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Dive into sessions designed by Solfrid Raknes, Psychologist & Researcher, to increase awareness of feelings and thoughts. Learn vital skills to support yourself and others, differentiate between situations, feelings, and thoughts, and master the problem-solving system "The Helping Hand." Engage in various activities like watching films, listening to music, and more to enhance your well-being and handle difficult situations effectively. Explore the importance of feelings, understanding red and green thoughts, and practice empathetic responses to others. Join interactive discussions and activities to improve coping skills and boost emotional intelligence. Start your journey towards emotional resilience and happiness now with Helping Hands-Happy Kids sessions!
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HELPING HANDS – HAPPY KIDS4 sessionsto increase awareness of feelings and thoughts Developed by Solfrid Raknes, Psychologist & Researcher
Session One Take Aways What you will learn • How to support yourself and others? • Differ between situation, feelings and thoughts • The problem solving system “The Helping Hand” Why? • The purpose is to enhance your well being and develop your coping skills to deal with difficulties(difficult situations?) How? • See film, listen to music, read, write, speak and play!
FEELINGS Lets Watch: https://youtu.be/SJOjpprbfeE • After the film: • Answer questions about what feelings drives you to do
FRIENDLY INNER THOUGHTS Read p 9 - 12
FEELINGS • What are the good sides of feelings? • Why is anger good? • Why is anxiety good?
HIGH AWARENESS OF FEELINGS MEANS TO.... • Recognize feelings • Accept feelings • Express feelings clearly and properly • Relate empathetic and constructively to others' feelings
SHOW....DON´T TELL • Guess each feeling and the degree of each feeling
FEELINGS AND THOUGHTS Likes vs. No Likes Film: https://youtu.be/yMhQAKPVyMU Lets Discuss: • What did she think – and how do you know? • What did she feel - and how do you know?
RED THOUGHTS • Red thoughts make you feel more angry, sad or afraid • Red thoughts make it harder for you to respond in the best way in the situation
GREEN THOUGHTS Green thoughts=Helpful thoughts • Green thoughts make you feel safer and happier • Green thoughts promote care for yourself and others
Partner Discussion Please share with your neighbor: • What feelings do you think are OK to show and talk about: • with friends? • with parents? • in this classroom? • Take turns telling each other about a time when somebody responded to your feelings in a nice way.
A problem solving system – THE HELPING HAND (HH) – and focus on our coping with the situation
Helping Hand Problem Solving System Nervous Afraid Eva is about to have a school presentation. • Everyone will laugh at me. • I will forget everything. • I can do this! • Just do it! It will get easier. Best Friend Teacher Classmates Be the first to present. Talk slowly and loudly.
Helping Hands-Classroom Activity Kevin likes a girl, but dosn´t know if she likes him
Coping with difficult situations • Make a list of situations that have been hard for you to deal with. • If there is something you are often afraid of – that´s not dangerous – choose that! (e.g. School presentations, talking with somebody, do something alone) • Choose ONE situation that you would like to focus on • That is important to you • A situation where the your actions can reduce the problem • A situation you feel comfortable sharing thoughts and feelings about in our health class(with the class)
Session One Homework 1. Read pages 14 – 21 in the Helping Hands Happy Kids Manual 2. Make a reminder system where you get a green thought that can help you towards your goal every day, in the situation you chose to work on? • E.g. Message on the telephone, message from parents, friends, a reminder over the bed, in your bag, in your journal… 3. When you get the reminder – think about the specific green thought – let it sink in
Session Two Overview What? • Connections between situations, feelings and thoughts • Red and Green thoughts Why? • Automatic reactions can create difficulties. • An overview can help you to think better and make smarter decisions. How? • Film, music, read, write, speak and play!
YOUR HOMEWORK • Your homework was to 1. Read page 14 – 21 2. Make a reminder system where you get a green-thought every day, in the situation you chose to work on? • E.g. Message on the telephone, message from parents, friends, a reminder over the bed, in your bag, in your journal… 3. When you get the reminder – think about the specific green thought you would like to be reminded of • Tell me about your reminder systems
Lets Watch! • https://youtu.be/7wKVtvuxEsM • After the film: • What did he think – and how do you know? • What did he feel - and how do you know?
HELPING HAND HELPED CHILD DARE TO JUMP…NOW HE´S HAPPY AND PROUD – AND LOVES WATER! Scared, 9 They´ll laugh! It will hut!! Coward! Jump It´s brave to try I´ll get less scared every time I jump Teacher Jump
THOUGHTS Read page 22 - 25
RED THOUGHTS • Red thoughts make you feel angry, sad or afraid • Red thoughts make it harder for you to respond the best way in the situation
GREEN THOUGHTS Green Thoughts= Helpful Thoughts • Make you feel safer and happier • Promote care for yourself and others
Situation – describe the facts as clearly as possible The boys see… • A sleeping dog • An animal • Something that scares them
Thoughts • What is the boy in the red shirt thinking? • What is the boy in the green shirt thinking?
FEELINGS • What feelings do the boys show?
HOW CAN WE EXPLAIN THESE BOYS DIFFERENT REACTIONS based on what we know? • The situation? • Their thoughts?
THE HELPING HAND – FOR PROBLEM SOLVING • What ́s up?One situation - use concrete details and be precise • Feelings: Your feelings, what you notice in your body, and the degrees of your feelings • Red thoughts: Thoughts that strengthen difficult feelings • Green thought: What is more helpful to think? • What can I do?: What you can do to help yourself feel better … Trust your green thoughts! • Support: Who can support me and how?
GROUPWORKComplete onefield in the hand (one finger), then send forward to next student • Same situation – various reactions • Complete the Helping Hand in a way that follows the logic in the hand you´re working with Eva is about to have a school presentation Eva skal holde presentasjon i klassen
GROUPWORKRead through some of the Helping Hands from the Class • Clear logic between situation, feelings and thoughts? • Green thoughts you would find useful too, given that you had these feelings and red thoughts? Other suggestions? Eva is about to have a school presentation Eva skal holde presentasjon i klassen
DISCOVER YOUR RED THOUGHTS! • Read pages 27 - 28
FIGHTING THE RED THOUGHTS • Lets start with an experiment: • Try NOT to think about RED RABBITS • Close your eyes • What happens? • Discussion: What can you learn from this?
CLASS GAME • GREEN TEAM AGAINST • RED TEAM
ACCEPT RED THOUGHTS WILL COME…AND GO • Accept all kinds of thoughts • Thoughts are not dangerous • You don´t have to believe in all red thoughts! • Pushing away thoughts takes energy and work. • Choose to listen to your green thoughts.
HOMEWORK • Complete a Helping Hand for a situation you find challenging • Teach one of your parent(s), siblings or friends about the helping hand, complete a helping hand together with him/her.
Session Three: Overview What? • Coping strategies Why? • Automatic reactions can create difficulties. • An overview can help you to think better and make smarter decisions. How? See film, listen to music, read, write, jump, speak and play!
DEALING WITH FAILURES • https://youtu.be/T61RVdxYNDg
COMPLETE HIS HELPING HAND • Complete quickly his helping hand
LETS TRY AN EXPERIMENT • Write: How happy are you right now? Use a scale from 0 – 10, where 0 is bad and 10 is very good, 5 is neutral • Complete the task that the teacher gives you. • Write again: How happy are you now? Same scale • Complete the task that the teacher gives you. • Write again: How happy are you now? Same scale
From self critic to self compassionQuestions like ”What´s wrong with me?” and ”Why me?”…can become a bad habit
Independent Writing • Complete a Helping Hand where the trigger situation makes you • Stressed • Worried • Or Angry
Partner Share • Show your partner your completed HHs • Help each other to feel it OK to share by showing acceptance and understanding • Do you have suggestions for other/stronger green thoughts and things to do your pair mate could use? Share!
READ • Read p 35