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Listening Notes. Real or Active Listening Pseudo (Fake) or Passive Listening. Types of Listening. We really listen when… 1. we want to understand someone 2. we want to enjoy someone 3. want/need to learn something 4. give help or solace. Real/ Active Listening . Pseudo or Fake Listening.
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Real or Active Listening Pseudo (Fake) or Passive Listening Types of Listening
We really listen when… 1. we want to understand someone 2. we want to enjoy someone 3. want/need to learn something 4. give help or solace Real/ Active Listening
Pseudo or Fake Listening • We act like we’re listening when we are not • 1. Not to offend someone – parent • 2. So people will like us - friend
Why we do not listen • Physical Barriers • Mental Barriers
Physical Barrier - Something is physically wrong with us Can’t see Can’t hear Tired Sick ADD/ADHD Physical Barriers - Examples
Concentration level does not permit listening - We are in control of this. Examples: Daydreaming- vs Listening in Spare Time Attitude- don’t like the speaker or subject Knowledge level- above the speaker= bored, below= frustrated Mental Barriers - Examples
Comparing Mind Reading Rehearsing Filtering Judging Dreaming Identifying Advising Sparring Being Right Derailing Placating IV. Selective Listening Blocks
Accept the problem and fix it. For example, move if you can’t see Concentrate Take Notes Listen for key words Practice- listen to and write all word down. How to Improve Your Listening