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Body language. True or false?. Body language is largely instinctive, thus difficult to change. While delivering a speech, you shouldn’t look at people individually; look at something that is behind them to „take all of them in” at the same time.
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True or false? • Body language is largely instinctive, thus difficult to change. • While delivering a speech, you shouldn’t look at people individually; look at something that is behind them to „take all of them in” at the same time. • Where the members of the audience are seated is of no importance as long as they can hear you. • The closer you stand to your audience, the friendlier you seem. • Body language signals may mean different things in different contexts.
Aspects of non-verbal communication • Body movement (kinesthetic behaviour) - signs based on agreement - gestures - organisers - emotives - accommodators • Facial expression • Paralanguage • Occupying the space • Objects
Nature or nurture? • Nature - fear,anger, surprise, disgust - smile - emotions – eyes! - mirror
Nurture - personal space - touching - signals of yes/no - gender differences
Eye contact • Dilated pupils reflect emotional involvement • Pupil movement reflects thinking processes • Eye contact – control • Audience should be facing
Never - look at the ceiling - fix your stare at one enthusiastic face - wear dark glasses
Facial expression • Avoid a poker face • Identify with your message: Reflect emotions related to the content • Keep smiling (?)
Gestures • Free your arms and hands • Gestures - extensions of thoughts
Avoid compulsive movements - rubbing nose, turning a ring - moving praying hands in front of you - tapping with fingers on the desk - sweeping hair from your face - adjusting collar
Body position • Plant yourself firmly on the ground • Avoid • Crossed legs • Bent legs with closed knees • Swaying to and fro • Putting your weight from one leg to another • Stiffness (closed legs, closed arms/hands)
Establish your space bubble - Move-occupy your space bubble - Sitting - Do not hide behind barriers (pulpit, desk, papers) - Avoid finding support on table, blackboard, tc. - Don’t stand too close
Clothing • Comfortable, familiar • Match the formality of occasion • Make a contrast to your background • Avoid • Rich patterns, excentric clothes • Tight collars/belts/sleeves • Jingling necklaces and noisy shoes • Too warm clothes
Openness • Do not cross your arms and legs • The act of opening • Open hands – nothing is concealed (vs. clutched fists – nerves) • Relaxed, prolonged eye contact • Mirror
Attentive listening • Smile and nod slowly when listening (vs. Quick nod=impatience) • Lean towards your partner • Stand still • Tilted head
Deceptive and nervous body language • A lack of eye contact • Excessive hand movements • Biting fingernails • Chewing the inside of the mouth • Drying mouth • Control (stiffness, hands in pockets) • Rubbing nose
Dominant body language • Making the body large and high • Hands on hips • Legs apart • Chin up • Erect position • Standing on a pulpit • Keeping a distance
Breaking social rules • Imposing informal terms or talking down • Invasion of personal space • Interruption or never waiting for a response • Dismissive gestures, facial expressions • Eyes • Prolonged staring • Avoiding looking at partner
Defensive-submissive body language • Covering vulnerable physical areas (chin down, knees together, crossed legs, arms across chest or face) • Using a barrier (pen, papers, table)
Seeking escape (flicking the eyes side to side, leaning away) • Keeping small • Rigidity
Control your body language • Establish your personal space • Practise speaking while walking • Strive for an open position • Keep your hands free to emphasise message • Watch yourself – look out for compulsive acts • Practise eye movement • Learn to listen