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Unit 5. Marriage, Communication, Lying & Cheating. 5 Types of Marriages. Total: 10 years or more -Both partners have high self-esteem and contribute equally to the relationship Vital: Less than 10 years Conflict Habituated: A relationship characterized by fighting
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Unit 5 Marriage, Communication, Lying & Cheating
5 Types of Marriages • Total: 10 years or more • -Both partners have high self-esteem and contribute equally to the relationship • Vital: Less than 10 years • Conflict Habituated: A relationship characterized by fighting • Passive Congenial: A relationship in which the 2 people stay together for convenience • Devitalized: Was once strong but is no longer so
Marriage Statistics • 50% of all marriages stay together and 50% do not • The order of marriage success is 1,3,2 • The three most common reasons for divorce are: children, sexual issues (affairs), money
Domestic Violence • 60% of all couples experience some form of domestic abuse. DV is 50% female to male and 50% male to female • 95% of DV serious damage is male to female • Woman are more likely to be injured or killed by a boyfriend, husband or ex than anyone else in life. • Cycle of Violence: Honeymoon, Tension, Abuse, Regret
Negative Communication Styles • Placator: Makes the person feel better at all costs, even above their own self-worth • Blamer: Puts responsibility on other person • Distractor: Cannot stay focused on conversation at hand • Moralizer: Brings religion into every conversation • Sarcasm: Puts others down by ridiculing • Know-it-All: Shows off knowledge to make others feel inferior
Healthy Communication • Leveler: Open, honest communication sharing real feelings and not hiding from partner • Healthy communication is the #1 factor in keeping relationships strong and people staying together.
3 Stages of Morality • Preconventional (5-10): Avoidance of consequence and gaining of rewards • Conventional (11-15): Follows the law and peers • Postconventional (16 - ): Follows one’s own morals and benefits society
Lying & Cheating • Children first learn to lie at age 2 – 3. 70% of these children lie well, but can’t hide emotion • By age 5, 95% of children lie well but still can’t hide emotion • By age 8, 99% of children lie well and can hide emotion • 100% of children who cheated on a test, lied about it • 40% of young adults lied on a resume to get a job • 40% of students cheat on a regular basis • 60% of students cheat when a prize is offered • Men lie for personal gain whereas woman lie to help people feel better.
Why Students Cheat • Pressure to succeed • Fear of failure • Lack of morality • Lack of thought of consequence • Desire for immediate gratification
Compulsive Lying • Compulsive Liar: Lies and knows they are lying. • Pathological Liar: Lies and believes their own lies.
Parenting Styles • Authoritarian (Autocratic): Dictator, Do as I say, Inflexible; Likely to raise angrier, rebellious, or overcontrolled children • Permissive (Laissez Faire): Allows kids to get away with everything; Allows kids to walk all over them. Kids are more often out of control • Authoritative (Democratic): Best of parenting styles. Has firm but fair ways about them.
Lying Essay • Discuss the importance of good character, genuineness and honesty. Include how and why lying can get people into trouble as well as any relevant statistics on lying. Finally, include how lying and/or honesty can factor into good family relationships, good marriages, and good parenting.