True Coaching: Effective Communication is the Key!

1. True Coaching: Effective Communication is the Key! WIAA Coaches School Kentlake HS Tom Doyle www.truecoaching.net

2. www.truecoaching.net

3. Why are you here today? • “Insanity is doing the same things over and over and expecting a different result.” Albert Einstein • It is what you learn after you know it all that counts! John Wooden • "The significant problems we face cannot be solved at the same level of thinking we were at when we created them".Einstein

4. Coach Training Priorities

5. What is True Colors? • True Colors provides anonjudgmental language baseto enable one to communicate more freely and appreciate the uniqueness in everyone.

6. What canTRUECOLORSdo for me? • TRUECOLORSprovides an opportunity for you to continue thelife long learningprocess and to learn more about yourself, • how you go about your education and yourleadershiprole, • how you relate with your coaches, athletes, family, peers, and even parents! • and how theyrelateto you. 

7. WhyTRUECOLORS? • Using theTRUECOLORSis a quicker and easier way to understand people than trying to remember all 16 personality types associated with the Myers-BriggsPersonality Test.

8. WhyTRUECOLORS? • It can help you to better be able to communicate with others, especially with those who areleast like you.

9. History ofTRUECOLORS • Hippocrates – 400 BC – four types: sanguine, phlegmatic, choleric, melancholic • Carl Jung – 1921 – personality/temperament differences fundamental for understanding human beings (4 types) • Myers-Briggs – 1950’s – 16 combinations to signify 4 characteristics of people – (letters) • David Keirsey – 1967 – four types- Please Understand Me • Don Lowry – 1978 – system/tool to apply “type” information to help real people in real situations

10. Ever wonder about people?

11. Ever Wonder about People? • …Are always on time or even early, while others have a tough time being on time? • …Speak their mind even before they know what is on it, while others are more reserved and think before they speak? • …Question every decision that you make and always have a “better way” to do it, while others support your decisions without question? • …Put the system/department above all, while others put people before the system?

12. Ever Wonder about People? • …Swimmer who questions every drill and every workout? • …Volleyball setter who says, “You take it!” instead of taking charge? • …Basketball player who dogs it at practice, but is a “gamer”? • …Hockey player who does everything you teach him, but who has difficulty adjusting to change in a game?

13. Research: most serious faults in dealing with others? • Failure to see other’s point of view – 68% • Failure to show appreciation/give credit – 36% • Failure to size up others correctly -- 34% • Lack of Leadership -- 24% • Lack of frankness/sincerity -- 19%

14. Perceptions • "To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the worldand use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others."Anthony Robbins

15. Perception Building • What are “perceptions”? • How do we come to perceive and believe? • Are we accurate in our perceptions? • First Impressions take about 7-20 seconds to form; require significant emotional event to change.

16. Count The Number of “F ”s • FINISHED FILES ARE THE RE-SULT OF YEARS OF SCIENTIF-IC STUDY COMBINED WITH THE EXPERIENCE OF MANY YEARS.

17. Count The Number of “F ”s • FINISHED FILES ARE THE RE-SULT OF YEARS OF SCIENTIF-IC STUDY COMBINED WITH THE EXPERIENCE OF MANY YEARS.

18. Perception Building • Why doesn’t everyone see what I see?

19. Basic Assumptions • Everyone is like me! • Everyone should behave as I do! • Everybody communicates the same – like me! • Everyone will respond to a specific situation or stimulus the way I do!

20. Basic Assumptions • Awareness is the first step in Change. • Education is the first step in understanding.

21. CHANGE IS INEVITABLE,GROWTH IS OPTIONAL!

24. What do the TRUECOLORSlook like? • BlueCharacteristics • Gold Characteristics • Green Characteristics • Orange Characteristics

25. BLUE Peacemaker Caretaker Optimistic Always Has a Kind Word Passionate Cause Oriented True Romantics Need to Feel Special Strong Sense of Spirituality Cooperative Rather than Competitive

26. BLUE's Core Value is Relationship

27. GOLD “Be Prepared” Love to Plan Duty, Loyalty, Responsible Punctual, Predictable Strong Belief in Policies, Procedures, Rules Values Family Traditions Thinks before Acting Conservative and Stable “Should” and “Should Not” Most Comfortable with a Structured Environment

28. GOLD's CoreValue is Responsibility

29. GREEN “Should be Able to” “Why” Intellectual Very Complex Standard Setters Cool, Calm, Collected Work is Play, Play is Work Need for Independence and Private Time Perfectionists Approaches Interpersonal Relationships in a Logical Manner

30. GREEN's Core Value is Competency

31. ORANGE Energetic Playful, “Just Do It, Master Negotiator Natural Entertainer Pushes Boundaries Thrives on Competition Impulsive and Spontaneous Appreciates Immediate Feedback Most Productive in Non-structured Environments

32. ORANGE's Core Value is Freedom

34. True Colors Spectrum “Ah-Ha’s” • We all have four colorsin our spectrum • A primary color dominates our spectrum • The “blend” of colors makes us unique • Drawing upon all of our colors improves our personal and team relationships by:

35. True Colors Spectrum “Ah-Ha’s” • Gaining knowledge and skills to access basic core needsof self and others • Motivating and empoweringself and others to use or unique qualities and strengths • Demonstrating and releasing natural talents and abilities • Increasingself-esteem, self-worth, and success through positive, productive actions

36. True Colors Spectrum “Ah-Ha’s” • Brighten YourTRUECOLORS!

37. Population Distribution

38. What Color is this Office? • Clean desk • Mess, but knows where things are • Family photos everywhere • Motivational, inspirational quotes

39. Ever Wonder about People? • …Are always on time or even early and seem to be always prepared? • …Speak their mind even before they know what is on it; think about it later? Operate with a “ready, shoot, aim” philosophy? • …Question every decision that you make and always have a “better way” to do it? • …Put people before the system and always seem genuinely concerned about others?

40. Ever Wonder about People? • …Swimmer who questions every drill and every workout? • …Volleyball setter who says, “You take it!” instead of taking charge? • …Basketball player who dogs it at practice, but is a “gamer”? • …Hockey player who does everything you teach him, but who has difficulty adjusting to change in a game?

41. True Colors is: • An Explanation • – NOT an Excuse!

43. Using TRUECOLORS!– Applications • Color Group – Practice Plan • “Least” Color Group – Define “fun” for this Color?

44. Fun? GREEN • Research, Library • Puzzles GOLD • Organizing things • An Audit BLUE • Group Hug • Singing Kumbaya ORANGE • Danger • Risk

45. Rigid Boring Stubborn Opinionated System Bound Unimaginative Predictable Bossy Judgmental Controlling Firm Conservative Strong Willed Having a View Orderly Realist Stable Directive Moral Standards Assertive

46. Arrogant No Mercy Unrealistic Aloof Unemotional Intellectual Snob Devalue Relationships Critical Eccentric Heartless Confident Firm Minded Under Control Visionary Calm Intelligent Independent Perfectionist Creative Determined

47. Bleeding Heart Naïve Mushy Touchy-feely Smothering Stuck in the Past Push-over Emotional Fawning Always a Cause Compassionate Trusting Romantic Affectionate Caretaker Nostalgic Sympathetic Sensitive Nurturing Passionate -

48. Flaky Rule Breaker Manipulative Uncontrollable Obnoxious Irresponsible Off Task Resist Closure Indecisive Distracted Carefree Adventurous Charming Energetic Bold Impulsive Flexible Enjoys Process Shares Decision Making Changing

49. Kids Quit Because They Aren’t Having FUN! • What makes the athletic experience “fun” for each of the Colors?

50. Their job to meet you in your Color? • OR • Your job to meet them in their Color?