Biblical Manhood

1. Biblical Manhood 08 july 2012 Session 6 Bill wilcox Allen bozarth

2. Back to the Basics All the players knew that at the first team meeting, the legendary coach would waste no time getting straight to the point. Many of the men, half Lombardi’s age and twice his size, were openly fearful, dreading the encounter. The coach did not disappoint them, and, in fact, delivered his message in one of the great one-liners of all time. Football in hand, the great coach walked to the front of the room, took several seconds to look over the assemblage in silence, held out the pigskin in front of him, and said, “Gentlemen, this is a football.” In only five words, Lombardi communicated his point: We’re going to start with the basics and make sure we’re executing all the fundamentals.

3. Syllabus for Biblical Manhood

4. Syllabus for Biblical Manhood

5. A Father and His Daughters

6. A Father and His Daughter(s) • Just a Biblical manhood is under attack, so is Godly womanhood • Fathers faces a tremendous challenge in raising a daughter to embrace: • her femininity, • godly standards of dress and conduct, • rejoice in God’s design for her as a woman, and • instill hope that she can trust God for a husband who won’t use her.

7. A Father and His Daughter(s) What’s a father to do with his daughters? Daughters look to their father for acceptance, approval, and affirmation for their womanhood A father’s God-given privilege and responsibility to affirm his daughters in godly womanhood and prepare them to be godly wives and mothers

8. John Eldridge Says: • The Secret to Girls/Daughters? • Theywants to know: Am I lovely? • Tell your daughter you are thinking of her • Demonstrate your delight in her; praise her

9. A Father and His Daughter(s) • How to Affirm Godly Womanhood: • Give daily expression of non-sexual love and affection for your wife first and then your daughter. First hugs are for my wife then the children, especially my daughters • Provide an example of servant-hood and protection to your wife and daughters. • Lead your daughter to accept and rejoice in God's design and see every aspect of her life as a gift to produce humility and to build a dependence upon Jesus Christ.

10. A Father and His Daughter(s) • How to Affirm Godly Womanhood: • Daily demonstrate a personal relationship with God through Jesus Christ • Admit your faults and mistakes through confession in order to destroy the "daddy-god idol" • Lead your daughter away from yourself to find her identity in her relationship as a daughter of God through Jesus Christ

11. A Father and His Daughter(s) • How to Affirm Godly Womanhood: • Give regular expression of confidence in her abilities during those crucial years of 10-18 • Give her a vision of a godly woman through directing her attention toward her mother’s example rather than women in the world • Don’t put your daughter in a situation or relationship where you know her womanhood will be mocked and abused

12. A Father and His Daughter(s) • When a daughter is affirmed in godly womanhood, she is free to rejoice in God's design and order for her at home and in society. • Affirmation will free her from the need to have the attention from other men • Her significance as a daughter of God will free her from having to prove her significance as a woman equal with men • Her security as a daughter of God frees her to love her husband and children with a quiet, trustful spirit

13. A Father and His Daughter(s) • Application: • Fathers have the responsibility and the privilege of blessing our daughters, affirming them in their godly womanhood • God has given fathers such authority, that every word we speak and action bears power to bless and prepare them to be a blessing to another man, to her children, and to the world

14. A Father and His Daughter(s) • Application: • Do you need to ask forgiveness for neglecting your daughters? • Do you also need to take actions to affirm godly womanhood in their lives? • As we humble ourselves before God, submit ourselves to His Word and vision for manhood and fatherhood, He will do in us and our daughters what we cannot do.

15. A Father and His Daughter(s)

16. Circling Back • No matter how old your children are they will always long to hear the words so central to their hearts: • Sons: You have what it takes. • Daughters: You are lovely. • Dad: Answer your children’s questions • Provide them with their individual and gender identity • They are worth pursuing! God thought the same of you and me.

17. Circling Back • Ask them what it was/is like to have you as a father. • A call or a letter “I’ve been doing some thinking about our relationship and how I may have hurt/wounded you. I’d be honored if you’d tell me what it is/was like to have me as a dad. • Simply listen; accept what they say. Once story is out on the table, ask for forgiveness • Pray for forgiveness, reconciliation, end to bitterness • Demonstrate your repentance if needed • Speak loving, affirming words over and over and over again

18. Sources & References The New American Standard Bible Eldridge, John; “You Have What It Takes: What Every Father Needs To Know” Getz, Gene A.; “The Measure of a Man: Twenty Attributes of a Godly Man” Stinson, Randy and Dan Dumas; “A Guide to Biblical Manhood” Wakefield, Norm; “Equipping Me: Practical Tools for Life’s Issues” (CD Set)

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