Dr. Tim Conrad drtim@resilientresourcesllc

1. Cyber Bullies, Sexting, Social Media: Keeping Your Classroom and Your Career IntactAshland University2/28/13 & 3/2/13 DAY 1 Dr. Tim Conrad drtim@resilientresourcesllc.com Officer Don Stanko Dstanko @DIRG.org

2. What Brought You Here?

4. Types of Digital Danger • Cyberbullies

5. Types of Digital Danger • Cyberbullies • Social media • Student and Professional

6. Types of Digital Danger • Cyberbullies • Social media • Student and Professional • Cyberstalking Student and Professional

7. Types of Digital Danger • Cyberbullies • Social media • Student and Professional • Cyberstalking Student and Professional • Sexting

8. Sexting nightmare

9. Types of Digital Danger • Cyberbullies • Social media • Student and Professional • Cyberstalking Student and Professional • Sexting • Digital footprint • Student and Professional

10. Could this happen to you? Digital reputation

11. What is Bullying?

12. Imbalance of Power What is Bullying?

13. Imbalance of Power • More than once What is Bullying?

14. Imbalance of Power • More than once • Intentional What is Bullying?

15. Imbalance of Power • More than once • Intentional • Bullying is when purposeful acts of meanness are repeated over time in an situation where there is an imbalance of power. What is Bullying?

16. One child • Small group • Playground, classroom • Lunchroom, halls, bathrooms • Known vulnerabilities Face to Face Bullying

17. Roles

18. Bully • Victim • Bystander Roles

19. Bullying

21. The Bully

22. Frequent fights • Injured in fights • Steal, vandalize • Drink alcohol • Smoke • Be truant, drop out of school • Report poorer academic achievement • Carry a weapon Impact on the Bully

23. The Victim

24. Why are some children bullied?

25. Why are some children bullied? • Victims tend to have poor social problem solving skills.

26. Why are some children bullied? • Victims tend to have poor social problem solving skills. • They have difficulty picking up on non-verbal cues.

27. Why are some children bullied? • Victims tend to have poor social problem solving skills. • They have difficulty picking up on non-verbal cues. • Victims can be isolated from their peers.

28. Why Bullies are attracted to certain victims

29. Why Bullies are attracted to certain victims • Boys are guided by the opinion of their male peers.

30. Why Bullies are attracted to certain victims • Boys are guided by the opinion of their male peers. • Girls are also guided by their same gender peers.

31. Why Bullies are attracted to certain victims • Boys are guided by the opinion of their male peers. • Girls are also guided by their same gender peers. • Older bullies are motivated by peer opinion, both male and female.

32. Discounted threats • Afraid of retribution • Worried about the bully getting in trouble • Did not know where to go • Not believed • Nothing done Why Kids Don’t Report(Davis, 2007)

34. The Bystander

35. Why don’t bystanders get involved? The answer might be found within the development of the brain…

36. What bystanders can do • Don’t join • Tell them to stop • Report it • Distract them • Befriend the isolated and bullied • Confront another time Increasing Empathy

37. Bystander Intervention • Bullying stops • 10 seconds • 57% time • Source = Hawkins, Peppler, Craig (2001)

38. Game-Changer

39. Cyberbullying is a virus

40. Why is Cyberbullying so prevalent?

41. Presently, we live in a dual reality world

42. Presently, we live in a dual reality world Our “Real World” life Our “Digital World” life

43. Presently, we live in a dual reality world Our “Real World” life Our “Digital World” life Removed from the actual experience. More akin to “third-person” accounts. • We experience life through “first-person” accounts.

44. Presently, we live in a dual reality world Our “Real World” life Our “Digital World” life Removed from the actual experience. More akin to “third-person” accounts. Actions have delayed consequences. • We experience life through “first-person” accounts. • Our actions have immediate consequences.

45. Presently, we live in a dual reality world Our “Real World” life Our “Digital World” life Removed from the actual experience. More akin to “third-person” accounts. Actions have delayed consequences. Predominantly a visual experience. • We experience life through “first-person” accounts. • Our actions have immediate consequences. • All five senses are active and engaged.

46. Presently, we live in a dual reality world Our “Real World” life Our “Digital World” life Removed from the actual experience. More akin to “third-person” accounts. Actions have delayed consequences. Predominantly a visual experience. We perceive our actions as having anonymity. • We experience life through “first-person” accounts. • Our actions have immediate consequences. • All five senses are active and engaged. • We perceive our actions as having identity.

47. Differences Between Cyberbullying and Face to Face Bullying • Cyber perpetrators do not feel responsible • They do not see the victim’s distress. • Cyber perpetrators feel that they will not be caught. • Cyber perpetrators feel safe, protected by technology.

48. Differences Between Cyberbullying and Face to Face Bullying • Cyber perpetrators can send messages that they would never say in person • No more waiting until you see someone in person to bully them. • Perpetrators are familiar with, and have access to, technology

49. Prevalence of Cyberbullying • Most credible statistics range from 9% (Kessell, Schneider et.al (2012) to 50% (bullying statistics.org). • 9% - 50% is a big range, why the gap?

50. What do bystanders do when they witness a Cyberbullying event Online?