Lesson 70

1. Lesson 70 Separation

2. Divorce: • Divorce is effective either with a clear utterance or metonymical statement, whether done in passing or intentionally

3. It is from the Sunnah that the divorce takes place when the wife has not been touched in her period of time after she was cleansed from her last menstruation, and divorce is uttered once.

4. Otherwise, it is a Bid`i divorce (unlawful innovation). Both are executable, revocable divorces for the first and second time.

5. The husband has the right to take his wife back on the revocable divorce during the three months after the divorce was pronounced (post-marital waiting period).

6. Otherwise, divorce becomes irrevocable and final. If the spouses wish to return, this should be through a new contract and dowry.

7. The husband has no right to return to his wife if they divorced three times, unless she marries another man (Muhallal) after the post-marital waiting period.

8. The latter should be a normal marriage, with the real intention of marriage, that is, not just to enable her to return to her first husband.

9. If the second marriage was terminated by divorce or death, then she has the right to return to her first husband.

10. It is possible that divorce be suspended on certain conditions.

11. The husband has the right to make his wife choose between divorce and continuing the marriage.

12. Divorce is permissible by power of attorney.

13. Rebellious wives: • The husband should give his rebellious wife good advice. If she persists in doing wrong, he should not talk to her for three days, and forsake her in their bed until she responds, otherwise he is allowed to beat her lightly on any part of her body other than her face, hoping that she will comply.

14. If all his attempts fail, they seek an arbitrator from her family and another from his; if they fail to reconcile, then they resort to divorce.

15. Khul`: • If the wife intensely dislikes to continue the marriage, even if her husband does not hurt her, she has the right to ask for divorce in return for a sum of money that she must pay (Khul`).

16. Ila’: • If the husband swears that he will not sleep with his wife, so as to rectify her, for more than four months (this is called Ila’), then she has the right to ask for divorce or he should return to her.

17. If he refuses, the judge will grant her the divorce. If he returned before or after the stated period, he has to expiate for his oath.

18. Azh-Zhihar: • It is prohibited for the husband to swear that his wife will be for him as his mother's back (azh-Zhihar). Its expiation is releasing a slave, if not fasting two successive months, and if not feeding sixty indigent persons.

19. Public imprecation (Al-Mula`anah): • If the husband accuses his wife of adultery without having witnesses, he has to testify four testimonies to execute the punishment, unless she testifies four testimonies that he is a liar.

20. After that, they must separate permanently. This is called public imprecation (Al-Mula`anah), that is, sworn allegation of adultery committed by either husband or wife.

21. Evidence from the Qur’an and Sunnah

22. Divorce:The legality of divorce: • Allah says: • ﴿الطَّلاقُ مَرَّتَانِ فَإِمْسَاكٌ بِمَعْرُوفٍ أَوْ تَسْرِيحٌ بإِحْسَانٍ ﴾[البقرة: 229]

23. This means: • “The divorce is twice, after that, either you retain her on reasonable terms or release her with kindness.” • (Al-Baqarah: 229)

24. Allah says: • ﴿يَا أَيُّهَا النَّبِىُّ إِذَا طَلَّقْتُمُ النِّسَاءَ فَطَلِّقُوهُنَّ لِعِدَّتِهِنَّ ﴾[الطلاق: 1]

25. This means: • “O Prophet (SAWS)! When you divorce women, divorce them at their 'Iddah (prescribed periods).” • (At-Talaq: 1)

26. The Prophet (SAWS) said: • “If any woman asks her husband for divorce without some strong reason, the odor of Paradise will be forbidden for her.” • (Reported by at-Tirmidhiyy)

27. Who has the right to divorce women? • The Prophet (SAWS) said: • “There is no divorce except in what you possess; there is no emancipation except in what you possess, and there is no sale transaction till you possess.” • (Reported by Abu-Dawud)

28. An express utterance of divorce: • He (SAWS) also said: • “Verily, Allah forgave my people the evil promptings which arise within their hearts as long as they did not speak about them or did not act upon them.” (Reported by al-Bukhariyy and Muslim)

29. The Prophet (SAWS) said, • "My Ummah was forgiven unintentional errors, forgetfulness and what they are coerced to do." • (Reported by Ibn-Majah)

30. Nullifiers of divorce: • The Messenger of Allah (SAWS) said: • “There are three (persons) whose actions are not recorded: a sleeper till he awakes a boy till he reaches puberty, and an idiot till he is restored to reason.” • (Reported by Abu-Dawud)

31. Innovative (Bid`i) divorce: • Allah says: • ﴿الطَّلاَقُ مَرَّتَانِ فَإِمْسَاكٌ بِمَعْرُوفٍ أَوْ تَسْرِيحٌ بِإِحْسَانٍ ﴾[البقرة: 229]

32. This means: • “The divorce is twice, after that, either you retain her on reasonable terms or release her with kindness.” • (Al-Baqarah: 229)

33. Mahmud Ibn-Labid (RA) narrated: • “The Messenger of Allah (SAWS) was told that a man had divorced his wife three times simultaneously. Upon this, the Prophet (SAWS) became angry and said: Is the Book of Allah mocked at while I am among you?” • (Reported by an-Nasa’iyy)

34. Revocable divorce: • Allah says: • ﴿وَبُعُولَتُهُنَّ أَحَقُّ بِرَدِّهِنَّ فِي ذَلِكَ إِنْ أَرَادُوا إِصْلاَحًا ﴾[البقرة: 228]

35. This means: • “And their husbands have the better right to take them back in that period, if they wish for reconciliation.” • (Al-Baqarah: 228)

36. `Umar Ibn Al-Khattab (RA) narrated: • “The Prophet (SAWS) divorced Hafsah, but he took her back in marriage.” (Reported by Abu-Dawud and Ibn-Majah)

37. The divorce of choice: • Allah says: • ﴿يَا أَيُّهَا النَّبِىُّ قُل لأَزْوَاجِكَ إِن كُنتُنَّ تُرِدْنَ الحَيَاةَ الدُّنْيَا وزِينَتَهَا فَتَعَالَيْنَ أُمَتِّعْكُنَّ وأُسَرِّحْكُنَّ سَرَاحًا جَمِيلاً * وإِن كُنتُنَّ تُرِدْنَ اللهَ ورَسُولَهُ والدَّارَ الآخِرَةَ فَإِنَّ اللهَ أَعَدَّ لِلْمُحْسِنَاتِ مِنكُنَّ أَجْراً عَظِيمًا ﴾ • [الأحزاب: 28و 29]

38. This means: • “O Prophet (Muhammad SAWS)! Say to your wives: If you desire the life of this world, and its glitter, Then come! I will make a provision for you and set you free in a handsome manner (divorce).

39. But if you desire Allah and His Messenger, and the home of the Hereafter, then verily, Allah has prepared for Al­Muhsinat (good­doers) amongst you • an enormous reward.” • (Al-Ahzab: 28 - 29)

40. Rebellious wives: • Allah says: • ﴿واللاَّتِي تَخَافُونَ نُشُوزَهُنَّ فَعِظُوهُنَّ واهْجُرُوهُنَّ فِي المَضَاجِعِ واضْرِبُوهُنَّ فَإِنْ أَطَعْنَكُمْ فَلاَ تَبْغُوا عَلَيْهِنَّ سَبِيلاً إِنَّ اللهَ كانَ عَلِيًّا كَبِيراً * وإِنْ خِفْتُمْ شِقَاقَ بَيْنِهِمَا فابْعَثُوا حَكَمًا مِّنْ أَهْلِهِ وحَكَمًا مِّنْ أَهْلِهَا إِن يُرِيدَا إِصْلاَحًا يُوَفِّقِ اللهُ بَيْنَهُمَا إِنَّ اللهَ كَانَ عَلِيمًا خَبِيراً ﴾ • [النساء: 34 و 35]

41. This means: • “As to those women on whose part you see ill­conduct, admonish them (first), (next), refuse to share their beds, (and last) beat them (lightly, if it is useful), but if they return to obedience, seek not against them means (of annoyance). Surely, Allah is Ever Most High, Most Great.

42. If you fear a breach between them twain (the man and his wife), appoint (two) arbitrators, one from his family and the other from her's; if they both wish for peace, Allah will cause their reconciliation. Indeed Allah is Ever All­Knower, Well­Acquainted with all things.” • (An-Nisa’: 34 - 35)

43. Khul` (Divorce in return of a sum of money the wife pays): • Ibn `Abbas (RA) narrated: • “The wife of Thabit Ibn Qays came to the Prophet and said: O Allah's Messenger! I do not blame Thabit for defects in his character or his religion, but I, being a Muslim, dislike to behave in un-Islamic manner (if I remain with him).

44. On that, Allah's Messenger said (to her): Will you give back the garden which your husband has given you (as Mahr, dowry)? She said: Yes. Then the Prophet (SAWS) said to Thabit: O Thabit! Accept your garden, and divorce her once.” • (Reported by al-Bukhariyy)

45. Ila’:the husband swears to forswear his wife, as to rectify her, for more than four months): • Allah says: • ﴿لِلَّذِينَ يُؤْلُونَ مِن نِّسَائِهِمْ تَرَبُّصُ أَرْبَعَةِ أَشْهُرٍ فَإِن فَاءُوا فَإِنَّ اللهَ غَفُورٌ رَّحِيمٌ * وَإِنْ عَزَمُوا الطَّلاَقَ فَإِنَّ اللهَ سَمِيعٌ عَلِيمٌ ﴾ • [البقرة: 226-227]

46. This means: • “Those who take an oath not to have sexual relation with their wives must wait four months, then if they return (change their idea in this period), verily, Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful. And if they decide upon divorce, then Allah is All-Hearer, All-Knower.” (Al-Baqarah: 226 - 227)

47. The Prophet (SAWS) said: • “If you take an oath to do a thing and then find a better alternative, you should adopt the latter and expiate your oath.” (Reported by al-Bukhariyy and Muslim)

48. He (SAWS) also said: • “No harm (should be done to others) nor wrong (in retaliation).”(Reported by Ahmad)

49. Azh-Zhihar (the husband swears that his wife will be for him as his mother’s back) : • Allah says: • ﴿الَّذِينَ يُظَاهِرُونَ مِنكُم مِّن نِّسَائِهِم مَّا هُنَّ أُمَّهَاتِهِمْ إِنْ أُمَّهَاتُهُمْ إِلاَّ اللاَّئِى وَلَدْنَهُمْ وَإِنَّهُمْ لَيَقُولُونَ مُنكَراً مِّنَ القَوْلِ وَزُوراً وَإِنَّ اللهَ لَعَفُوٌّ غَفُورٌ * وَالَّذِينَ يُظَاهِرُونَ مِن نِّسائِهِمْ ثُمَّ يَعُودُونَ لِمَا قَالُوا فَتَحْرِيرُ رَقَبَةٍ مِّن قَبْلِ أَن يَتَمَاسَّا ذَلِكُمْ تُوعَظُونَ بِهِ وَاللهُ بِمَا تَعْمَلُوِنَ خَبِيرٌ * فَمَن لَّمْ يَجِدْ فَصِيَامُ شَهْرَيْنِ مُتَتَابِعَيْنِ مِن قَبْلِ أَن يَتَمَاسَّا فَمَن لَّمْ يَسْتَطِعْ فَإِطْعَامُ سِتِّينَ مِسْكِينًا ﴾ • [المجادلة:2-4]

50. This means: • “Those among you who make their wives unlawful (Azh-Zhihar ) to them by saying to them "You are like my mother's back." They cannot be their mothers. None can be their mothers except those who gave them birth. And verily, they utter an ill word and a lie. And verily, Allah is Oft-Pardoning, Oft-Forgiving.