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Fear . The Day You Realize You Have Lived Your Life as a Sellout. Definition of a Sellout. This is the day you realize that you have been allowing fear to dominate how you live, why you do what you do, and even where you do it.
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Fear The Day You Realize You Have Lived Your Life as a Sellout
Definition of a Sellout • This is the day you realize that you have been allowing fear to dominate how you live, why you do what you do, and even where you do it. • Just about every major decision you have ever made has been to please, appease, or somehow meet the needs of everyone-except yourself. • You have sold out yourself, your life, and your dreams because you were afraid you might fail or displease those people whose opinions you value.
Living the fear-dominated life • Loss of the authentic self • Choices made are inconsistent with who you really are and what you believe. • You have allowed your own script to be traded for someone else’s idea of who you should be. • A need to have your worth and decisions validated by someone else. • You don’t aim to win; your goal becomes simply to not lose.
“An interesting thing about integrity and self-acceptance is that when you’re comfortable in your own skin, other people sense it and usually end up respecting you a whole lot more than if you spent all your time trying to please them anyway.” -Dr. Phil MGraw
Getting back to better days • Decide what you really care about • Determine how far off the course you are • Make a life decision to get back on track • Be true to yourself • Make it happen • Acknowledge your fears/challenge the irrational • Maintain your newfound freedom • Know that you’re not alone
Addiction The Day Addiction Takes Over
What is an addiction • It is a term used to explain an attraction or pathological attachment to a substance, such as a drug (prescription or illegal) or alcohol. • When you are truly addicted you can lose control and become totally focused on your addictive substance or behavior. • You become a slave to your addiction mentally, emotionally, behaviorally, and/or physically.
Factors of addiction • Genetic predispositions • Physiological and psychological dependencies • Lifestyle and social components
What to expect Your own addiction Someone else’s addiction Feelings of betrayal Shock Feeling anger or resentment Feelings of a loss of control Feel a burden of the need to take care of the loved one and the mess they have gotten themselves in to • Feeling very alone • Feeling as if you are a completely different person • Feelings of guilt, anger, and embarrassment • Desperation and anxiousness
Getting back on track • If you’re the addict • Find your personal truth • Consult with an Expert • If your loved one is the addict • Choose to assist • Set up an intervention
When using intervention • Set your team • Confront factually, but with love, care and concern • Remember that you are talking to the drugs, not the person • Create a crisis for the troubled person • Focus only on chemically related issues • Get a commitment from the addict to go to treatment • Have a firm, immediate plan