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Resilience, A Lifelong skill. Resilience is the ability to positively adapt, grow, and thrive no matter what rides into your life. Elizabeth Wallace Tarleton State University Jolyn Dahlvig Calvin College. What we All see... . Students who stop going to class
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Resilience,A Lifelong skill Resilience is the ability to positively adapt, grow, and thrive no matter what rides into your life. Elizabeth Wallace Tarleton State University Jolyn Dahlvig Calvin College
What we All see... • Students who stop going to class • Students who don’t complete assignments-or promised follow-up • Students who drop classes • Students who fail to attend events • Students who give up by mid-Fall • Students who can’t navigate interpersonal relationships Ĵ
Four uses of resilience Overcome obstacles Steer through daily adversity Recover from crisis Open up to new experiences Resilience helps students: Connect Persist Succeed Expand horizons Use of Resilience & Application Ĵ
Four Foundational assumptions • Refocus on the human strengths • Individuals are capable of life change • “Explanatory style” or thinking is the key to resilience • Accurate thinking however is critical Ĵ
Explanatory (thinking) Style Me vs Not Me Always vs Not Always Everything vs Not Everything
What Makes Up Resilience? • Emotion Regulation • Controlling Impulses • Empathy • Optimism • Analysis of Cause • Self-Efficacy • Expanding-reaching out Ĵ
Practical Resilience Skills • Understanding our ABCDE’s • Adversity, Belief, Consequences Disputation, Energization • Avoiding Traps in Thinking • Detecting Icebergs • Dissecting and Challenging Thinking • Taking Perspective • Calming & focusing • Getting Real
Worksheet Adversity: Beliefs: Consequences:
ABC Worksheet Adversity:(record objective facts-who, what, when, and where)Chef Kate came back from time off after her sister died and found that her boss had hired a Sous Chef from an Italian restaurant named Nick. • Beliefs-Ticker Tape(record any beliefs without censor that come from the adverse situation): • They found a • replacement • My boss hired him • My boss thinks he is • good • My boss wants to • replace me • I am not good enough • I will not have a job • I will lose who I am Consequences • (record the emotions felt and the consequences as a result of the emotion): • Disbelief- denial: ignore • Nick’s presence • Rude- perpetuate • perception that she can’t • handle people • Betrayal- gave all my • expertise and return/this • is the result: yell at my • boss • Anger- silent treatment and • yelling • Fear- incapable of seeing • the opportunity Ĵ
Worksheet Adversity: Let’s use our own example: Beliefs: Consequences:
Examples of Thinking Traps (2) • Jumping to conclusions • Tunnel vision • Magnifying & minimizing • Personalizing • Externalizing • Overgeneralizing
Detecting Icebergs (3)Underlying beliefs • Different than surface beliefs • Fundamental • Deep-rooted • Define “who you are” • Define “your place in the world”
Iceberg beliefs - themes • Achievement • Acceptance • Control
Challenging Thinking (4) • Map The A-B-C • Check the B-C Connection • Are the “C’s” out of proportion? • Do the “C’s” match the “B’s?” • If yes, : • What does that mean to me? • What is the most upsetting part of that for me?
Putting It In Perspective (5) • Identify worst case • Determine likelihood • Identify best case • Determine most likely outcomes • Identify Solutions
Perspective Worksheet How Likely? Best Case Beliefs Likely Outcomes Worst Case Beliefs Solutions
Putting It In PerspectiveWorksheet How Likely? Not at all likely Not likely Best Case Beliefs Receive world wide recognition Instantly able to relate to people Likely Outcomes Learn to work with Sous Chef Encounter some conflict on the way Worst Case Beliefs Determined to not be a good enough chef Fired from job Solutions Spend time getting to know Sous Chef Ask what Sous Chef is interested in learning/gaining Work on listening skill set Ĵ
Perspective Worksheet How Likely? Best Case Beliefs Likely Outcomes Worst Case Beliefs Solutions
Focus (6) & The real world (7) • Calming Techniques Educators already use! • Positive Refocusing • Mentoring Techniques • Three Mantras • A more accurate way to view this could be: • That’s not true because: • A more likely outcome would be:
What’s happening now? • First Generation Study Grant • Possible positive impact on RETENTION
The Research • Resilience Reivich, K. & Shatte, A. (2002) The resilience factor; 7 essential skills for overcoming life’s inevitable obstacles. Broadway Books, New York. Wallace, E., (2007). The construct of resilience. Unpublished manuscript. • Self Efficacy Wallace, E., (2008) Well-being, self-efficacy, and engagement at Tarleton State University. Unpublished manuscript. • Emotional Intelligence Goleman, D. Boyatzis, R. McKee, A. (2002) Primal leadership; Learning to lead with emotional intelligence. Harvard Business School Press. Boston, Massachusetts.