Friends for life

1. Friends for life

2. listening A forever friend

3. bridge over troubled water When you're weary, feeling small When tears are in your eyes, I will dry them all I'm on your side When times get rough And friends just can't be found Like a bridge over troubled water I will lay me down Like a bridge over troubled water I will lay me down When you're down and out When you're on the street When evening falls so hard I will comfort you I'll take your part When darkness comes And pain is all around Like a bridge over troubled water Like a bridge over troubled water I will lay me down Sail on silver girl Sail on by Your time has come to shine All your dreams are on their way See how they shine When you need a friend I'm sailing right behind Like a bridge over troubled water I will ease your mind Like a bridge over troubled water I will ease your mind

4. Structural analysis The first part (1-2) supplies a psychological definition, as well as the author’s understanding, of friendship. The second part (3-4) gets down a discussion of friendship within familial ties. The third part (5-8) moves on to the significance of friendship outside kinship ties and offers suggestions on friend-making. The fourth part (9-11) discusses the friendship between opposite sexes. The fifth part (12-13) tells us how to fix a broken friendship. The last part (14-15) is about the author’s friendship with her grandchildren.

5. Part one (Para. 1-2) A. Psychological definition endearment; accept; confide in; feel responsible for B. importance of friends: comparison family---emotional support and financial help friends---essential companionship

6. Part two (Para. 3-4) A. topic sentence: Friendship can occur any place marriage; kinship (sister; daughter; grandchildren); opposite sex B. examples husband, sister and daughter

7. Part three (Para. 5-8) • A. (5-6) importance of friends • one of the three most important relationships in our lives • support, affirm • unstated expectations without making vows • B. (7-8) suggestions of making friends • instinctual---attention and skill • process---vigilance---sharing---relaxation---reveal • balance----total disclosure----protection---listen and share

8. Part four (Para. 9-11) A. topic sentence: a. Gender doesn’t matter when it comes to friendship. b. Making friends with someone of the opposite sex can be an eye-opening experience. B. example

9. Part five (Para. 12-13 How to fix a broken friendship? sit down---say---care about---straighten out

10. Part six (Para. 14-15) friends for life friendship with her husband and grandchildren

11. Retelling Part I psychological definition: endearment; accept; confide in; responsible importance: family---emotional and financial help; friends---companionship Part II occur any place; marriage; kinship; opposite sex Part III importance: 3 important relationships; support and affirm; unstated expectations suggestions: A. (5-6) importance of friends one of the three most important relationships in our lives support, affirm unstated expectations without making vows B. (7-8) suggestions of making friends instinctual---attention and skill process---vigilance---sharing---relaxation---reveal balance----total disclosure----protection---listen and share

12. Retelling Part IV: opposite sex; eye-opening Part V: fix a broken friendship; sit down; say; care about; straighten out

13. Fun Time Task 1: Listen to the poem Friends and fill in the missing words. Make yourself a better person and know who you are before you try and know someone else and __________ them to know you Remember, whatever happens, happens for a ___________ How many people actually have eight true friends __________ anyone I know But some of us have all right friends and good friends A true friend is someone who __________ for your hand and touches your heart There’s always going to be people that _______ you So what you have to do is keep on trusting and just be more ___________ about who you trust next time around

14. Fun Time B. Listen to the poem Friends and fill in the missing words. A true friend is someone who __________ for your hand and touches your heart There’s always going to be people that _______ you So what you have to do is keep on trusting and just be more ___________ about who you trust next time around reaches hurt careful

15. Fun Time Make yourself a better person and know who you are before you try and know someone else and __________ them to know you Remember, whatever happens, happens for a ___________ How many people actually have eight true friends __________ anyone I know But some of us have all right friends and good friends expect reason Hardly

16. C. Listen to the song Shining Friendsby Fiche Fung & Mathilde Chan & Peggy Leeand fill in the missing words. Fun Time Sun will shine, my friend Won't let you _______, my dear Seeing you shed a tear Make my world disappear You'll never be alone in __________ See my smile, my friend We are with you, _________ hands You have got to believe, you are my destiny We're ________ to be your friends That's what a friend should be A little faith _________ a rainy day Life is difficult; you can't go away Don't hide yourself in the ________ You have my place to stay _________ is gonna say goodbye Opens up you'll see the happy sunshine Keep going on with your dream _________ tomorrow's sunrise The spirit can never die

17. Fun Time C. Listen to the song Shining Friends by Fiche Fung & Mathilde Chan & Peggy Leeand fill in the missing words. brightens A little faith _________ a rainy day Life is difficult; you can't go away Don't hide yourself in the ________ You have my place to stay _________ is gonna say goodbye Opens up you'll see the happy sunshine Keep going on with your dream _________ tomorrow's sunrise The spirit can never die corner Sorrow Chasing

18. Fun Time Sun will shine, my friend Won't let you _______, my dear Seeing you shed a tear Make my world disappear You'll never be alone in __________ See my smile, my friend We are with you, _________ hands You have got to believe, you are my destiny We're ________ to be your friends That's what a friend should be cry darkness holding meant

19. bridge over troubled water When you're weary, feeling small When tears are in your eyes, I will dry them all I'm on your side When times get rough And friends just can't be found Like a bridge over troubled water I will lay me down Like a bridge over troubled water I will lay me down When you're down and out When you're on the street When evening falls so hard I will comfort you I'll take your part When darkness comes And pain is all around Like a bridge over troubled water Like a bridge over troubled water I will lay me down Sail on silver girl Sail on by Your time has come to shine All your dreams are on their way See how they shine When you need a friend I'm sailing right behind Like a bridge over troubled water I will ease your mind Like a bridge over troubled water I will ease your mind

20. Speaking activity • What is friend/friendship? • Why we make friends?/function of friends • How to keep friendship fresh/permanent/green ---good qualities ---strategies

21. What is friend/friendship? • Friendship is a kind of relationship that many accompany you all your life. • Friendship is one of the greatest pleasure that people can enjoy. It implies(意味着) loyalty(忠诚), cordiality(热诚), sympathy(同情心), affection and readiness(愿意) to help. Real friends are those who can share all our sorrows(伤心事) and double all our joys. • Friendships are relaxed, loyal relationships that involve intimacy(亲密), and communication.

22. Why we make friends?/function of friends • Only friendship can be everlasting and steady. • When you’re down, friends lift you up. When you lose your way, friends guide you and cheer you on. • Making friends is to meet people's varying needs. People have all kinds of desires. To achieve progress, you make friends with those who surpass you. To enjoy freedom, equality and mutual respect, you make friends with those who are of equal stature with you. On behalf of your vanity and relaxation you make friends with the inferior. To you, some friends are fun-loving, some give encouragement, some offer knowledge, and others help you to find your own identity. You expose your worries and weakness to some friends, while you show only your merits, your bright side, in the face of other friends. Before your friends, you may act as a supervisor, a learned brother, a lovely child, a gentleman or a playmate. In a word, friendship helps you to be a full person. So friendship can benefit every individual and thus complete society which is composed of numerous individuals. That is the very social function of friendship.

23. How to keep friendship fresh/permanent/green

24. Good qualities

25. Opposite • Self-centered • Lazy • Dishonest • Impatient • Narrow-minded • Bad-tempered • selfish

26. Let your friends go his or her own way To acknowledge that your friend is an individual and accept him or her with delight. Don't chafe for the reason that you can fetch nothing from your friend, please let their shortage and personality be. Don't feel you are offended when your idea or inclination is wildly different from that of theirs.  • Keep a hedge between We all have the right to have our own emotion and thought. Your relationship will be broken up with the invading of your private space. • Give constructive suggestion Give ear to your friend when they want to express something and do not interrupt them halfway. If your friend want your idea, please do make sure your words is constructive an positive.   • Compliment and encouragement To tell your friends the reasons why you choose them. You rejoice with their coming into your life. And you are delighted with their talents and their achievement.

27. To be a good friend we should: • Help him/her when he/she is in trouble • Share each other’s good mood and bad mood • Often play and meet together • Respect each other • Share things with your friend. • Keep secrets that are told to you. • Tell your friend the truth. •   Keep your promises.

28. Watching and Discussing Task 2. Group Discussion Occasionally there may be something unpleasant or misunderstanding between friends. How will you deal with it? Will you try to make up or clear the air or just let it be? Tell your partner your way to maintain friendship.