Welcome to TGIF Orientation

1. Welcome to TGIF Orientation Welcome to TGIF Orientation

2. Why we are called • T - The • G - Group • I - In • F - Fresno

3. Steering Committee • Created in 2001 • Bylaws • Chair-mistress • Six other positions • Vice Chair • Secretary • Demo Coordinator • Events Coordinator • Fund Raising Coordinator • Public Relations Coordinator • Term of positions • Listed on TGIF website’s bylaw page • TGIF Steering Committee needs you

4. Mission Statement • The purpose of TGIF is to promote and facilitate, safe, sane and consensual BDSM for adults with those interests, by providing a discreet, safe, supportive, atmosphere through education, discussion, resources and group events. SMU

5. TGIF is NOT • A swinging singles club – or • A dating service – or • A place for sex orgies

6. TGIF IS • A place for BDSM education DUNGEON MONITORING CLASS TOY MAKING WORKSHOPS BAY-AREA PRESENTERS SLAVE TRAINING DISCUSSION GROUPS

7. TGIF IS also • A place to make nonjudgmental friends

8. We need you • A good way to meet people is to volunteer

9. TGIF Membership • TGIF is open to all people who have attained the age of 18 and who have not been banned from group membership by the TGIF Steering Committee. No person shall be denied membership in this organization on the basis of race, sex, color, national origin, age, marital status, political views, disability, sexual orientation or kink.

10. How to Become a TGIF Member • Attend two munches or non-play events. • Attend this TGIF membership orientation • Complete the TGIF membership agreement form • Pay dues Member The Group In Fresno

11. Privacy

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13. What is BDSM? (Bondage, Discipline, Sadism, Masochism) • BDSM is one of several names given to a collection of behaviors that involve bondage, spanking, domination and other activities that are done in an erotic context. We believe that it should be practiced in a safe, sane, consensual and non-abusive manner. BDSM is a form of erotic play that involves significant emotional and physical risks and thus requires instruction in order to ensure reasonable safety.

14. Recommendations for Safety • Know your play partner • Leave reality out of it • Try it yourself • Prepare for emergencies • Have a silent alarm (safe call)

15. Recommendations for Safety (cont.) 6. Negotiation

16. Recommendations for Safety (cont.) • Use safe-words • Check in with submissive • Make sure “toys” are rounded off on edges • Start lightly and build slowly • Use the one-to-ten technique • Strike only muscled, fleshy areas of the body

17. Recommendations for Safety (cont.) • Use soft or plain paraffin candles • Self experiment with clamps before using • Do not try piercing or breaking the skin • At first play with no bondage • Don’t tie too tight

18. Recommendations for Safety (cont.) • Never leave a person alone • Should be able to free someone in one minute • Use caution when doing self-bondage • Play involving suffocation CAN BE LIFE THREATENING!

19. E-groups • TGIF_Announcements • FRBDSM • FresnoDM • TGIFDinner • TGIFCampPerv • TGIF_Tenth_Anniversary_Committee • TGIF_Steering_Committee_Forum

20. FRBDSM E-Group Rules • No real names, (phone numbers, address) • No personal ads • No flames • No under 18 year old

21. FRDSM E-Group - Other Things • Remember email goes to all e-group members • Personal discussion • No RSVP • Off topic • Forward to everyone you know • Jokes • Subject line

22. E-vites • Usually go out a week before the event • Usually for members-only events • RSVP • What you will bring (per person) • Guests • View Map • Payment via PayPal • Addy Changes

23. Bringing Guests

24. RSVP Rule • The TGIF steering committee has adopted a rule that states:  "If a member RSVPs to afunction and does not give at least 24 hours cancellation notice they will be required to pay the function fee. Until the fee is paid theperson is put on a waiting list for any future functions." 

25. TGIF Events • Socials and other non-play • Educational • Orientation (Educational) • Munch (Social)

26. Play Parties • TGIF does not hold play parties PLAY PARTIES

27. Socials and Other Non-play Events • NO playing • NO toys • NO children • NO exceptions

28. Confirmations • Usually go out the Wednesday before a Saturday event • Three days before a week-day event

29. Educational Events • Donations • RSVP

30. Promoting BDSM Awareness & Understanding • Fresno State • Alliant • Fresno City College (future) • Other (suggestions?)

31. Basic Protocol • Collared submissive • Dominants • Other couples

32. No means No • It is ok to ask a Dominant or submissive to play • Don’t keep asking over and over once you have been told “No” • Don’t take “no” personally

33. Common Dungeon Rules • Ultimate Safe-words (purple) • Courtesy • No blood sports, water-sports, fire-play, wax-play, single tail, winch • Cleanup • Penetration only with barriers

34. Common Dungeon Rules (cont.) • Loud vocal response equals gag • No alcohol or illegal drugs • Time-limit on equipment (30 minutes) • No pictures without permission • Smoking in designated areas

35. Common Dungeon Rules (cont) • Social and snack area not for play • No voyeurs talking in the dungeon • Notify dungeon monitor; don’t stop play yourself • Do not play with other people’s toys without permission

36. TGIF Website • www.TGIFresno.org • About us • Bylaws • Contact us • Members • Calendar • Links • Books • Join TGIF

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46. TGIF Member Discounts (on member page link)

47. The End (of the presentation) • Fill out evaluation form • Read and fill out membership application After that, you are officially a TGIF member Welcome to TGIF! We have TGIF pins, decals and t-shirts available