Grief and Loss

1. Grief and Loss TEKS: HE.1E, HE.1G, HE.15B

2. The grieving process Grief – an expression of deep sadness because of loss • 5 stages of grieving process • Denial: buffers the initial shock; blocks it out • Anger: normal (anger management) • Bargaining: promise to change • Depression: short-term is normal • Acceptance: learn how to live with the loss Everyone goes through these stages differently based on the circumstances of the loss and the person grieving.

3. Funerals, Wakes, and Memorial Services The purpose of these events is to help the family get through the grieving process. • Wake– view or watch over deceased person before funeral • Funeral– ceremony in which deceased person is buried • Memorial Service – ceremony to remember the deceased

4. What are some different things you’ve seen at funerals or memorials?

5. Loss can cause stress... ... what are some physical and emotional effects of stress? Coping with Loss Headaches, stomach aches, increased blood pressure, irritability, interrupted sleep, confusion, inability to concentrate, stress-related illness

6. Help for dealing with loss Helping yourself • Get plenty of rest/relaxation and stick to any normal routine. • Share memories. • Express your feelings. • Don’t blame yourself. • Connect with supportive, understanding people. Helping others • Show your support through simple actions. • Let the person know you are there for him/her. • Listen attentively without judgment. • Encourage professional help if needed.

7. Suicide and Non-Suicidal Self-Injury (NSSI)

8. A permanent solution to a temporary problem. SUICIDE: Words that warn: “I wish I were dead.” “I just want to go to sleep and never wake up.” “I won’t be a problem for you much longer.” “I can’t take it anymore.” “This pain will be over soon.” “Nothing matters.” • Suicide - the act of intentionally taking one’s life • Why is suicide an uncomfortable topic? • What are some myths or facts about suicide?

9. Facts about suicide • Many people who consider suicide only do so for a brief period in their life. • Most people who have attempted and failed are usually grateful to be alive. • Suicide could have many warning signs, however, sometimes there are few signs. • Use of drugs/alcohol can put people at risk because of impaired judgment.

10. Facts about Suicide (cont.) • It is the 2nd leading cause of death for ages 10 – 34. • Depression and bipolar disorder are major risk factors. • Stressful life events and low levels of communication with parents are also significant risk factors. • More women attempt suicide and more men complete suicide. In 2010, males aged 15-19 were 4X more likely to complete suicide than females.

11. Keep in mind! • It should be noted that some people who die by suicide do not show any suicide warning signs. • But about 75 percent of those who die by suicide do exhibit some warning signs, so being aware of these warning signs means we will be more able to assist a loved one in need. • If you do see someone exhibiting warning signs of suicide, you need to do everything you can to help him/her, which often includes connecting him/her with professional help. Suicide.org

12. Warning signs for suicide • Feeling hopeless • Withdrawing from family and friends; isolating • Neglecting basic needs • Experiencing loss of energy • Taking more risks • Using alcohol and drugs • Giving away personal things

13. Giving and Getting Help • Take all talk of suicide seriously. • Tell your friend you are concerned about him/her. • Help your friend identify 1-2 adults to talk to (i.e. parent, counselor) and offer to go with him/her if he/she is nervous. • Don’t keep concern for a friend’s safety a secret. Don’t promise to keep secrets when someone’s safety is involved.

14. N.S.S.I. • Non-Suicidal Self-Injury • Common forms of NSSI: • Cutting, burning, scratching, skin-picking, hair-pulling • 90% of people who self-injure begin cutting as teens. • Self-injury is prevalent in ALL races and economic backgrounds.

15. Differentiating NSSI and Suicide Attempts