Be a Champion of Change with the 7 Habits

1. Be a Champion of Change with the 7 Habits  Are you able to change important areas of your life?  Are you just living day to day, or toward a hope?  Do you prioritize your time and energy well?  How often do you feel bullied by others?  Do you understand others ... and vice versa?  What are your unique talents? Are they important?  Does your life often feel “out of balance”?  What does “success” mean to you? (family, friends, community, hobby, career, faith)  What is required to obtain that success? Darrell Velegol Penn State University velegol@psu.edu started 21 Oct 1999 last edited 21 Jan 2003 http://www.personal.psu.edu/faculty/d/x/dxv9/7Habits.ppt

2. Are you willing to change course? Two battleships assigned to the training squadron had been at sea on maneuvers in heavy weather for several days. I was serving on the lead battleship and was on watch on the bridge as night fell. The visibility was poor with patchy fog, so the captain remained on the bridge keeping an eye on all activities. Shortly after dark, the lookout on the wing of the bridge reported, “Light, bearing on the starboard bow.” “Is it steady or moving astern?” the captain called out. Lookout replied, “Steady, captain,” which meant we were on a dangerous collision course with that ship. The captain then called to the signalman, “Signal that ship: We are on a collision course, advise you to change course 20 degrees.” Back came a signal, “Advisable for you to change course 20 degrees.” The captain said, “Send, I’m a captain, change course 20 degrees.” “I’m a seaman second class,” came the reply. “You had better change course 20 degrees.” By that time the captain was furious. He spat out, “Send, I’m a battleship. Change course 20 degrees.” Back came the flashing light, “I’m a lighthouse.” We changed course. Will you crash against the principles ... or change course?

3. 7 Sharpen saw Interdependence Understand 5 Synergize 6 PUBLIC VICTORY Think win-win 4 Independence 3 1st things 1st PRIVATE VICTORY 1 Be Proactive 2 End in mind Dependence The 7 Habits ... an overview. habit = knowledge + skill + desire

4. proactive (forward acting, opportunity-focused, clear) I will read one book per month in my field. I will exercise and attend Weight Watchers weekly. I will cook dinners for my wife every Monday. the gap = our choice response stimulus circle of no concern circle of influence Victor Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning concern reactive (reverse acting, problem-bound, vague) I am not as smart as others in this company. People think I’m too heavy. I wish our Monday evenings were better. Habit 1: Be proactive. Not until you can say I am what I am today because of the choices I made yesterday. ... can you say I choose otherwise. • Examples of your reactive statements ... and your “proactive” counterparts. • What to do when frustrated? Discouraged? Imposter? What is your “fix routine”? • Why not be proactive? What is the risk? Are you willing to risk failure?

5. Risking failure ... a shining example! Less than one year of formal education. Ran for state legislature ... lost. Bought a store to make a living ... ended up with a huge debt. Interested in a girl ... she died. Interested in another girl ... she dumped him. Served four successive terms in the state general assembly. Became a lawyer. Engaged to be married ... engagement broke ... eventually got married. Had a son ... then another who died ... then another who died ... then another. Ran for Congress ... and lost ... and again, and lost ... and again, and lost ... ... then elected ...but was too unpopular to be re-elected. Became one of the leading lawyers in his state. Ran for Senate .. and lost. Ran for President ... and won. Presided successfully over a war. Re-elected President. Innovate or Die, Jack Matson 1 outside of your circle of influence 2 failure of planning 3 failure of action more failures but more successes!  Write your “failure resume”.  Did you risk time, energy, money, or reputation?  Why did you fail (see reasons above)?

6. Habit 2: Begin with the end in mind. The law of the farm: You reap what you sow. translated “sacrifice” vision = what you want to see mission = immediate next step(s) Both tend to focus priorities. • Specifically … write what you want to reap. What do you HOPE for? A prestigious job? A girlfriend or boyfriend? Money? • Write what you are willing to sow. Time? Personal energy? Money? Your friends? •  Any books or movies or models that guide you?

7. Darrell Velegol’s vision and mission VISION A “shining city on a hill” … human dignity and virtue. You have a purpose. You have value as a human. hope and freedom. You can change the world. MISSION • Inspiring Penn State students to change their world ... • and apprenticing them to champion their hope through • character. Inspiring trust by establishing and practicing values with courage. • ownership. Championing hopes with responsibility and tenacity. • risk. Innovating or revolutionizing despite possible failure or adversity. • engineering method. Making technical decisions soundly.

8. What will you do with these? acquire advance appreciate apprentice build communicate construct counsel delight educate elect engineer enlighten entertain finance foster inspire launch master motivate nurture organize praise speak travel venture volunteer write Buzzwords for a vision or mission Chemical engineering ... and other passions chemical production cosmetics electronics energy environment food management medicine patent research-law petroleum pharmaceuticals regulation research wastewater animal rights arts-movies-opera cancer child care and development education environment faith homeless and poor law national parks Penn State University politics and government rape victims travel http://www.dosomething.org/index.cfm

9. Habit 3: Put first things first. urgent not urgent I: necessity crises deadlines“maintaining” (25 - 25) II: opportunity PC activities planning & prevention commitment (65-15) important IV trivia busy work time wasters (5-5) III interruptions some meetings some reports (5-55) not important • We want Quadrant II > Quadrant I. • Quadrant II comes from Quadrants III and IV.  Estimate how much time you spend in Quadrant II (and what IS Quad IV?) ...  How do you plan your day? Datebook? Palm Pilot?  How much is your time worth to you, in dollars/hour?

10. The P/PC balance Aesop’s fable “The Goose and the Golden Egg” “A man and his wife had the good fortune to possess a goose that laid a golden egg every day. Lucky though they were, they soon began to think they were not getting rich fast enough, and, imagining the bird must be made of gold inside, they decided to kill it in order to secure the whole store of precious metal at once. But when they cut it open they found it was just like any other goose. Thus, they neither got rich all at once, as they had hoped, nor enjoyed any longer the daily addition to their wealth.” Production (things you are “paid” for) designing a chemical process wiring a home doing a dance enjoying a healthy body having great kids Production Capability (no “pay”!) studying chemical engineering apprenticing as an electrician practicing dance exercising preparing evening dinners, reading to kids

11. Habit 3 ... a demonstration. 1 Identify big rocks (q2). 2 Schedule these FIRST! 3 Surround with other. What is the lesson?

12. 7 Sharpen saw Interdependence Understand 5 Synergize 6 PUBLIC VICTORY Think win-win 4 Independence 3 1st things 1st PRIVATE VICTORY 1 Be Proactive 2 End in mind Dependence The 7 Habits ... moving to interdependence

13. win-win or no deal (abundance mentality; get P and PC) lose-win (you get hard feelings) consideration lose-lose (never pays) win-lose (other person gets hard feeling) courage Habit 4: Think win-win.  Are there times when paradigms others than “win-win” are appropriate?  How do you develop “courage”? “Consideration”? Emotional bank account?  What causes conflict? Tools for conflict resolution? Your “boundaries”?

14. win-win area = L x h L = “be understood” h = “understand” Habit 5: First understand ... then be understood. 4 tips for dealing with people  Do not criticize, condemn, or complain.  Express sincere appreciation.  Give them “emotional air” and learn their story.  Focus on their interests (know your best alternative coming in). Dale Carnegie How to Win Friends and Influence People Fisher & Ury, Getting to Yes •  What are some “stranglers” for emotional air? •  What are some ways we can express sincere appreciation? • How often do you ask someone to a professional lunch? • How do you meet a person? How do you greet a person?

15. Habit 6: Synergize. “Animal school” Once upon a time, the animals decided they must do something heroic to meet the problems of a “New World”, so they organized a school. They adopted an activity curriculum consisting of running, climbing, swimming, and flying. To make it easier to administer, all animals took all the subjects. In the end, the duck’s web feet were so badly worn that he couldn’t swim, the rabbit had a nervous breakdown and couldn’t run, the eagle was disciplined severely for getting to the top of the tree without climbing, and an abnormal eel ended up doing best overall and winning valedictorian.  What are your unique gifts? What talents do you need from others?  What qualities often seem like a disadvantage, but are necessary?  How do you contact or talk with people, if you are shy? (Carnegie)

16. What is your “personality”? David Keirsey, Please Understand Me II (similar to Myers-Briggs) 4 categories I-E introvert (reserved) - extrovert (expressive) S-N sensory (observant) - intuitive (conceptual) T-F thinking - feeling P-J perceiving (probing) - judging (critiquing) ARTISANS (observant, probing) ESTP promoter (Roosevelt, Madonna) ISTP crafter (Bruce Lee, Earhart) ESFP performer (Elvis, Reagan) ISFP composer (Carson, Streisand) GUARDIANS (observant, critiquing) ESTJ supervisor (Colin Powell) ISTJ inspector (Truman) ESFJ provider (G Washington) ISFJ protector (Mother Teresa) • no “ranking” • don’t feel “boxed in”! • people are different IDEALISTS (intuitive, feeling) ENFJ teacher (Gorbachev, Billy Graham) INFJ counselor (Gandhi, E Roosevelt) ENFP champion INFP healer (Albert Schweitzer) RATIONALS (intuitive, thinking) ENTJ fieldmarshall (Gates, Greenspan) INTJ mastermind (D Eisenhower, Rand) ENTP inventor (Disney, Edison) INTP architect (Einstein, Darwin)

17. 7 Sharpen saw Interdependence Understand 5 Synergize 6 PUBLIC VICTORY Think win-win 4 Independence 3 1st things 1st PRIVATE VICTORY 1 Be Proactive 2 End in mind Dependence The 7 Habits ... one more step

18. Social family, friends, service (notes, phone calls, emails, visits) Spiritual battle of good versus evil (atheism, Christianity, Hinduism, Islam, Judaism) Mental reading, journaling, discussing, seminars, meetings Physical endurance, strength, flexibility, sleep, eating Habit 7: Sharpen the saw.  When will YOU sharpen your saw?  What measures will you use in each category?

19. The homework … Establish your “big rocks” – the important changes, not just the urgent. 1 Decide that you CAN in fact change your life. 2 Get away one weekend with a pen and pad of paper. Write down what you HOPE for in life, and what you feel called towards (e.g., family, work, opera). If you don’t know … talk with friends or family. If you don’t know … try things! Athletics, service, camping, animal rights, politics, research. If you don’t know … read biographies and newspapers. If you don’t know … look at http://www.dosomething.org/index.cfm. If you don’t know … is finishing your ChE degree your current “end”? Plan toward your vision. 3 Record how you spend a typical week … then decide how well it matches your vision. Use a daily planner (e.g., a date book, a Palm) to plan by weeks, focusing on today. If in a rut, find a small victory and win it. Sharpen the saw. mental: Learn a hobby (e.g., chess, golf, piano), or about people (Mars & Venus, Dale Carnegie) physical: Exercise, eat right, sleep. social: Find friends with whom you can share your deepest struggles, biggest triumphs, most guarded weaknesses and fears. spiritual: Good versus evil questions are the biggest you’ll face.

20. Announcement “Be a Champion of Change with the 7 Habits!” Professor Darrell Velegol will hold a workshop based on Stephen Covey’s best-selling book, 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. This interactive workshop will help you think about some big questions in life …  Are you able to change important areas of your life: work, relationships, balance?  Are you just living day to day, or toward a vision? What does “success” mean to you?  Do you prioritize your time and energy well?  How often do you feel taken advantage of by others? Can you also be a “winner”?  Do you know how to work well in teams? How to listen to others? How to be heard?  What are your unique talents? Are they important?  Does your life often feel “out of balance”? Please join us in exploring these and other questions. YOU will be one of the leaders of tomorrow – at work, in your community, in your home. Technical skills are critical, but not enough! Whatever your level – sophomore, junior, senior, grad student – join us and learn how to champion change around you.