Social Health

1. Social Health Relationship- a bond or connection between people

3. If we don’t need people then why… • Is basketball 5 on 5 • Is facebook so popular • Can you not live without your cell phone for one day • Do girls go to the bathroom in groups • Do we have parties • Do we have family reunions

4. Communication Skills • Communication- process of sharing information, thoughts, and feelings with others. • There are 3 basic skills associated with effective communication; • Speaking • Listening • Body language

5. Did you know? • About 45% of a person’s communication time is spent listening • About 30% is spent speaking • Reading can on average take up to 16% of a person’s communication time • Writing accounts for an average of 9% of all time spent communicating • It has been estimated that 85% of what you learn is learned through listening • “The only difference between you today and you in 10 years are the people you meet and the books you read.”

6. Speaking Skills “A fool looks to be wise if he remains silent” • Why do you talk? • Things to remember: • Talking is saying what you know • Think before you speak (Talking is not an accident, cussing) • “I” message is a statement that expresses your feelings, but does not blame or judge the other person. • Not what you say it’s how you say it • Read Body Language • You will never rise above your words “The character of a man is known from his conversations.” -Menander (342 BC - 292 BC)

7. Define PRIDE • Excessive self esteem; conceit; arrogance • Define HUMBLE • modest: modest and unassuming in attitude and behavior • respectful: feeling or showing respect and deference toward other people • PRIDEFUL people talk too much and don’t listen enough, think they are always right because they don’t have enough confidence to be wrong • HUMBLE people listen and learn, they are confident enough to admit they don’t know everything Which are you?

8. Listening skills • Active listening- actually listening • How do you know if somebody is listening • Look at the person talking • Don’t interrupt • Encourage the speaker • Ask questions • Summarize • Empathize • Don’t steer the conversation onto your problems “Friends are those rare people who ask how we are and then wait to hear the answer.”Ed Cunningham

9. What about TEXTING? • The average teen sends and receives about 3,500 texts per month • How could texting impact your ability to communicate?

10. Nonverbal Communication • Body language- nonverbal communication through gestures, facial expressions, and behaviors • Mixed messages- Mouth says one thing and your body says something else “What you do speaks so loud that I cannot hear what you say.” -Ralph Waldo Emerson

11. Communication Practice • Using the sheet of questions, practice the skills we discussed today. • Making eye contact, sincerity, listening, DON’T INTERUPT, give feedback, connect with the person speaking, don’t rush • Stay with your partner until I tell you to switch, only do one section of questions per partner

12. Relationships • Types: • Casual • Talk to in class • Sit by them at games • Close • Biggest influence on your Decisions • ”You will never rise above your friends” • “Show me a man’s friends and I’ll tell you their future”

13. 10 Thoughts about Good Friends • Friends are few • Friends are selfless • Friends listen • Friends love unconditionally • Friends are available for advice • Friends are honest • Friends encourage • Friends are sensitive to your emotions • Friends are loyal • Friends accept you

14. Peer Pressure- the control and influence the people your age may have on you. • Based purely on need for acceptance • Positive- If you do the right thing it may give somebody else the courage to say NO • Negative- Nobody wants to be the dumbest person in the room. Types of Manipulation (sneaky or dishonest ways to get what you want) • Mocking , Bargaining, Bribing, • Guilt trips, Blackmail, Flattery

15. Responding to Negative Peer Pressure • Passive- give in to everybody, just to try and be accepted and fit in • Aggressive- overly forceful, hostile, attacking in approach- immature approach • Assertive- standing up for your beliefs in firm mature way

16. Refusal Skills • Just say ‘NO’ • Establish a reputation • Avoid tempting situations • Don’t compromise • Don’t sacrifice long-term success for short-term fun • Know your answer before your asked • Never make decisions on the WEEKENDS!

17. “Just Say No” Assignment • Working with one other person or by yourself, you will come up with a slogan to replace “Just Say No”. For example, “Fear Beer” or “Pass on Grass”. Slogans will be presented at the end of the hour.

19. Types of Relationships Cont. • Platonic • Opposite sex but not dating • Good side • Learn about the opposite sex without dating • Gives a chance to ease into dating • Gives you a different perspective • Negative Side • Viewed differently by guys and girls • Leaves people vulnerable for manipulation

20. Dating Why date??? • Acceptance • Learn about opposite sex • Fun • Learn how to communicate in a relationship • Learn from mistakes now • Learn what to expect • Learn what love is or is not

21. Dangers of Dating • Lust gets in the way • Leads to confusion over what love really is • Immaturity leads to poor relationships (jealousy, lying, yelling, abuse, possessive) • Poor relationships leaves scars for future relationships (emotional damage) • Lose friendships • Damage family relationships

22. Who should you date? • Someone that’s hot • Respect your values • Similar values • Mature • Around same age • Similar interest • Similar goals • Someone that makes you better

23. Who should you not date? • Immature • Jealous • Abusive (verbally, physically, mentally) • Someone you’re trying to change • Control freak • Someone that is negative • Someone with a bad history • Insecure • Someone that you have to justify dating

24. “This won’t hurt anybody” “I’ll only do it once” “I’ll be careful” “I can handle it” “I can quit whenever I want” “It’s no big deal” “I’ll be safe” “I’m not stupid about it” “I’m not doing anything wrong” “People do it all the time” “I’m not hurting anyone” “Nobody’s going to find out” “Nothing bad is going to happen” “All my friends are doing it” Every kind of Addiction begins with similar self-deception.

27. Imagine you are sitting in class, and a new girl with a great body sits down a few desks over from you. What is your reaction to her?I openly stare at her – 13%I’m drawn to look at her and I sneak a peak or glance at her from the corner of my eye – 52%I can’t help noticing her, but I try to stop myself from looking. – 30%Nothing happens, it doesn’t affect – 4%

28. Now imagine that the same hot girl goes to the front of the class to give a report. She’s all business, but is wearing clothes that accentuate her figure. If you’re not careful, would there be a possibility that you would picture her naked either now or later? • Yes, almost definitely (and even this survey question risks raising images in my mind — 39% • Yes, possibly – 46% • No, that would never occur to me – 15%

34. Compliments • Acknowledging a person’s self worth • Difference between compliment and sexual harassment • Stay out of the STRIKE ZONE

35. Receiving a Compliment • Don’t get embarrassed • Don’t downplay • Don’t ignore • Don’t redirect attention • Don’t argue or fight • Just Say THANK YOU

36. Assignment Write 3 paragraphs about dating. 1st paragraph is WHY you date 2nd What qualities do you expect in someone you date 3rd is about What you will not tolerate in somebody you date