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Immunity to Change. Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself. - Leo Tolstoy. Performance = potential (-) interference P = p - I. Mindfulness.
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Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself. - Leo Tolstoy
Performance = potential (-) interference P = p - I
Mindfulness “paying attention in a particular way: on purpose, in the present moment, and nonjudgementally” - Jon Kabat-Zinn “an awareness that arises through intentionally attending in an open, accepting, and discerning way to whatever is arising in the present moment” - Shapiro & Carlson
Immunity Map Adapted from Immunity to Change – Kegan and Lahey, 2009
Column 1 – Visible Commitment • Things you want to be, not stop being • Must really, really want to accomplish this • Start with “what one change would matter most” and move to frame that in commitment language (I am committed to . . . ) • YOU HAVE TO GET COLUMN 1 RIGHT! Adapted from Immunity to Change – Kegan and Lahey, 2009
Immunity Map Adapted from Immunity to Change – Kegan and Lahey, 2009
Column 2 – Behaviors • What are you doing or not doing to keep from getting Column 1? • Create “fearless inventory” – behaviors must be concrete • Symptoms of something rather than the thing itself • Solving C2 “problems” is a technical solution to an adaptive problem Adapted from Immunity to Change – Kegan and Lahey, 2009
Column 1 to Column 2 What do we really want and what will we do to keep from getting it? William Perry Adapted from Immunity to Change – Kegan and Lahey, 2009
Immunity Map Adapted from Immunity to Change – Kegan and Lahey, 2009
Column 3 – Competing Commitments • Step One – create a worry box – “when you imagine yourself doing the opposite of C2, what scares you the most?” What causes you to feel at risk, to feel unprotected from something that feels dangerous? • Step Two – use the worry box to create commitment statements Adapted from Immunity to Change – Kegan and Lahey, 2009
C3 – Competing Commitments • They should protect the self we want to see or want others to see • We have these fears and masterfully protect ourselves from them. • We are actively (not necessarily consciously) committed to making sure the things we are afraid of do not happen Adapted from Immunity to Change – Kegan and Lahey, 2009
Immunity Map Adapted from Immunity to Change – Kegan and Lahey, 2009
Immunity Map Adapted from Immunity to Change – Kegan and Lahey, 2009
Testing Column 3 • Each commitment is clearly a commitment to self-protection • Each commitment makes C2 behaviors perfectly sensible • You see why eliminating C2 behaviors alone will not work • You feel stuck – pulled two ways at once Adapted from Immunity to Change – Kegan and Lahey, 2009
Immunity Map Adapted from Immunity to Change – Kegan and Lahey, 2009
Competing Commitments • A dynamic system where . . . • We mean both things, we live a contradiction • Foot on brake/gas at the same time – huge energy required • We feel no fear because we have an anxiety management system • Everything is perfectly balanced to keep us where we are Adapted from Immunity to Change – Kegan and Lahey, 2009
Column 4 – Big Assumptions Considering your C3 commitments – Brainstorm what are all the possible assumptions a person who has such commitments might hold? Adapted from Immunity to Change – Kegan and Lahey, 2009
C4 – Big Assumptions • Some constructions of reality are perceived as absolute truths • Any such mindset contains blind spots but your attachment to it keeps you from seeing it • This is where the adaptive challenge presents itself Adapted from Immunity to Change – Kegan and Lahey, 2009
Immunity Map Adapted from Immunity to Change – Kegan and Lahey, 2009
C4 Tests • Some of the big assumptions you may regard as true • It is clear how each of the assumptions, if taken as true, makes one or more C3 commitments inevitable • The big assumptions make visible a bigger world that you have previously not allowed yourself to venture into until now Adapted from Immunity to Change – Kegan and Lahey, 2009
A Bad Bargain When we overcome an immunity to change, we stop making what we have come to see is actually a bad bargain: our immune system has been giving us relief from anxiety while creating a false belief that many things are impossible for us to do – things that in fact are completely possible for us to do! Adapted from Immunity to Change – Kegan and Lahey, 2009
Now What? • Test the Big Assumption • S afe • M odest • A ctionable • R esearch • T est • Goal is not to reject outright but • to sharpen the contours of the assumption. Adapted from Immunity to Change – Kegan and Lahey, 2009