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FCS 4845

Friends Versus Lovers. What are some important differences/similarities between friends and lovers?. Cont.. Love and friendship are alike in many ways, but there are crucial differencesLove has higher levels of fascination, exclusiveness, sexual desireLove relationships carry greater potential for

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FCS 4845

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    1. FCS 4845 Friendship, Intimacy, and Singlehood

    2. Friends Versus Lovers What are some important differences/similarities between friends and lovers?

    3. Cont. Love and friendship are alike in many ways, but there are crucial differences Love has higher levels of fascination, exclusiveness, sexual desire Love relationships carry greater potential for distress, ambivalence, conflict, and mutual criticism Love runs deeper and stronger

    4. Cont. Strongest love relationships have roots in friendship In looking for a partner, love is by far the most common factor individuals cite

    5. The Love Triangle Love Triangle = Robert Sternberg = 3 dimensions: 1. Commitment - cognitive component 2. Intimacy - emotional component 3. Passion - motivational component

    6. Cont. Using these three dimensions of love in various combos : 8 types of love relations: Non-love, liking, infatuation, empty love, romantic love, fatuous love, companionate love, and consummate love

    7. Three perspectives on love Erich Fromm -too many people think that love is simple Stanton Peele - many people “in love” are addicted to love James Dobson - demonstrating some independence from the relationship can strengthen it

    8. Exploring Intimacy: From Experience to Relationship Intimacy versus isolation Intimacy and communication Intimate experiences versus an intimate relationship The paradox of marriage and intimacy

    9. Developing Intimacy Traits of intimate and non-intimate relationships Ten essential relationship strengths

    10. Intimacy Games Destructive intimacy games - 1. “I Don’t Care…You Decide” 2. “The Ties That Bind” Limiting destructive games - Zero-Sum: What I win will be your loss. My gains minus your losses sum to zero.

    11. Being Single Pros/Cons of being single? Can singles be as happy as married couples? Increasing singlehood Characteristics of successful singles - tend to be highly educated and achievement oriented

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