Body Language… the good, the bad, and the give aways… Submitted by Kerri Campbell University of the Incarnate Word

1. Body Language… the good, the bad, and the give aways…Submitted by Kerri CampbellUniversity of the Incarnate Word

2. So what’s the deal? • Everyone speaks with body language- whether we intend to or not- here are some features you can recognize in yourself and in others. • Just remember, that while these ideas are scientifically proven there may be instances where they are incorrect! So please, be careful in your judgements.

3. “Closed” gestures Arms crossed, legs crossed, looking down or away. What does it mean?? For the most part, people do this when they feel threatened, cold, or sense a need to hide. How do you change it? If you see someone making these gestures, mimic them. For the most part, they’ll unwind. You can also give them something to hold, this makes the object a blocker, but allows a person to person opening.

4. “Evaluating” Gestures Clasping hands, intertwining fingers, pursing lips, intense gaze, rubbing nose, and pushing up glasses. What does it mean? Generally, when people make these movements, they are mentally evaluating someone or something. Additionally, it is possible that an individual is attempting to make a decision and are concentrating, while performing these behaviors.

5. “Aggressive” Gestures Frowning, pursing lips, snarling, opening stance (legs and arms), facial reddening, dropping hands into fists, whole arm movements. What does it mean? Stay clear! While it’s impossible to predict if someone will act aggressively, it’s a good idea to be cautious and avoid confrontation. By expanding one’s self, it becomes easy to invade someone else's personal space and promotes a feel of dominance. Additionally, people who continually take on these mannerisms are generally believed to be quick tempered.

6. “Defensive” Gestures Covering vital organs and points of vulnerability, lowing chin, holding out arms, holding a small object in front of you, huddling tensing muscles. What does it mean? Arms, hands and legs are generally used to shield a person if they feel threatened. Performing these mannerisms is a well received indicator that a person is feeling belittled, scolded or simply unwanted.

7. “Romantic” Gestures Repeatedly looking at someone, leaning forward, batting eyes, preening, moving into personal space, lightly touching arms, blushing. What does it mean? For the most part, this means that an individual is showing interest, but it may not specifically mean they like you. These gestures are done inherently and may be preformed to show an interest in friendship.

8. YES Gestures • Opening Palms • Leaning Forward • Smiling • Direct Body Orientation • Head Nodding • Enhanced Eye Contact

9. NO Gestures • Folding Arms • Drumming • Hand holding the chin • Feet and trunk pointed oppositely • Hand covering the mouth • Increased fidgeting • Squinting