Journal Entry- Respond in your journal

2. Journal Entry- Respond in your journal • “There comes a point in your life when you realize who really matters, who never did, and who always will.” -Unknown • “If we are incapable of finding peace in ourselves, it is pointless to search elsewhere.” -Francois de la Rochefoucauld • “Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born.” -Anais Nin

3. Relationships- They can be complicated!

4. Objectives: • To understand the various types of relationships we have in our lives. • To understand the components of a healthy relationship. • To determine what is important to you in a relationship. • To understand how technology effects our relationships

5. Relationship= Bond or connection between two people The connection satisfies basic emotional needs Basic emotional needs= to love, to be loved, comfort, security, disclosure, trust Healthy relationship= both parties feel the same way and want a relationship Role= part one plays in a relationship, roles may change

6. Types Family Friendship Community Loving

7. Write 5-10 characteristics of the following people

8. A Good Friend

9. A Good Boyfriend/Girlfriend

10. A Good Student

11. A Good Teacher

12. A Good Parent

13. Family - The first relationship you ever have - Provides the strongest bonds - With family, you get what you get. In other words, you have no choice.

14. What kind of role does family play in your life? • In your notes, answer this question. Describe the dynamics of your family. Who plays which role? What are your thoughts and feelings about family? More specifically, your family?

15. Friendship A significant relationship between two people based on caring, respect, consideration, and communication Close friends vs. Casual friends- do you know the difference? Platonic friendship: relationship with member of opposite gender which there is affection but no sexual activity

16. Answer these questions about friendships in your notes: • How did these people become your friends? • What do you have in common? • Why are you friends with these people? • Are you closer to some people than others?

17. Community Examples include teachers, neighbors, business, citizen, organizations, clubs, leaders, volunteer What kinds of relationships do you have with these people?

18. LOVING • A profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person that usually entails sexual passion or desire. • Does not typically happen until teenage years or later. • There is a significant difference between young love, mature love, and lust.

19. Anyone want to share their thoughts on love? • Is there a difference between being in love and loving someone? • Is it possible to deeply love someone at your age? • Have you ever told someone you loved them? Watch this clip from Seinfeld to see how it went for George: • http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bfx7izBNHeI&feature=player_detailpage

20. “As we grow up, we learn that even the one person that wasn't supposed to ever let you down probably will. You will have your heart broken probably more than once and it's harder every time. You'll break hearts too, so remember how it felt when yours was broken. You'll fight with your best friend. You'll blame a new love for things an old one did. You'll cry because time is passing too fast, and you'll eventually lose someone you love.”

21. What qualities make up a healthy relationship? • Brainstorm with your seat buddy • Share your thoughts with the class

22. A Healthy Relationship Cooperation= working together for the good of all Compromise= result of each person giving something up to reach result that satisfies everyone Respect for each other’s opinion Acceptance, Honesty, Trustworthiness= knowing they would not do anything to hurt you Dependability, Loyalty= there when you need someone and can trust they will speak good about you even when you are not around Empathy= ability to share another person's feeling/thoughts

23. Take care of yourself and have good self-esteem independent of your relationship Maintain and respect each other's individuality Maintain relationships with friends and family Have activities apart from one another Are able to express yourselves to one another without fear of consequences Are able to feel secure and comfortable Allow and encourage other relationships Take interest in one another's activities Do not worry about violence in the relationship

24. Trust each other and be honest with each other Have the option of privacy Have respect for sexual boundaries Are honest about sexual activity if it is a sexual relationship Accept influence. Relationships are give and take; allowing your partner to influence you is important; this can be especially difficult for some men. Resolve conflict fairly: Fighting is part of even healthy relationships, the difference is how the conflict is handled. Fighting fairly is an important skill you help you have healthier relationships.

25. Don’t forget: Communicating Effectively Communication is a process through which you send messages and receive messages from others Speaking skills, listening skills are vital in a relationship, as well as non-verbal communication

26. An Unhealthy Relationship • Put one person before the other by neglecting yourself or your partner • Feel pressure to change who you are for the other person • Feel worried when you disagree with the other person • Feel pressure to quit activities you usually/used to enjoy • Pressure the other person into agreeing with you or changing to suit you better • Notice one of you has to justify your actions (e.g. where you go, who you see) • Have a lack of privacy, and may be forced to share everything with the other person

27. Notice arguments are not settled fairly • Experience yelling or physical violence during an argument • Attempt to control or manipulate each other • Notice your partner attempts to controls how you dress and criticizes your behaviors • Do not make time to spend with one another • Have no common friends, or have a lack of respect for each others' friends and family • Notice an unequal control of resources (food, money, home, car, etc.) • Experience a lack of fairness and equality

28. How can technology help and hurt our relationships? • Create a list of the pros and cons of technology on our relationships • Compare it to your seat partner and discuss

30. How well do you communicate? Let’s find out!

31. Now you are going to evaluate one of your own relationships… • Think about someone you have or have had a relationship with (friend, family member, boyfriend/ girlfriend/ etc.) • Use the worksheet provided to evaluate your relationship • Attempt to answer all questions HONESTLY!!!

32. Conclusion • There are various types of relationships including friendship, love, family, and community. • A healthy relationship involves many qualities including trust, positive communication, respect, etc. • We all have different relationships and based upon what we value plays a strong role in what we want or expect in our relationships.