JUVENILE SERVICES ASSOCIATION 2013 Fall Conference

1. Women and The Ethics of Influence Sharing KnowledgeCreating Lasting Relationships Influencing Without Authority NORTH CAROLINA JUVENILE SERVICES ASSOCIATION 2013 Fall Conference Presented by: Betty A. Brown Division of Adult Correction, Prisons Chaplaincy Services Director

2. Do you put your hand in the tank to to touch the beautiful fish?

3. “Here lies the body of William Jay, William Jay I Told You I Was RIGHT! Who died maintaining his right of way- He was right, dead right, as he sped along, But he’s just as dead as if he were wrong.”

4. Which would you rather have: an academic, theatrical victory or a person’s good will? ________ I Told You I Was RIGHT!

5. “There is only one way under high Heaven to get anybody to do anything. Did you ever stop to think about that? Yes, just one way. And that is by making the other person want to do it. Remember, there is no other way.” Dale Carnegie How to Win Friends and Influence People

6. List top 5 persons in history who may have had significant influence on others. • Develop “why” statements for each person such as: • Had Followers (Large Numbers) • Succeeded in Crisis • Created Lasting Change • Unified • Left a Legacy • Sold a Vision • Created Paradigm Shift

8. Levels of Influence

9. Modeling

10. “Some cause happiness wherever they go; others, whenever they go.” - Oscar Wilde

11. Integrity

12. Integrity is Not Determined by Circumstances

13. Integrity is Not Based on Credentials

14. Credentials Weight of Credentials vs. Strength of Character Character Are transient Turns focus to rights Add value to one person Look to past accomplishments Often evoke jealousy in others Can only get you in the door Is permanent Keeps the focus on responsibilities Adds value to many people Builds a legacy for the future Generates respect and integrity Keeps you there

15. Levels of Influence

16. “You can be a model to the masses, but to go to the higher levels of influence, you have to work with individuals.”

17. Motivating

18. The Nature of Nurture Love Respect Giving a Sense of Security Recognition Encouragement

19. What They Receive Positive Self-Worth Sense of Belonging Perspective A Feeling of Significance

20. A Person of Influence Nurture Have Faith Listen Understand Integrity

21. “People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing—that’s why we recommend it daily.” - Zig Ziglar

22. Mentoring

23. A Person of Influence Enlarge Navigate Connects Empowers Nurture Faith Listen Understand Integrity

24. Multiplying • Unselfishness • Generosity • Commitment • Time

25. A Person of Influence Reproduces Influencers Enlarge Navigate Connects Empowers Nurture Have Faith Listen Understand Integrity

26. “If you lead many people or have a high-profile position, you have a greater responsibility because of your increased influence. What you say-and, more important, what you do-is a model for those who follow you. Their Actions will reflect your influence.” -Becoming a Person of Influence

27. Thank You! Chaplain Betty Brown 919-838-3625 - Work