The Principles of Peace The Centrality of Marriage and Family

1. The Principles of Peace The Centrality of Marriage and Family U P F

2. The Primary Human Institution The family is the most important human institution. Without it we would not exist. Through it we transmit language, culture, ethics and core values.

3. The Primary Human Institution The quality of character, and the quality of the love of the man and the woman, as husband and wife and as father and mother, makes them the pillars of the family.

4. UPF emphasizes the balance between Spiritual and Physical / Religious and Secular • Truth • Beauty • Goodness • Love Mind Inner Satisfaction Happiness • Food • Shelter • Wealth • Comfort Physical Well-being Body

5. Religions Honour the Family When the personal life is cultivated, the family will be regulated; when the family is regulated the state will be in order; when the state is in order, there will be peace throughout the world. The Great Learning When the family declines, ancient traditions are destroyed. With them are lost the spiritual foundation for life, and the family loses its sense of unity. Bhagavad-Gita 1.40

6. Religions Honour the Family When a man honors his father and mother, God says, “I regard it as though I had dwelt among them and they had honored me. Talmud If a man does not know how to manage his own household, how can he care for God’s church? I Timothy 3.5

7. Religions Honour the Family Lord, give us joy in our wives and children, and make us models for the God-fearing. Qur’an 25.74 My father, thank you for petting me; my mother, thank you for making me comfortable; thank you for robbing me with wisdom, which is more important than robbing me with clothes. Yoruba Nuptial Chant (Africa)

8. What Makes for Peace ?

9. A world of complementary pairs 9

10. The Pair System - Male and Female Human Male Female Animal Male Female Plant Stamen Pistil Mineral Positive Negative

11. The Pair system – Mind and Body Human Mind Body Animal Instinct Body Plant Plant Mind Body Mineral Inherent Nature Matter & Energy

12. The Pair system - principle of interaction Giving Subject partner Object partner Responding The body resembles the mind Teacher and pupil

13. The pair system - centres on a higher purpose Purpose to maintain life Education

14. The Pair System - higher purpose GOD Higher Purpose Higher Purpose Object partner Subject partner Give & Take Action (living for each other) Union Good Result – joy / Peace / happiness Development Realise the purpose

15. The Pair System – Living for the Sake of Others GOD Higher Purpose Mind Body Husband Wife Object partner Subject partner Parent Child Union Government People Human Being Environment

16. Individual Peace and happiness God Mind • Body True Person • Mind/body unity - integrity • Growth in character - maturity • Closeness to God – higher values 16

17. Peace and happiness in Family and Society God husband wife Children The FAMILY is the ‘building block’ Family Society Nation World

18. Universal Peace – harmony with nature God People • Natural World • Dominion through love • Care for the environment • Material prosperity for all • Science and technology benefit human beings and the natural world Harmony People/nature True Ownership, Responsible Stewardship

19. Three Foundations 3. Universal Peace 2. Peace in Family & Society God Nature People God 1. Individual Peace Wife Husband Harmony People/nature God True Family Body Mind true ownership- responsible stewardship Family Society Nation World True Person

20. Peace in the Family and Society The central role of the family in learning to love

21. Foundation for Lasting Peace and Happiness 2. Peace in Human Society God’s Love God husband True Love wife True Life true children Family Society Nation World True Lineage

22. Marriage joins the life of one woman and the life of one man. In time, through children, it joins the lineage of the man and the lineage of the woman. It thus begins a history, a nation, the world and the Kingdom of Heaven on Earth. Sun Myung Moon Love, Life and Lineage

23. The School of Love- nurturing heart and character, the primary training ground for relationships Where do we learn True Love? From our parents, as our first teachers The Family is:

24. The School of Morality – the basis of societal norms and proper conduct in the wider world Where do we learn True Love? In relating to brothers and sisters, parents and grandparents The Family is:

25. Where do we learn True Love? As husband and wife; and from seeing God in our partner The Couple is: The Image of the Creator – living for the sake of each other, the family and the wider world; being a model of True Love to their children

26. The Family living for the society, nation and world Strong families have a focus higher than self Altruistic Purpose Service to Community

27. Child’s Love Sibling’s Love Spouse’s Love Parent’s Love The Four Great Loves Experienced and learnt within the family

28. The Four Great Loves GOD M F GOD Parent’s Love Spouse’s Love Sibling’s Love Child’s Love Wife Husband Parents Sister Brother CHILD M F Daughter Son

29. The sanctity of sexual love God’s Love Man Woman Husband’s love Wife’s love A mans’ sexual love belongs exclusively to his wife and a woman’s sexual love belongs exclusively to her husband

30. The Growing Period God 2. Maturity of heart and character True Teacher, Parent and Owner husband wife 1. Mind and Body united in a life of love for God and others children • To grow spiritually human beings need: • To receive love, truth and example from true parents, • teachers, leaders and elders representing God. • To respond and grow by living for the sake of others, • developing the heart and conscience to guide the body • to act in love and truth • In this way we balance increasing freedom and responsibility and participate in the creation of ourselves as mature children of God • God’s responsibility + Human responsibility >> True Person Completion stage Adolescence Growth stage Childhood Formation stage Infancy Birth

31. What is our role as Ambassadors for Peace? Individual - True Teacher Be of benefit to others by words and example Family and Society - True Parent Establish a marriage and family of true love - Have a parental heart towards all Environment – True Owner Exercise good stewardship and dominion over nature 31

32. Why Conflict ?

33. Peace – Living for the sake of others • Living for the sake of others – pair system • I exist to benefit the whole – higher purpose The Individual Lives for the Whole Individual Whole The Whole supports the Individual

34. Reality is tragically different – a world of conflict

35. The Cause of Conflicts • ‘Self’- centred, not higher purpose - centred • Others exist for my benefit • Diminish the value of the whole Individual Whole

36. The reality of Human Nature Selfish Nature Well-developed Original Nature Undeveloped

37. Our thoughts and actions determine our nature Evil Good Evil or selfish thoughts, words and actions Immediate ‘body’ dominated Unselfish thoughts, words and actions Eternal Mind led There is a battle in the mind of each person which manifests as conflict in the family, society and world

38. The Conflicted Self The mind is two-fold: the pure and also the impure. Hinduism, Maitri Upanishad 6.34 Every person has both a bad heart and good heart. Native American Religions, Mohawk Tradition I do not do the good that I want, but the evil I do not want is what I do. Christianity, Romans 7.15

39. The Origin of Conflict – clues in traditional stories • Not intended as scientific history • Intuition about the human condition • Religious traditions believed to be revealed from a divine source

40. Conflict in the Family Adam and Eve: illicit love Cain and Abel: the first murder

41. The impact of sexual immorality • It is better to die than to indulge in partaking of forbidden lustful pleasure. Uttarangasutram 22.42 The man who goes to the wife of another …digs up the very roots of life. Dhammapada 18.247 Do not come near adultery: for it is a shameful deed and evil, opening the road to other evils. Qur’an 17.32 Flee from sexual immorality. … he who sins sexually sins against his own body. I Corinthians 6.18

42. Conflict in the Family Evil, selfish purpose False Love Self-centred Woman Self-centred Man False Parents Self-centred Children False Life Selfish viewpoint Irresponsible Exploiting others Multiplying Evil Self-centred Family & Society False Lineage

43. The root cause of conflict God 1) Separation from God 2) Individual-level Conflict People Mind Body (Spiritual) (Physical) • Whole • Others • Self

44. The root cause of conflict 2) Individual-level Conflict Mind Body 3) Family-level Conflict Husband Wife Brother Brother

45. The expansion of conflict 3. Universal Conflict 2. Conflict in Human Society Selfish Purpose 1. Conflict within the Individual Environment Selfish Purpose Selfish People Wife Husband Selfish Purpose False Ownership False Lineage Body Mind Self-serving Exploitative Family Society Nation World Selfish Person

46. Restoring Peace and Happiness

47. Where does peace begin ? Since wars begin in the minds of men, it is in the minds of men that the defenses of peace must be constructed. UNESCO Constitution Preamble 47

48. We need spiritual renewal I see no hope for permanent world peace. We have tried and failed miserably. Unless the world has a spiritual rebirth, civilization is doomed. Dag Hammarskjold Second UN Secretary-General

49. Religion: a restorative vehicle True religious practice seeks to restore the original ideal of peace and promotes: • Humility in front of God, respect to parents, fidelity in marriage, loyalty, public service • Personal discipline, sacrifice and control of physical desires • Restraint, patience and forgiveness in relationships • Love others as you love yourself • Love of neighbours, and even enemies

50. How do we change our nature ? Indemnity = Spiritual Restoration Original Position • An effort to reverse or restore something that was lost. • Taking responsibility by taking actions to correct flaws, weaknesses and bad habits Lost Restored Current Reality