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Million Leaders Mandate Curriculum Notebook Three Leading When Times Are Tough Lesson 4

EXTERNALLY FOCUSED CHURCH LEADERSHIP TRAINING. Million Leaders Mandate Curriculum Notebook Three Leading When Times Are Tough Lesson 4 . Leading When Times Are Tough . Handling Difficult People and Situations “…Therefore, you are to be perfect, as your heavenly Father is perfect.”

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Million Leaders Mandate Curriculum Notebook Three Leading When Times Are Tough Lesson 4

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  1. EXTERNALLY FOCUSED CHURCH LEADERSHIP TRAINING Million Leaders Mandate CurriculumNotebook ThreeLeading When Times Are ToughLesson 4

  2. Leading When Times Are Tough Handling Difficult People and Situations “…Therefore, you are to be perfect, as your heavenly Father is perfect.” Matthew 5:48

  3. Foundational PrinciplesLeaders Must Understand • In relationships, leaders often must practice the 101% principle: Find the 1% you can agree with and give it 100% of your attention • In relationships, it is better to build a fence at the top of the cliff,than a hospital at the bottom. (Take steps to avoid trouble). 3. When the emotion expressed far outweighs the issue at hand,there is a hidden issue to face. 4. When a person’s emotional needs outweigh their intelligence, they won’t be logical.

  4. Foundational PrinciplesLeaders Must Understand 5. Hurting people naturally hurt people. • As leaders, we must never place our emotionalhealthin the hands of someone else. 7. It is possible for a leader to sabotage himself. He might win an argument, but ultimately he losesmore than he gains. 8. We must practice the Law of Connection: Leaders touch a heart before they ask for a hand.

  5. Law of Connection Get beyond yourself Grow beyond yourself Give beyond yourself Go beyond yourself

  6. Mahatma Gandhi “The difference between what we do and what we are capable of doing would suffice to solve most of the world’s problem.’

  7. 2. I’ll get out! (Escape and avoidance) Five Options When Faced With Conflict 1. I’ll get them! (Retaliation) 3. I’ll give in! (Surrender) 4. I’ll go half! (Compromise) 5. I’ll deal with it! (Address the issue)

  8. Five Stages: How Paul Did It in the Book of Philemon 1. Compliment Stage(vv .4-7) 2. Compromise Stage (vv. 8-13) 3. Choice Stage(vv. 14) 4. Challenge Stage(vv. 15-20) 5. Confidence Stage(vv. 21-22)

  9. Steps Toward Effective Confrontation 1. Pray through your own anger. 2. You initiate the contact. 3. Begin with affirmation. 4. Tell them that you have a problem or a struggle. 5. Bring up the issue, and explain you don’t understand what’s happened.

  10. Steps Toward Effective Confrontation 6. Listen and allow them to respond. 7. Establish forgiveness and repentance, if necessary. 8. Compromise on opinions, but not on biblical convictions or principles. 9. Pray and affirm your love as you close your time together.

  11. Pass the Blessing, please! The blessing consists of these elements: 1. Meaningful touch 2. Affirming words 3. The expression of high value 4. The description of a special future 5. Genuine commitment

  12. Components for Inward Health • A sense of worth • If this is missing, we feel inferior. • 2. A sense of belonging • If this is missing, we feel insecure. • 3. A sense of competence • If this is missing, we feel inadequate. • 4. A sense of purpose • If this is missing, we feel insignificant.

  13. False Humility What Every Leader Should Know About the Root and Fruit of Behavior

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