* Welcome * A Parent’s Top Ten List * Door Prizes * Dismissed for Lunch!

1. FastTrackSummer OrientationSaturday, July 10, 2010Supporting Your TransitionMike Bergler, CFREExecutive Director, Constituent Relations

2. * Welcome* A Parent’s Top Ten List* Door Prizes* Dismissed for Lunch!

3. Welcome Roll Call Orange County Southern California Northern California Out of State First child to go to college! Last child to go to college!

4. A Parent’s Top Ten ListA sampling of advice from Concordia and other parents on how to manage this exciting transition.

5. A Parent’s Top Ten List#10 - Squeeze in a road trip, or at least a 1:1 night out for quality time.

6. A Parent’s Top Ten ListParents your 1:1 night comes later…

7. A Parent’s Top Ten List#9 - Go shopping! They need room supplies, but they also need Budgeting 101.

8. A Parent’s Top Ten List#8 - Find a friend to talk to that can emotionally support you.

9. A Parent’s Top Ten ListWhen your student arrives on campus#7 - Send mail!

10. A Parent’s Top Ten List#6 - Encourage them to find the solution.

11. A Parent’s Top Ten List#5 - Encourage them to get involved * Bible studies * Campus church * Clubs, intramurals…

12. A Parent’s Top Ten List#4 - Get involved with Concordia as parents * Concerts on the Green * Eagle Golf Classic * Women’s Holiday Tea

13. A Parent’s Top Ten List#3 - Communicate, communicate, communicate!

14. A Parent’s Top Ten List#2 - Don’t change the locks! Or their room…

15. A Parent’s Top Ten ListBut set expectations for visits. Life will be different when they come home.

16. A Parent’s Top Ten List#1 - Turn to the Lord in prayer!

17. Door prizes

18. Welcome to the Concordia Family!Thanks for coming to FastTrack. Have a blessed day!Mike Bergler, CFREExecutive Director, Constituent Relations949-854-8002 x2586 (xALUM)family@cui.eduwww.cui.edu/parents

19. Tips On Supporting Your Transition Derek VergaraDean of Student Affairs

20. Smile! • Show confidence and reassurance to your new college student. Reassure your child that they are making the right decision to go to college. • Don’t wait until move-in day or the end of August to discuss and show your thoughts and feelings about separating. • Prepare yourself for “the ride home”

21. Do Not Call Every Day • While closeness and open communication are essential qualities to have with your new college student, begin to curtail your daily communication with them. • No college student wants their Mom and Dad checking up on them daily.

22. Ask “Generalized” Questions(but not too many) • As parents, we believe that we have the “right to know” everything that goes on with our children… • “How was WOW (Week of Welcome)?” • “Are you having fun?”

23. Listen with an Open Mind • Listen and resist judgment • Don’t immediately give solutions and try to “fix it” for them • When asked, give them options and resources to tap in to • Give them the freedom to make their own choices

25. Have a Discussion about “Facebook”, “Myspace”, and “Twitter” • Personal electronic websites are positive and negative • Encourage your student to be judicious • Employers use these sites to research prospective and qualified hires.

26. Encourage Them • Encourage them to take over the daily tasks of their lives if they have not already. • Encourage them to take responsibility for their own actions • Encourage them to explore life’s possibilities

27. Encourage Involvement • Inside and Outside of the Classroom • Engage in their community • Encourage to leave their “mark” at CUI!

29. Have Another Discussion About Alcohol and Drugs • In a recent survey of our current students, alcohol use/abuse and marijuana use are prevalent among our students • Alcohol Edu • While alcohol and drug use are common, CUI will not tolerate abuse of these substances.

31. Do NOT Make Surprise Visits To School • While surprise visits can be exciting, I encourage you to set a mutual date/time to visit. • Talk about visitation and respect their wishes • Although it may seem easy, entertaining parents/family is stressful and takes some maneuvering for the college student.

32. Resist the Urge to Decorate Your Student’s New Room • Impetus to building and strengthening roommate relations • Develops positive boundaries between parent-student • Leaves the student responsible and accountable to their own space in a large, “not so private” college community

34. Talk About Credit Cards and Finances Before School Begins • Discuss your partnership with financing their college education • Discuss the “financial strategy” for the next 4 to 5 years • Allowing the student into this realm will relieve much of the psychological stress associated with financing college

35. Be Interested, Not Critical, Of Course Selection • Students may change their academic major 3 to 4 times during their tenure in college. • Express interest in, rather than criticism, of their choices. • Ask yourself: “Who’s career aspiration is in question…mine or his/hers?”

37. Your Student’s Grades Are No Longer Sent Home Via US Mail • Family Educational Rights and Privacy Act (FERPA) • All “educational” files are confidential • If you have an investment in and/or a high “need to know” your student’s grades, discuss and make a mutual agreement on this subject.

39. Welcome to the CUI Family!