NAMI Family Support Group

1. NAMI Family Support Group Facilitator TrainingThe Importance of FidelityWorking Together

2. Why Must We Have Fidelity?

3. Fidelity(according to Merriam-Webster) 1 a : the quality or state of being faithful b : accuracy in details: exactness

4. The people's good is the highest law. Cicero, De Legibus Roman author, orator, & politician (106 BC - 43 BC)

5. Why do people go to a Support Group? • To leave feeling better than when we came • To feel that we contributed as well as we were supported • To feel in a very real way that we have something in common with others

6. Sincere Uncritical Acceptance

7. Face facts We know these are “tried and true” remedies that do no harm

8. The very last thing any of us wants is to contribute to someone’s difficulties

9. Working Together

10. Relationships can be tough

11. I understand that as a NAMI Family Support Group facilitator my responsibility is the greater good of the group. I also understand that fidelity to the model contributes to the greater good.

12. I agree - to be open with and to show respect for my co-facilitators regarding any behaviors that may be detracting from the model or from the greater good of the group.

13. develop kind ways to approach my co-facilitator about a behavior that may concern me, ask for assistance from someone else if I do not think that I have the ability to do so in a kind way, be open to listeningto the observations of my co-facilitator, AND In order to do this I will:

14. be willing to try to adjust my behavior to be faithful to the model and dedicated to the greater good of the group, without taking offense or taking negative actions against my co-facilitator for having done so.

15. Sincere Uncritical Acceptance

16. We each experience things differently.When something happens that seems to vary from what we believe is correct most of us feel a need to change it.

17. When another Family Support Group leader gathers the courage to approach us about a concern he or she has, we need to keep that space where he or she comes to us a safe space for both.

18. The best time to talk with your co-facilitator is outside the group time. • “Correcting” another person in front of the group can be hurtful.

19. Peaceful Conversations • Prepare yourself • Ask an opening question • Listen Deeply & Affirm

20. Objectively say what happened • Respectfully say how you feel • Respectfully say what you need • Make a request

21. A Peaceful Conversation might go like this: • Prepare yourself (My co-facilitator has been late to group the last 2 weeks & I want to know what is keeping her from arriving on time and what she needs so she can arrive in time to help get set up so we can start on time.) • Opening question: “Jill, how are you feeling about how group is going?” • Listen deeply (don’t just plan what you’re going to say)

22. Peaceful conversation (cont.) • Objectively state what happened: “Jill, the last 2 weeks you’ve been late to group.” • Respectfully say how you feel: “I feel frustrated that the group can’t start on time because we are not set up.” • Respectfully say what you need: “I need to know that everything will be ready before the group arrives.” • Make a request: “I need to have your help getting ready for group at least half the time and that you let me know if you won’t be able to get to the group early enough to help.”

23. You made it through the approaching peacefully and listening deeply and respectfully... Now…

24. Breathe deeply Visualize a tranquil place Let go of expectations Stay in the now moment Debrief yourself Use an affirmation Sincere, Uncritical Acceptance I am open to a peaceful outcome How can I bring joy into this moment? Peace, Peace, Peace All is well Self-Care Affirmations