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Feelings aren’t Facts

Feelings aren’t Facts. They’re Feelings!. Thinking – Feeling - Behavior. Core of Carried Shame. Children are sponges They are egocentric Emotion is energy Shameless behavior is induced into children. They are vulnerable They are collecting data

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Feelings aren’t Facts

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  1. Feelings aren’t Facts They’re Feelings!

  2. Thinking – Feeling - Behavior

  3. Core of Carried Shame • Children are sponges • They are egocentric • Emotion is energy • Shameless behavior is induced into children. • They are vulnerable • They are collecting data • They develop a shame core that is not their own.

  4. Exercise – pick a partner

  5. What I make up about it… Communication Feedback Loop • When you – state the behavior • What I made up about it – describe your thinking, or what you are making up about it • How I felt about it is … • What I need from you is …

  6. Alcohol Drugs – Illegal Drugs - Prescriptions Gambling Spending Debting Eating disorders Nicotine Caffeine Sugar Work Busyness Sexual acting out Pornography Love addiction Internet surfing Addictions

  7. Shame Core Circle

  8. Normal Development

  9. Feelings Chart

  10. Shame Binds A shame bind happens whenever a codependent begins to have a feeling and immediately has shaming messages go through the mind about how bad or wrong having that feeling is. This stops the original feeling and a shame attack takes over as the predominant feeling.

  11. Learn to practice the 3 step • Get your history straight – have your feelings about it. • Nurture the child ego states that are stuck in you. Affirm and protect. • Meetings, step work, service work, sponsorship to strengthen the healthy adult self that is being formed.

  12. THE BEGINNING – ENJOY THE JOURNEY

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