What is your “ Love Language ”? #1-30 and title your paper.

1. What is your “Love Language”?#1-30 and title your paper.

2. #1) • A) Sweet notes from my partner make me feel good. • E) I love my partner’s hugs.

3. #2 • B) I like to be alone with my partner. • D) I feel loved when my partner washes my car.

4. #3 • C) Receiving special gifts from my partner makes me happy. • B) I enjoy long trips with my partner.

5. #4 D) I feel loved when my partner helps me with the laundry. E) I like it when my partner hugs me.

6. #5 • E) I feel loved when my partner puts his/her arm around me. • C) I know my partner loves me because s/he surprises me with small presents.

7. #6 • B) I like going most anywhere with my partner. • E) I like to hold my partner’s hand.

8. #7 • C) I value the gifts my partner gives me. • A) I love to hear my partner say s/he loves me.

9. #8 • E) I like for my partner to sit close to me. • A) My partner tells me I look good, and I like that.

10. #9 • B) Spending time with my partner makes me happy. • C) Even the smallest present from my partner is important to me.

11. #10 • A) I feel loved when my partner tells me s/he is proud of me. • D) When my partner helps clean up after me, I know that s/he loves me.

12. #11 • B) No matter what we do, I love doing things with my partner. • A) Supportive comments from my partner make me feel good.

13. #12 • D) Little things my partner does for me mean more to me than things s/he says. • E) I love to hug my partner.

14. #13 • A) My partner’s praise means a lot to me. • C) It means a lot to me that my partner gives me gifts I really like.

15. #14 • B) Just being around my partner makes me feel good. • E) I love it when my partner gives me a massage.

16. #15 • A) My partner’s reactions to my accomplishments are so encouraging. • D) It means a lot to me when my partner helps with something I know s/he hates.

17. #16 • E) I never get tired of my partner’s kisses. • B) I love that my partner shows real interest in things I like to do.

18. #17 • D) I can count on my partner to help me with projects. • C) I still get excited when opening a present from my partner.

19. #18 A) I love for my partner to compliment my appearance. B) I love that my partner listens to me and respects my ideas.

20. #19 E) I can’t help but touch my partner when s/he’s close by. D) My partner sometimes runs errands for me, and I appreciate that.

21. #20 D) My partner deserves an award for all the things s/he does to help me. C) I’m sometimes amazed at how thoughtful my partner’s gifts to me are.

22. #21 B) I love having my partner’s undivided attention. D) I love that my partner helps clean the house.

23. #22 C) I look forward to seeing what my partner gives me for my birthday. A) I never get tired of hearing my partner tell me that I am important to him/her.

24. #23 C) My partner lets me know s/he loves me by giving me things. D) My partner shows his/her love by helping me without me having to ask.

25. #24 B) My partner doesn’t interrupt me when I am talking, and I like that. C) I never get tired of receiving gifts from my partner.

26. #25 D) My partner is good about asking how s/he can help when I’m tired. B) It doesn’t matter where we go, I just like going places with my partner.

27. #26 E) I love cuddling with my partner. C) I love surprise presents from my partner.

28. #27 A) My partner’s encouraging words give me confidence. B) I love to watch movies with my partner.

29. #28 C) I couldn’t ask for any better gifts than the ones my partner gives me. E) I love it that my partner is affectionate with me.

30. #29 D) It means a lot to me when my partner helps me despite being busy. A) It makes me feel really good when my partner tells me s/he appreciates me.

31. #30 E) I love hugging and kissing my partner after we’ve been apart for a while. A) I love hearing my partner tell me that s/he missed me.

32. SCORING: (total up each) A = B = C = D = E =

33. SCORING: (total up each) A = Words of Affirmation B = Quality Time C = Receiving Gifts D = Acts of Service E = Physical Touch

34. What can we do?In order to improve communication / relationships in my life, I can know their “Love Language” and…

35. Words of Affirmation • Print on a 3x5 card “Words are important!” • For one week keep track of all the positive words you say to your partner. • Goal = one different compliment for each day for a month. • As you watch TV, read, or listen to others: record WOA that others use, then use them on your partner. • Write a love letter, paragraph or a sentence to your partner. Give it quietly or with fanfare. • Compliment your partner in front of his or her friends or family. • Tell your partner how much you appreciate his/her strengths.

36. Quality Time • Walk together. • Go to a park and rent bikes (watch ducks, learn favorite colors). • Ask partner for a list of preferred activities( freebies vs.$). • Ask where partner prefers sitting when talking to you( text her to make a date there). • Do an activity that your partner enjoys. • Make time everyday to share certain events of the day. • Play lets “review our history” (ex, when did you feel your parents were proud of you?) • Camp out in the living room. (eat drink and talk… NO TV!)

37. Receiving Gifts • Give your partner small gifts throughout the day • Keep an eye out when your out with your partner for meaningful/symbolic gifts. • Make a handmade gift • Give a gift every week • Listen carefully to your partner for hints and write it down in a “gift idea notebook” • Ask a family member or friend of your partner for gift ideas • Read a book together and discuss it • Give a lasting tribute (in honor of your partner) • Give a living (plant a tree)

38. Acts of Service • Do one of the things your partner wants you to do each week • Make note cards of what you will do for your spouse each day • Give your partner a love note • Ask for a list of things that your partner wants you to do for them. • If your partner nags about something that is important to her, do it to express to express your love. • Write down in words your feelings • Perform a major act of service • Do the “little things” your partner really wants the most

39. Physical Touch • Hold your partner’s hand • Play “footsies” • While expressing your feelings, hug your partner • Give a foot/shoulder massage • Show your affection in front of other people • When you first see them, greet them with a hug and kiss

40. Elaboration / Description: My “love language” is (characterized as/ known as) ___. One (indicator/characteristic) of this is ___, which is (illustrated/defined) by ___. It is important to understand this because ___.