Family Life Education

1. Family Life Education Dr. David Schramm, Utah State University, david.schramm@usu.edu

2. Research – 2 Questions • To me, life is all about____________________ • If I died tomorrow, what I would miss the very most would be ________________ “I’d be dead. Breathing.” “I’d be dead. Can’t miss anything when you’re dead, dude.”

3. Research – 2 Questions • To me, life is all about____________________ 36% - family, children, relationships 18% - happiness 11% - helping/serving others 11% - journey, experiences, choices 7% - God, religion 7% - improving yourself, change .007% - work, money

4. Research – 2 Questions 2. If I died tomorrow, what I would miss the very most would be ________________ 86% - family, children, relationships 14% - life, laughter, experiences, nothing, being a parent, marrying, nature,

5. This life is about connections (more responses) “Giving, caring, connecting, healing, laughing, loving” “Family and friends, making personal connections, and making a difference in people's lives” “Meaningful relationships, authentic connection with others, making every effort to leave the world a bit better than how we found it”

6. Three Primary Areas • Relationship & Marriage Education • Parenting Education • Personal Well-being

7. Relationship & Marriage Education • What contributes to healthy green grass?

8. Relationship & Marriage Education • Helping things go strong vs teaching what to do when things go wrong

9. Deepening the Relationship Pool • 8 Cups of Connection • Kindness/Service • Gratitude/Appreciation • Affection/Admiration • Time together/Shared meaning • Forgiveness/Acceptance • Loyalty/Commitment • Shared humor/Playfulness • Awareness/ Support

10. Parenting • Strong Parents, Stable Children • 4-hour training for professionals • 8-hour training for parents • Five Protective Factors • Concrete Support in Times of Need • Parent Resilience • Knowledge of Parenting and Child Development • Social and Emotional Competence of Children • Social Connections 3 Objectives Increase Family Strengths Enhance Child Development Reduce Child Abuse/Neglect

11. Parenting Pyramid Positive Happy Parent Correction Teaching Parent-Child Relationship Feeling Supported & Connected Turn Outward or Turn Inward? Adapted from Parenting Pyramid, Arbinger Institute.

12. Make Time for 9! • Nine meaningful touches • Nine minutes that matter • First 3 minutes after children wake up and see you • First 3 minutes after coming home for the day • Last 3 minutes of the day before they go to bed • Nine minutes of conversation Correction Parent/Child Relationship Teaching

13. Personal Well-being • Improving My Life Journey • 8-hour curriculum • Stress, strengths, mindfulness positive psychology, neuroscience happiness, & well-being • Raising positivity “When you tilt toward the good, you’re not denying or resisting the bad. You’re simply acknowledging, enjoying, and using the good. You’re aware of the whole truth.” – Rick Hanson, Hardwiring Happiness

14. Family Life Education Dr. David Schramm, Utah State University, david.schramm@usu.edu