Religious Views on Sexual Behaviour and Human Relationships

1. A Level Religious Studies -Ethics Religious Views on Sexual Behaviour and Human Relationships

2. CReligious Studies and Ethics A2 Brockwell Topic 3: Religious views on sexual behaviour and human relationships • Objective: • Identify and describe different religious and philosophical approaches to issues of sexuality and relationship

3. Q. What is meant by LOVE? In his book, ‘The Four Loves’, the famous Christian writer, C.S. Lewis, explores the nature of ‘love’ from a Christian perspective. He starts by putting love into what he sees is its true context: ‘Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God, becauseGod is love.’ 1 John 4: 7, 8 “Just like Lucifer, the archangel, became corrupt, so too love, the arch-emotion may become corrupt. Love begins to be a demon the moment he begins to be a god.” For Lewis, all forms of love emanate from God who is the very source of Love itself. Note: not God loves or God is loving, but, God islove. However...

4. Lewis, identifies four words for ‘Love’ within the Greek language. Eros Eros is erotic, passionate, sexual, sensual and romantic. Ultimately expressed in lovemaking, it seeks wholeness through physical unity. It is not necessarily virtuous, sometimes considered dangerous, it can focus on the physical whilst ignoring intellectual and unconditional aspects of love. Monastic traditions are suspicious of such an emphasis on physical gratification Some Buddhists see it as an obstacle to enlightenment whilst in Hinduism it is referred to as Kama.

5. Philia • Philial love focuses on the ideal of brotherhood or • kindred spirit among likeminded people. • Groups of the same ethnic, religious or cultural backgrounds often share such a strong common attachment. • Philia can be a profoundly moral form of love as it characterises natural bonds that exist in groups and lifelong friends. • However, it can be divisive leading to inter-group tensions. What’s more not all attachments are healthy or moral and so the word is also now associated with some unnatural tendencies.

6. Storge Storge or ‘affection’ is a fondness through familiarity, especially between family members or people who have otherwise found themselves together by chance. It is described as natural in that it is present without coercion; emotive because it is the result of fondness due to familiarity and most widely diffused because it pays the least attention to those characteristics deemed "valuable" or worthy of love. Ironically, its strength, is what makes it vulnerable. Affection has the danger of being taken for granted, and as a result people come to expect, even demand, its presence—irrespective of their behaviour or how reciprocal it may be.

7. Agape Agape is perhaps the highest of all types of love. Agape love is an unconditional love which expects nothing in return. This is the kind of love that inspires a person to help a stranger, it is often self-sacrificing, thoughtful it also disregards circumstances or consequences. It is a determined love rather than one ‘fallen in to’. Within Christianity it is seen as resolutely setting ones will to love others despite the fears or wants of our self. It is seen as similar to Jesus’ willingness to die on the cross for the benefit of humanity.

8. Storge Agape Storge or ‘affection’ is a fondness through familiarity, especially between family members or people who have otherwise found themselves together by chance. It is described as natural in that it is present without coercion; emotive because it is the result of fondness due to familiarity and most widely diffused because it pays the least attention to those characteristics deemed "valuable" or worthy of love. Ironically, its strength, is what makes it vulnerable. Affection has the danger of being taken for granted, and as a result people come to expect, even demand, its presence—irrespective of their behaviour or how reciprocal it may be. Agape is perhaps the highest of all types of love. Agape love is an unconditional love which expects nothing in return. This is the kind of love that inspires a person to help a stranger, it is often self-sacrificing, thoughtful it also disregards circumstances or consequences. It is a determined love rather than one ‘fallen in to’. Within Christianity it is seen as resolutely setting ones will to love others despite the fears or wants of our self. It is seen as similar to Jesus’ willingness to die on the cross for the benefit of humanity.

9. Questions for Discussion What is the difference between love and sex, and when it comes to ethics are there two separate sets of standards? How true is the saying ‘If it feels good, and it doesn’t harm anyone, I should go ahead and do it.’? Is religion too patriarchal to be the basis of sexual ethics in the modern world? Is there a need for stated sexual ethics in society? Should it not be up to the individuals concerned? Are religious views of sexuality and marriage hampered by traditional ideas of what is natural or by the fixed ideas of the roles of men and women Should sexual ethics be based on what the majority of people in society think?

10. Marriage or Cohabitation ‘The legal joining together of two people as a couple.’ Marriage ‘Living together as a couple without being married.’ Cohabitation • Living together is an excellent way to • see if you are compatible. • Marriage is different, much deeper and much more than living with someone. • Marriage is merely a piece of paper, • it is no guarantee of happiness. • There’s something special about • making your vows publicly. • People cohabit because they are • too scared to commit • In cohabitation the practical side of breaking up is very straightforward. • People who have been hurt in the past may not wish to marry again. • An individual is legally better off getting married, they have more rights. • Marriage might kill the • excitement in a relationship. • If you are married you are more likely to try and make the relationship work.

11. Christianity and Sex Outside of Marriage Christianity believes these relationships are wrong because: Pre-marital Sex: ‘Having sex before getting married.’ X • Sex was given by God for procreation • withinmarriage. • ‘Creation of Humanity ’ Genesis Ch 1 & 2 Promiscuity: ‘Having sex with a number of partners without wanting a relationship with them.’ • Jesus says • adulteryandpromiscuityare wrong. • ‘Woman at the Well ’ • John Ch 4 Adultery: ‘Having sex with someone other than your marriage partner (also called an extra-marital affair).’

12. Christianity and Sex Outside of Marriage • The Church should • come to terms with modern life and accept this form of commitment. Some Christians accept that couples may live together before marriage, but they would say the couple should be committed to each other and marry when they start a family. • Jesus taught that love is the most important thing and not fulfilling rituals. All Christians believe adultery is wrong: • It breaks the wedding vows to be faithful. • It is in the 10 commandments (the Decalogue). • It is condemned by Jesus in the Gospels.

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14. In 1936King Edward VIII was forced to give up his position as King as he fell in love and wanted to marry an American divorced woman, Mrs Wallace Simpson. Whereas In 2005,Prince Charles, a divorced man, married Mrs Camilla Parker Bowles, a divorced woman. Charles is in line to become the next King of the UK. As with many cultures Judaism, as portrayed in the Jewish and Christian text, shows the use of concubines. Women living in a relationship with a man who was already married. In a society where to have many children is seen as a blessing and to have none is a curse, this was common. Abraham slept with his maid-servant, Hagar, to have a son, Ishmael. Humans should abstain from the physical and live contemplative lives. The physical obstructs the soul’s progress. Pythagoras The division of the world between physical and spiritual is called dualism. Similarly the ancient Greek Stoics disapproved of the loss of control and ‘animal’ passion encountered through intercourse and the orgasm.

15. Modern world attitudes to sex and relationships are changing. Sexual pleasure is often seen as the ultimate goal by both male and female and is pursued mostly for its immediate physical satisfaction rather than its unifyingrelational qualities. In turn this often creates an egotistical attitude where, with mutual consent, any form of sex is morally right. Monogamy and commitment are not required, indeed they are often shunned, along with religious teaching and absolute moral ideals such as marriage and fidelity. The freedom of the individual is paramount. Almost as a paradox society today has a rising concern over sexual crimes, teenage pregnancy and the increase of STIs whilst contraception and abortions are free and confidential for children. Parents demand to know if known sex offenders are living in or near their community whilst dressing their children in Playboy clothing, and so called ‘soft’ pornography becomes increasingly acceptable. Cohabitingand divorce rise in equal measures as does the number of children in single parent families.

16. Commitment Marriage Reproduction Gender Sex & Relationships Gender Orientation Pleasure Religion Secular Society

17. A Level Religious Studies -Ethics Religious Views on Sexual Behaviour and Human Relationships

18. Q. What is meant by LOVE? In his book, ‘The Four Loves’, the famous Christian writer, C.S. Lewis, explores the nature of ‘love’ from a Christian perspective. He starts by putting love into what he sees is its truecontext: ‘Everyone who loves has been of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not God, because God is .’ 1 John 4:7+8 “Just like , the angel, became , so too love, the -emotion may become corrupt. Love begins to be a the moment he begins to be a .” For Lewis, all forms of love emanate from God who is the very source of Love itself. Note: not God loves or God is loving, but, God is love. However, Lewis also noted

19. Lewis, identifies four words for ‘Love’ within the Greek language. Eros Philia

20. Storge Agape

21. Questions for Discussion What is the difference between love and sex, and when it comes to ethics are there two separate sets of standards? How true is the saying ‘If it feels good, and it doesn’t harm anyone, I should go ahead and do it.’? Is religion too patriarchal to be the basis of sexual ethics in the modern world? Is there a need for stated sexual ethics in society? Should it not be up to the individuals concerned? Are religious views of sexuality and marriage hampered by traditional ideas of what is natural or by the fixed ideas of the roles of men and women Should sexual ethics be based on what the majority of people in society think?

22. Marriage or Cohabitation ‘The legal joining together of two people as a couple.’ Marriage ‘Living together as a couple without being married.’ Cohabitation • Living together is an excellent way to • see if you are compatible. • Marriage is different, much deeper and much more than living with someone. • Marriage is merely a piece of paper, • it is no guarantee of happiness. • There’s something special about • making your vows publicly. • People cohabit because they are • too scared to commit • In cohabitation the practical side of breaking up is very straightforward. • People who have been hurt in the past may not wish to marry again. • An individual is legally better off getting married, they have more rights. • Marriage might kill the • excitement in a relationship. • If you are married you are more likely to try and make the relationship work.

23. Christianity and Sex Outside of Marriage Christianity believes these relationships are wrong because: Pre-marital Sex: ‘Having sex before getting married.’ X • Sex was given by God for procreation • within marriage. • ‘Creation of Humanity ’ Genesis Ch 1 & 2 Promiscuity: ‘Having sex with a number of partners without wanting a relationship with them.’ • Jesus says • adulteryand promiscuityare wrong. • ‘Woman at the Well ’ • John Ch 4 Adultery: ‘Having sex with someone other than your marriage partner (also called an extra-marital affair).’

24. Christianity and Sex Outside of Marriage • The Church should • come to terms with modern life and accept this form of commitment. Some Christians accept that couples may live together before marriage, but they would say the couple should be committed to each other and marry when they start a family. • Jesus taught that love is the most important thing and not fulfilling rituals. All Christians believe adultery is wrong: • It breaks the wedding vows to be faithful. • It is in the 10 commandments (the Decalogue). • It is condemned by Jesus in the Gospels.

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26. In 1936King Edward VIII was forced to give up his position as King as he fell in love and wanted to marry an American divorced woman, Mrs WallaceSimpson. Whereas In 2005,Prince Charles, a divorced man, married Mrs Camilla Parker Bowles, a divorced woman. Charles is in line to become the next King of the UK. As with many cultures Judaism, as portrayed in the Jewishand Christian text, shows the use of concubines. Women living in a relationship with a man who was already married. In a society where to have many childrenis seen as a blessingand to have noneis a curse, this was common. Abrahamslept with his maid-servant, Hagar, to have a son, Ishmael. Humans should abstain from the and live lives. The physical obstructs the progress. Pythagoras The division of the world between physicaland spiritualis called dualism. Similarly the ancient Greek Stoicsdisapproved of the loss of control and ‘animal’ passion encountered through intercourseand the orgasm.

27. Modern world attitudes to sex and relationships are changing. Sexual pleasureis often seen as the ultimate goalby both male and female and is pursued mostly for its immediatephysical satisfactionrather than its unifyingrelationalqualities. In turn this often creates an egotisticalattitude where, with mutualconsent, any form of sex is morally right. Monogamy and commitment are not required, indeed they are often shunned, along with religiousteaching and absolute moral ideals such as marriage and fidelity. The freedom of the individual is paramount. Almost as a paradoxsociety today has a rising concern over sexualcrimes, teenage pregnancyand the increase of STIswhilst contraceptionand abortions are free and confidential for children. Parents demand to know if known sex offenders are living in or near their community whilst dressing their children in Playboy clothing, and so called ‘soft’ pornography becomes increasingly acceptable. Cohabitingand divorcerise in equal measures as does the number of children in single parent families.

28. Commitment Marriage Reproduction Gender Sex & Relationships Gender Orientation Pleasure Religion Secular Society