Module 3: Prevention of becoming a bully

1. Module 3: Prevention of becoming a bully

2. Learning outcomes of Module 3 • Learning to empathise with others • Learning how to reduce and control anger and aggression • Learning how to develop social skills • Learning possible consequences of cyber-bullying

3. 3.1 Raising of empathy

4. Activity 1: Characteristics of feelings

5. Activity 2: Exclusion

6. Activity 3: Dear Diary

7. Summary: raising of empathy • Try to identify the feelings of the other person. • Keep these feelings in mind when you are with them. • Try to see things from others’ perspective. • Show understanding for others’ perspective. Don’t try to get your way at any costs. • Show interest in the other person. • Listen to the other person (eye-contact, showing that you are listening).

8. Evaluation: 3.1 Raising of empathy

9. 3.2 Reduction of anger and aggression

10. Activity 1: Characteristics of anger and aggression

11. Summary: characteristics of anger and aggression Changes of the body: • Hands: moist palms, shaking, clenched into a fist • Stomach: pressure, feeling of sickness • Breathing: faster or heavily, hard to breathe • Chest: pressure, narrowness, stitching • Throat: having a lump in the throat, dry throat • Voice: trembling, hoarse, loud, shrill or becoming silent • Eyes: seeing red, blurred vision, squinting • Forehead: frowning, getting moist • Head: pressure, dizziness, headache, sensation of heat, feeling like it’s going to explode

12. Activity 2: Controlling of anger

13. Summary: behaviour when feeling anger When you feel anger, try to calm yourself down: • changelocation or leave the provoking situation • choose your individual “Cool-Down-Sentence” (e.g. “stay calm”, “I can do this”) and repeat it • distract yourself: do something you like, do physical exercises or think of positive experiences • try to relax, do breathing exercises • count to 10

14. Activity 3: Personal space

15. Summary: personal space • Each person has an individual personal space surrounding him/her like a bubble. It is needed for feeling comfortable and safe. • If somebody enters the space, different feelings can occur: fear, but also anger or aggression. • Keep this personal space in mind when meeting someone.

16. Evaluation: 3.2 Reduction of aggression

17. 3.3 Social skills training

18. Activity 1: Hot chair

19. Activity 2: Role play 1

20. Activity 3: Role play 2

21. Summary: social skills training Characteristics of self-confident behaviour: • Posture: Stand tall, head held high, chin up, shoulders back, feet firmly on the ground. Make eye-contact with the other person. • Thoughts: Encourage yourself with positive and realistic thoughts before entering a challenging situation! Tell yourself: “I can do this!” “I’m not afraid!” • Expression: Use I-statements! Express your needs and feelings! Be precise and explicit and tell it with a loud and clear, calm voice.

22. Evaluation: Social skills training

23. 3.4 Effects of cyber bullying

24. Activity 1: Discussion of video http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bgxNItGmiC4

25. Activity 2: Discussion of video http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ciZKNARbkXY

26. Activity 3: Legislation

27. Summary: effects of cyber-bullying Consequences for the victim: • reduced self-esteem • feelings of frustration, anger, sadness, hopelessness, loneliness, depression • sleeping problems, health problems • suicidal thoughts and behaviours, self-harm Cyber-bullying may affect a person for a long time, long after the bullying stops.

28. Summary: effects of cyber-bullying Legal consequences for the bully: • Cyber-bullying is an offence. • There are no specific cyber-bullying laws, but they are handled like insults, threats or stalking. • Also, in some countries you can be fined for spreading of photos and videos.

29. Evaluation: 3.4 Effects of cyber-bullying

30. Evaluation: Module 3: Prevention of becoming a bully

31. Evaluation activity: Mood barometer