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TALK IT OUT Conflict Resolution in the Elementary Classroom Lesson 1. Based on the book By Barbara Porro c 1996. Lesson 1 Introduction to Conflict Resolution. What is conflict?. Responses to Conflict. Ignoring Fighting Talk It Out. Responses to Conflict IGNORING.
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TALK IT OUTConflict Resolution in the Elementary ClassroomLesson 1 Based on the book By Barbara Porro c 1996
Lesson 1Introduction to Conflict Resolution What is conflict?
Responses to Conflict Ignoring Fighting Talk It Out
Responses to ConflictIGNORING • Ignoring (denial) happens when someone is angry but will not admit they are angry. • Instead of talking about it they keep it inside. • What can happen when you keep your thoughts and feelings locked inside?
IGNORING • Have you ever tried to ignore a problem or conflict? • How did that work for you? • Is ignoring a good way to solve a conflict? Why or why not?
Consequences ofIGNORING • Ignoring doesn’t fix anything. • You don’t get a chance to tell your feelings. • The other person doesn’t know that something is bothering you. • The same problem keeps happening over and over.
Responses to ConflictFIGHTING • Fighting happens when you’re angry or upset with someone and are hurtful in return. • You try to force the person to give you what you want.
FIGHTING • Have you ever tried to fight to solve a problem or conflict? • How did that work for you? • Is fighting a good way to solve a conflict? Why or why not?
Consequences ofFIGHTING • The other person might fight back. • Someone could get hurt. • You WILL get into trouble at school. • It is not a solution and the problem continues and often gets worse! • Someone might seek revenge – to get back at you!!
Responses to ConflictTALK IT OUT • You tell the person what is bothering you. • You talk in a way that does not hurt or blame the other person. • You LISTEN to each other. • You find a solution.
TALK IT OUT • Have you ever tried to “Talk It Out” to solve a problem or conflict? • How did that work for you? • Is “Talk It Out” a good way to solve a conflict? Why or why not?
Consequences ofTALK IT OUT • When you talk honestly and kindly you can often solve a problem. • The solution is fair to everyone. • The situation improves. • Hurt feelings go away and your friendship is better.
A Story with Three Endings • It is recess and Tom is playing with a ball. • Sue walks over and asks if she can play. • Let’s take a look at the responses. Can you identify them? • (from Talk It Out by Barbara Porro, p. 121)
Are there times when TALK IT OUT is not a good choice? • A “bigger kid” is starting a fight. • Someone is threatening you. • Alcohol or drugs may be involved.