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PARENTING SUCCESS: BEHAVIOR AND DISCIPLINE IN THE HOME. FEBRUARY 19, 2013. OBJECTIVE. Identify the importance of structure and routine for all children Recognize the needs of individual children and how best to support them in the home The Parent Rap. The Big Picture For Every Child.
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PARENTING SUCCESS: BEHAVIOR AND DISCIPLINE IN THE HOME • FEBRUARY 19, 2013
OBJECTIVE • Identify the importance of structure and routine for all children • Recognize the needs of individual children and how best to support them in the home • The Parent Rap
The Big Picture For Every Child • Structure/Routine • Nutrition • Sleep
structure/routine • Consistent Schedule • Presence of key adults (dad, mom, siblings, etc.) • Time to play (define play time) • Time to work (define work time) • Time to rest (define rest time)
nutrition • Routine meal times • Incorporate meats, vegetables, and fruits into all meals • Limit sugar, processed snacks • Children that control food intake
sleep • Consistent bedtime routine • Consistent bedtime (even on the weekends) • Research: Children ages 5-11 need 10-12 hours of sleep each night • Limit night time distractions (TV, lights, talking, toys)
focus: 3 specific behaviors • The defiant child • The anxious child • The hyperactive child
the defiant child • Dr. Alan Kazdin • “Attention to bad behavior increases bad behavior. Attention to good behavior increases good behavior.” - Dr. Alan Kazdin, Yale University
the defiant child • Red Flags: • tantrums • arguing • refusal to comply • blaming others • seek revenge
the defiant child • How is parenting this child different? Praise: -Acknowledge what you see good -Praise immediate and specific -Praise Positive Opposite (e.g. dirty clothes) -Start a reward system
the defiant child • Give one direction • Stay calm • Punishment: Make it brief and immediate (longer and harsher punishment does not make it more effective)
the anxious child • The Anxious Child • Does your child worry more than the average kid?
the anxious child • Red flags: • stomach aches • problems sleeping • reluctant of social events • people pleaser (hard to identify)
the anxious child How is parenting this child different? -Structure and routine are essential for this child -Consistent presence of key adults -When child is anxious, stay calm -Breathing/exercise/child yoga
the anxious child • Green and red light statements • Take small steps • Praise small step accomplishments • www.adaa.org
the hyperactive child • The Hyperactive Child
the hyperactive child • Red flags: • Constant motion • Fidgets, easily distracted • Difficult time listening or making eye contact • Difficult time playing quietly • Talks excessively, interrupts others
the hyperactive child How is parenting this child different? -Constant guidance and supervision -Clear, consistent expectations -Discipline system -Organization
the hyperactive child • One reminder is not enough for this child • Plan transitions (countdown) • Do not punish mistakes or lack of progress • Praise small steps • Patience
Pajerski Principle “To give is better than to receive.”
parent supports • CES Parent Resource Center • CES Administrators/Counselors • Relationships • YOU Time
your children are our children • “To be in your children’s memories tomorrow, you have to be in their lives today.” - Barbara Johnson • “We may not be able to prepare the future for our children, but we can at least prepare our children for the future.” - Franklin D.