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Powerful Tools for Increasing Coaching Effectiveness. Transactional Analysis Models for Understanding, Predicting and Influencing Behavior. Laurie Weiss, Ph.D., MCC, and Jonathan Weiss, Ph.D. Four “Healthy” Models. Needs-Response Cycle Ego States Relationship Model Communication Model.
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Powerful Tools for Increasing Coaching Effectiveness Transactional Analysis Models for Understanding, Predicting and Influencing Behavior. Laurie Weiss, Ph.D., MCC, and Jonathan Weiss, Ph.D.
Four “Healthy” Models Needs-Response Cycle Ego States Relationship Model Communication Model
The Needs-Response Cycle How We All Function — from Birth to Death
Natural Needor Feeling Natural BehavioralExpression
Natural Needor Feeling Natural BehavioralExpression Need Met
Natural Needor Feeling Natural BehavioralExpression Need Met
Natural Needor Feeling Natural BehavioralExpression Need Met
Okay Natural Needor Feeling Natural BehavioralExpression Need Met
Natural Needor Feeling Natural BehavioralExpression Need NOT Met
Natural Needor Feeling Natural BehavioralExpression Need NOT Met
Natural Needor Feeling Natural BehavioralExpression Need NOT Met
Natural Needor Feeling Natural BehavioralExpression Need NOT Met Not OK
Natural Needor Feeling Anger Natural BehavioralExpression Need NOT Met Not OK
Natural BehavioralExpression Natural Needor Feeling Anger Not OK Need NOT Met
Anger Natural Needor Feeling Natural BehavioralExpression Natural BehavioralExpression Need NOT Met Not OK
Anger Okay Natural Needor Feeling Natural BehavioralExpression Need NOT Met Need Met Not OK Substitute Behavior
Anger Okay Natural Needor Feeling Natural BehavioralExpression Need NOT Met Need Met Substitute Behavior Not OK
Substitute Behavior Reinforcement
Substitute Behavior Reinforcement Confrontation
Anger Natural Needor Feeling Okay Not OK Natural BehavioralExpression Need NOT Met Need Met Substitute Confrontation Reinforcement
Anger Natural Needor Feeling Okay Natural BehavioralExpression Not OK Need NOT Met Need Met Substitute Confrontation Reinforcement
Anger Natural Needor Feeling Okay Natural BehavioralExpression Need NOT Met Need Met Substitute Confrontation Reinforcement Not OK
Anger Natural Needor Feeling Okay Natural BehavioralExpression Need NOT Met Need Met Substitute Confrontation Reinforcement Not OK
Anger Natural Needor Feeling Okay Natural BehavioralExpression Need NOT Met Need Met Substitute Confrontation Reinforcement Not OK
Ego States(Transactional Analysis) Parent P A Adult C Child
Critical Judgmental Scolding Nurturing Guiding Protective P A Rational Natural Spontaneous Impulsive Compliant Rebellious C
What Was Your Challenging Question? Working in groups of three, use the Ego State Model to identify five different possible answers to the question.
Contamination(Unhealthy) Parent Adult Child
Co-Dependency(Our Definition) • An agreement between two people that one person’s needs are more important than the other’s. • There may or may not be disagreement about whose needs are more important.
The Healthy Communication Model • Takes INITIATIVE to take into account: • My own needs and feelings • Others’ needs and feelings • The reality of the situation
Signs of Trouble— The Games People Play Repetitive Pattern Confusion (Switch) Predictable Negative Feelings “I should have known that would happen!”or“I knew that would happen!”
WHY?! Failed Attempt to Meet Needs Substitute Behavior
IMPORTANT!! People are always doing the best they can to get what they need, based on the resources available to them at the time.
Recognizing Invitations to Games Discounting Passive Behavior Drama Triangle
The Problem (Denial) The Significance of the Problem The Solvability of the Problem The Self Discounting
Passive Behavior • Doing Nothing • Overadaptation • Agitation • Incapacitation or Violence
The Drama Triangle Persecutor Rescuer Victim
Think of a time… You found yourself in the Drama Triangle -- (If you’re not willing to talk about it, make one up!) What was your hidden agenda? What could you have done instead of playing? Discuss with your group.
Never worry about theory as long as the machinery does what it's supposed to do. Robert Heinlein