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F IQH of 2

Love. F IQH of 2. Ml Muaadth Allie. A successful marital couple may be defined as being: “a committed team that strives to keep the connection despite and , in fact, with the aid of differences between the members.”. THE ESSENTIALS OF IRRESISTIBILITY.

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F IQH of 2

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  1. Love FIQH of 2 Ml Muaadth Allie

  2. A successful marital couple may be defined as being: “a committed team that strives to keep the connection despite and , in fact, with the aid of differences between the members.”

  3. THE ESSENTIALS OF IRRESISTIBILITY

  4. When a man and a woman marry, they commit to meeting certain intense and intimate emotional needs of the other on an exclusive basis.

  5. Generally husbands and wives are willing to do for each other what they themselves appreciate most, but it turns out that their efforts are misdirected because what they appreciate the most, their spouses appreciate the least!

  6. Often failure to meet each other’s needs is simply ignorance of the needs of the other rather than selfish unwillingness to be considerate.

  7. By learning to understand yourself and your spouse as totally unique people with particular emotional needs, you can identify your needs and communicate them to each other.

  8. Rum, verse 21: ((ومن آياته أن خلق لكم من أنفسكم أزواجا لتسكنوا إليها وجعل بينكم مودّة ورحمة إن في ذلك لآيات لقوم يتفكّرون)) “And of the signs of Allah is that He had created for you of you spouses that you might find sakinah[tranquility] by them. And He had placed between you love and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people that reflect.”

  9. withdrawals [painful] deposits [pleasurable]

  10. Words of Affirmation Quality Time Receiving Gifts Physical Touch Acts of Service

  11. SIX BASIC NEEDS SIX BASIC NEEDS 1- Certainty/Comfort 2- Uncertainty/Variety 3- Significance 4- Love/Connection 5- Growth 6- Contribution Black = Human Survival Red = Human Fulfilment

  12. 1- AFFECTION

  13. 2- CONVERSATION

  14. 3- SEXUAL FULFILMENT

  15. 4- RECREATIONAL COMPANIONSHIP

  16. 5- HONESTY AND OPENNES

  17. 6- FINANCIAL SUPPORT

  18. 7- PHYSICAL ATTRACTIVENESS

  19. 8- DOMESTIC SUPPORT

  20. 9- FAMILY COMMITMENT

  21. 10- ADMIRATION AND RESPECT

  22. EMOTIONAL NEEDS [a] 1- Affection 2- Conversation 3- Honesty and openness 4- Financial support 5- Family commitment

  23. EMOTIONAL NEEDS [b] 1- Sexual fulfilment 2- Recreational companionship 3- Physical attractiveness 4- Domestic support 5- Admiration and respect

  24. HER HIM 1- Sexual fulfilment 2- Recreational companionship 3- Physical attractiveness 4- Domestic support 5- Admiration and respect 1- Affection 2- Conversation 3- Honesty and openness 4- Financial support 5- Family commitment

  25. NB! Knowing what your spouse needs does not meet the need. You must learn new habits that transform that knowledge into committed action.

  26. NB! If any of a spouse’s five basic emotional needs goes unmet, that spouse becomes vulnerable to the temptation of an affair!

  27. AFFECTION: The Cement of a Relationship

  28. Affection: the communication of care. Admiration: the communication of value, appreciation and respect.

  29. To most women, affection symbolises: security, protection, comfort and approval.

  30. Examples of affection include: Hugging Love letters A bouquet of flowers Invitation to dinner Opening and closing doors Walks Back rubs Phone calls Conversations

  31. A hug translated into words says: “I care about you.” “You are important to me and I don’t want anything bad to happen to you.” “I’m concerned about the problems you face and I’ll try to help you overcome them.”

  32. CLAIM 1 “BUT SHE KNOWS I’M NOT THE AFFECTIONATE ONE!”

  33. LAW 1 WHEN IT COMES TO SEX AND AFFECTION, YOU CAN’T HAVE ONE WITHOUT THE OTHER.

  34. REALITY CHECK Most affairs start because of lack of sex for the man and lack of affection for the woman.

  35. THE TWO LISTS OF AFFECTION Affectionate Habits to Create A Affectionate Habits to Avoid B

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