully? Bullying isn’t cool! Bullies sometimes have problems of their own that they are trying to cover up They are scared of not being popular or the ‘tough guy’ They think aggression is a good way of solving problems. It is NOT! They do it for fun, to get a laugh They are jealous of the victim Bullies usually lose their friends when people realise what they are doing

17. What should you do if you are being bullied? Tell someone - The most important thing to remember if you are being bullied is to tell somebody about it such as the teacher, your parents or a friend that you trust. You should not let the bully carry on bullying. The longer you leave it, the worse it will become.

18. Useful Websites for Interventions http://www.antibullying.net/ http://www.childline.org.uk http://www.beatbullying.org/docs/about.html http://bullying.co.uk/ http://www.dfes.gov.uk/bullying/ http://www.antibullyingweek.co.uk/ http://www.antibullyingalliance.org.uk/Page.asp

19. An Innovative Intervention FearNot! • Aim to enable children to explore issues surrounding bullying behaviour • 8-12 year olds will use FearNot in the classroom as part of PHSE • 3D Virtual Learning Environment populated by characters • Give advice to victim after watching bullying scenarios

20. FearNot! • Fun with • Empathic • Agents to • Reach • Novel • Outcomes in • Teaching

21. Frances – relational bullying

22. John – Physical Bullying

23. FearNot! Coping and Advising

24. Virtually Friends • 345 children used FearNot! • 8-11 years old • Summer event (2004) at University of Herts • They had fun learning about how to cope with bullying… • We learnt lots about using the software BUT • Will it work in the classroom?

25. What’s going on for FearNot now • Much improved look, more AI, better interaction, faster • Marc to add short movie of FearNot • Just gone into the classroom for over 800 pupils in the UK & Germany • Waiting for results… • FearNot focuses on real-life scenarios, but new form of life emerging…

26. Digital Life • Complex digital world • Digital natives and the digitally eloquent • Input from cinema • Cuts, montage, flashbacks • Input from interaction • Engagement, entertainment, persistence • Evolving literacy • Being able to read and write in emerging forms of media • Digital life • Production as well as consumption • Learning, extending, sharing

27. The Virtual Life

28. Same Problem - New Style CyberBullying • Is cyberbullying a new form of bullying? • Different definitions • “One person or a group of people aim to threaten, tease or embarrass someone else by using a mobile phone, the internet or other technologies” (www.direct.gov.uk)

29. Forms of Cyberbullying Threats & intimidation Harassment or “cyber-stalking” Exclusion or peer rejection Impersonation Publication of private information or images Manipulation Mobile Phones Chat Rooms Email Social Networking Site Interactive Gaming Online Virtual World Developed nasty website about you Bulletin Board or online Blog

30. How big a problem is cyberbullying? • The NCH children’s charity carried out a survey in 2005 about mobile phone bullying and found that 20% (1 in 5) children had experienced some sort of bullying via email, chatroom, or text. (www.stoptextbully.com) • Text bullying was the most frequent form of bullying at 14%. • 5% chat rooms • 4% email

31. How big a problem is cyberbullying? Anti-bullying alliance by Goldsmiths found that 22% of 11-16 yr olds had been a victim of cyberbullying MSN cyberbullying report (2006) found that 11% of UK teens were cyberbullied Noret & River’s 4 yr study involving 11,227 children found that 15% of children received nasty/aggressive text and emails. 11% of youngsters admitted to sending a threatening message to someone (NCH survey) 73% of people bullied said that they knew the person that had threatened them.

32. Cyberbullying Experiences “One time I kept getting calls, I was getting really scared I phoned my friend and she wasn't home so I couldn't talk to her.” “You can have 60 people bullying you on the internet, but in real life there wouldn’t be 60 people beating you up”. DCSF (Department for children, schools & families) by Childnet International

33. Cyberbullying Experiences “I felt that no-one understood what I was going through. I didn’t know who was sending me these messages, and I felt powerless to know what to do”. “The accusation about me which the students put on their website was horrendous. Within hours, it seemed that the whole school had read this message.”

34. Cyberbullying?

35. Virtually publicising real bullying…

36. what is it? :: how it works :: why cyberbully? :: prevention :: take action :: what's the law? http://www.stopbullying.org

37. Wired Safety: World’s largest Internet safety, help and education organisation • Special sections for all ages • Provides advice and interesting information • On-line • Phone • How to get the best out of the net • Ssafe interactions • Secure purchases • Ms. Parry's guide to correct online etiquette (Netiquette) http://www.wiredkids.org/teens/index.html

38. Information, resources and advice for young people and for people working with young people. • Information for Young People • Bullying • Financial support • International students • Learning • Tests and qualifications • Thinking of going to university or college? • Voluntary work • Bullying • Beat bullying • Are you being bullied? Know someone who is? Perhaps you're doing the bullying? Whatever the reason, it's important to remember that bullying is not normal. Find out more at Need2Know. • Bullying • Don't suffer in silence. If you're being bullied, or you're worried about bullying in your school, help and advice is at hand. • Talk to someone • Connexions Direct Advisers are here to listen, seven days a week from 8am to 2am, and won't judge you. You can phone, text, email or chat online. http://www.dfes.gov.uk/bullying

39. Beat Bullying Bullying can mean doing or saying something that deliberately hurts, threatens or frightens someone. People who bully do so for all kinds of reasons. It can be because of things like race, religion or sexuality. It can even be because of the way someone looks or because they are bright and intelligent. Whatever the reason, it's important to remember that bullying is not normal. No one deserves to be bullied - simple as that. Use this site to find out how to sort out the situation you're in or where to go if you need help. If you need to talk to someone right now, you can call ChildLine free and confidentially on 0800 1111. http://www.need2know.co.uk/beatbullying

40. Are you part of it • Think you know what's what? Lots of people become part of a cyberbullying gang without even realising it. Take our quiz to make sure you're not one of them... • The facts • Find out about the different forms of cyberbullying, why it happens and how it can affect those on the receiving end... • Take a stand • It's not just harmless fun. Get some tips on how to deal with cyberbullying and what you can do to stop it happening to you and your mates... • Directgov Young People • Accessibility • Your privacy http://www.yp.direct.gov.uk/cyberbullying

41. Stopping Cyber Bullying • IT good way to explore bullying • FearNot based on what the pupils wanted, not what we and other adults thought they should have • Significant difference in response of adults and pupils to FearNot • No brainer - clear benefits of including the pupils in the design process • Involving pupils • Creating a virtual space to help prevent Cyber Bullying • Not just for victims but to get everyone on board • Bullying can be stopped • Moving from bystander to defender

42. Your Turn • What would be a good way to learn about how to stop cyber bullying on-line? • What should it look like? • What content should it have? • Should it be interactive • How can it be made interesting? • How can it be made fun?

43. Designing the future… • Into groups of 4 • Poster to tell us • What this place would look like • What people would do in it

44. Final Thoughts • Bullying, real or in cyberspace, is bad for everyone involved • Bullying can be stopped • Best of all, don’t let it start • Cyberspace has little physical risk when you get involved in preventing bullying • Be pro-active, defend and prevent, don’t watch and ignore ChildLine: 0800 1111

45. Any Questions?