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If I had my child to raise all over again,I'd build self-esteem first, and the house later.I'd finger-paint more, and point the finger less.I would do less correcting and more connecting.I'd take my eyes off my watch, and watch with my eyes.I'd take more hikes and fly more kites.I'd stop playing serious, and seriously play.I would run through more fields and gaze at more stars.I'd do more hugging and less tugging. – Diane Loomans, from "If I Had My Child To Raise Over Again"
Introduction • How do kids learn about money? • Four Steps to Financially Fit Kids • Explore Your Values and Habits • Develop Effective Communication Skills • Focus on the Basics • Allowances • Saving and Spending • Basic Budgeting • Create a Love of Life-long Learning
No matter how calmly you try to referee, parenting will eventually produce bizarre behavior, and I'm not talking about the kids. – Bill Cosby Our Money, Ourselves: Take A Hard Look At How You Handle Your Money
What is your relationship with money? • What money “messages” do you send to your children? • What have you done right with your money? • What do you wish you had done differently?
What is your relationship with money? • What money mistakes have you made? • How can the answers help envision a financially healthy child? • What is the grade on your “Fiscal Fitness” Report card?
That money talks, I’ll not deny I heard it once … it said, “Goodbye!” Let’s Talk: Develop Effective Communication Skills
How We Talk to Each Other • Find a neutral time • Give a little to get a little • Know where you stand • Bring in a third party
How We Talk to Kids • Approach discussions with a positive attitude • Set a tone of confidence/openness • Lighten the mood • Have an equal exchange – no lectures! • Ask questions/listen to answers
How We Talk to Kids • Don't talk down to your child • Don't bring up old financial disagreements • Make sure your kids know they can always turn to you for financial advice/information • Learn to say, “It’s not in our budget.”
How Kids Talk to Us • It is okay to say “No”. • Healthy guilt helps your child develop a conscience • We can all use a lesson in the difference between needs and wants • Insist on a “no-nag zone”, especially when you must shop with children
How Kids Talk to Kids • Help them cope with financial peer pressure • Listen without judgment • Share your own story • Don’t back down from your values • Encourage kids to hang out with "the right crowd" • Praise them for doing the right thing
How Advertising Talks to All of Us • Magazines aimed at children • Promotional toys tie in to cartoons, TV shows and movies or promote brand consciousness and loyalty • Cartoon and toy characters are used on all kinds of products • Databases of children • Advertising in schools - Channel One • Promotional licensing of products aimed at kids • Logos • Children's radio networks • Children's toys carrying product placements (Barbie™ dolls with Coca Cola™ accessories). • Give-away programs include promotional merchandise aimed at children (McDonald's™ "Happy Meals").
Fight the Influence of Advertising • Start young • Explain how advertising works • Point out “tricks of the trade” • Explain how marketers target young people • De-construct food advertising • Discuss the value of money • Talk about being a wise consumer
Fight the Influence of Advertising • Challenge definition of “cool” • Watch non-commercial TV • Explain effects of mass consumerism on the planet/society • Encourage non-commercial values • Put shopping into perspective • Promote positive advertising examples
If you want children to keep their feet on the ground, put some responsibility on their shoulders. – Abigail Van Buren Growing the Financially Fit Child
Allowances • To give or not to give • How much? How soon? For what? • Give at a specific time • Make sure they save some • Increase amount as child gets older • Clothing allowances help children learn to manage larger amounts of money • Negotiating raises teaches a valuable money management lesson
Saving/Spending/Sharing • There are multiple uses for money. • 10% to Savings • 10% to Sharing • 80% to Spending • Give Allowances in denominations that can be distributed between these categories
Kid’s Budgeting Rule #1: For all ages -Keep it Simple! Concepts for Parents of Toddlers and PreSchoolers
Kid’s Budgeting • Grades K – 2 • Saving/Spending/Sharing • Chart Savings • Plan Spending
Kid’s Budgeting • Grades 3 – 6 • Checking and savings accounts • Matching grants • Shopping and gift giving
Teaching Teens • Younger Teens • Budgeting and financial goals • Checking and savings accounts • Taxes - Someone has to pay the garbage man • Odd jobs - Extra money for goals • Financial peer pressure can be costly • Use the Internet wisely
Teaching Teens • Older Teens • Prepare them for the world! • Budget with short/long-term financial goals • Savings and checking accounts • Familiar with standard costs-of-living • IRA, if employed • Teach how compound interest and time works • How to shop around for loans and credit • How to use an ATM/ debit/check cards
Foster a Life-long Love of Learning Too often we give children answers to remember rather than problems to solve. – Roger Lewin
Resources for Raising Financially Fit Kids • Your CFS • (Command Financial Specialist) • Fleet and Family Support Center • Your Bank or Credit Union • The Internet
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