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Love. F IQH of 2. Ml Muaadth Allie. SESSION ONE. A successful marital couple may be defined as being: “a committed team that strives to keep the connection despite and , in fact, with the aid of differences between the members.”. SESSION TWO.
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Love FIQH of 2 Ml Muaadth Allie
SESSION ONE A successful marital couple may be defined as being: “a committed team that strives to keep the connection despite and , in fact, with the aid of differences between the members.”
SESSION TWO Affectionate Habits to Create A Affectionate Habits to Avoid B
SESSION THREE 1- Habits of success 2- The male need for respect and admiration
Why is it that on the Day of Qiyaamah your deeds are weighed and not counted?
Why habits? “A person is what he or she consistently does.”
LEARN A HABIT 1- Define the habit 2- Create incentives and disincentives 3- Repeat till second nature
“The truest form of love is how you behave toward someone, not how you feel about them.”
“Respect is a combination of appreciation, admiration and recognition of a person being worth something.”
“True respect is seeing someone, flaws and all, and still feeling appreciation of their unique talents, gifts and insights. It is not expecting perfection nor is it beating someone into submission.”
“To respect is to recognise, accept and honor the idea that another has the right to BE!”
PRINCIPLE 1 To a man respect and admiration is the greatest motivator of them all.
In fact admiration is both: 1- a motivator of future behaviour and 2- a means of reward for past behaviour
Criticism causes men to become defensiveand adversarial while admiration energizes and motivates them.
EXAMPLE 1 The law of resources versus services.
SAYING Behind every successful man is an exhausted woman.
REPHRASED SAYING Behind every loving and caring man is a respectful and admiring woman.
WHAT RESPECT IS NOT 1- Only for the male 2- That which is definitively incorrect 3- That which is unlawful 4- That you have to always agree or keep silent 5- That you cannot complain
HABITS OF RESPECT 1- Focus on your happiness 2- Tell him you respect him. Be specific. 3- Apologise when wrong 4- Avoid nagging 5- Adopt an attitude of gratitude 6- Smile frequently
7- Respond physically 8- Don’t criticise; complain if you must. 9- Resist the urge to correct 10- Show him respect in front of others 11- Forgive his shortcomings 12- Protect his name and reputation 13- Follow his lead
14- Don’t interrupt 15- Ask his opinion. Include him in your decisions and thought. 16- Learn the art of contentment 17- Tell others about his good qualities
COMPLAINT OR DISRESPECT? A complaint is an expression of the problem [action or inaction] only. A criticism adds disrespect to the complaint. not a withdrawal a withdrawal
BEHAVIOUR THAT I ADMIRE 1- affection 2- conversation 3- honesty and openness 4- financial support 5- family commitment
BEHAVIOUR THAT DESTROYS ADMIRATION 1- affection 2- conversation 3- honesty and openness 4- financial support 5- family commitment
1- Tell me about the challenges you are facing in your relationship regarding: Affection Respect 2- What must be done? muaadth@google.com