Coaching & Overseeing Home Group Leaders Xenos Summer Institute 2009

1. Coaching & Overseeing Home Group LeadersXenos Summer Institute 2009 Presentation by Danny Walker Senior Sphere Leader Xenos Christian Fellowship

2. Recommended Reading • “How to Be a Great Cell Group Coach” – Joel Comiskey • “Loving God’s Way” - Gary DeLashmutt • “Strange Things about Xenos” (www.xenos.org) • “Jesus Driven Ministry” – Ajith Fernando • “The Call to Joy and Pain” – Ajith Fernando • “Walking in Victory” - Dennis McCallum • www.stevekmccoy.com/reformissionary/2005/07/tim_keller_arti.html - Resources by Tim Keller

3. Fast facts about XCF structure. • The home group is the core structure of Xenos Christian Fellowship. • Around here folks use the expressions: ‘home church,’ ‘home group,’ or ‘small group’ interchangeably. • Apart from the home group meeting, most home groups have separate men's and women's groups called, “cell groups” or “study groups”. Typically these “cells” are not open to non-Christian guests.

4. Fast facts about XCF structure. Spheres • Our 200 home groups are affiliated with one of 11 larger organizations called spheres. • Each sphere provides oversight of their home groups. • ‘Central Teaching’ or ‘CT’- Each sphere provides a large weekly meeting for home group members & their guests.

5. Fast facts about XCF structure. • Home Groups • All staff are in a home group. All upper level staff (elders, Sr. pastors, etc.) lead home groups. • Around 85% of the adults in the CTs are committed members of a home group. • Each home group consists of 15-60 members (Post college groups average 16). • Each home group is led by a team of leaders that report to a staff person.

6. Fast facts about XCF structure. • Home Groups • 144 post-college HGs (3+ leaders per group) • 32 college HGs (4+ per group) • 29 High School HGs Average Home Group Attendance • 2009 Post college HG attendance 2,267 • 2009 College HG attendance 723 • 2009 High School HG attendance 519 2009 average Total HG attendance 3,500

7. Five Essentials of a Healthy Home Group(see your handout) EVANGELISM COMMUNITY DISCIPLESHIP GROWING LEADERS A FAITHFUL GOD

8. Five Essentials of a Healthy Home Group(see your handout) Focus on Five Essentials! Fewer Plates Spinning! EVANGELISM COMMUNITY DISCIPLESHIP GROWING LEADERS A FAITHFUL GOD

9. (see your handout) Evangelism Sample Plan Discipleship Sample Plan Community Sample Plan Growing Leaders Sample Plan

10. Customize sample plans to fit your group. Evangelism Sample Plan Discipleship Sample Plan Community Sample Plan Growing Leaders Sample Plan

11. Universals that apply to every Plan (see your handout) • Prayer • Love • Communication & Vision • Planting Emphasis • Grace • Truth / Scripture

12. GOAL: Planting a Healthy Home Group • Unselfishly perpetuate the group environment by planting. • Visualize your group 10 years from now. • Pray & I.D. those who might lead. • Get a plan. Attain “buy in”. Set a date.

13. A Faithful God • Matt 16:18 -- I will build my church, and the gates of hell will not prevail against it. • 1 Cor 3:6-7 I planted the seed, Apollos watered, but God caused the growth! So neither he who plants nor he who waters is anything, but only God, who makes things grow.

14. A Faithful God • Jesus made the same point in parables of Mt. 13 The church is the seed that starts small and grows huge. There is no doubt God will cause His Church to grow!

15. A Faithful God – Outcome • As we understand this, we have... • More peace • More relaxed disposition • More graciousness • Faith that is attractive & contagious

16. Growing Leaders • 2 Peter 1:5-8 Now for this very reason also, applying all diligence… faith… moral excellence… knowledge…self-control… perseverance… godliness; …brotherly kindness…love. For if these qualities are yours and are increasing, they render you neither useless nor unfruitful in the true knowledge of our lord Jesus Christ.

17. Growing Leaders Plan for growth as a leader! • Set annual personal growth goals. • Peer involvement and initiation (friends don’t let friends stagnate). • Honesty about character & sin issues • Grow as a spouse/ parent/ son/daughter. • 1 Tim 4:15 Take pains with these things; be absorbed in them, so that your progress will be evident to all.

18. Discipleship • Are you making the time to regularly help younger believers grow in Christ? • Are you convinced that this is God’s will for your life?

19. Discipleship • 2 Tim. 2:2 the things which you have heard from me…entrust to faithful men, who will be able to teach others also • Mt. 28:19 & 20 Go therefore and make disciples of all the nations…teaching them to observe all that I commanded you…

20. Discipleship Plan for discipleship! • Model, Teach, & Pray about discipleship in all venues. • Encourage every member to participate in the Great Commission. • Regularly assess progress & re-focus. • Resources – 1) Organic Disciplemaking by: Dennis McCallum and Jessica Lowery 2) Leader class on discipleship- www/ xenos.org/classes/leadership/discipleship.html

21. Community • Eph. 4:15-16 but speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in all aspects into Him, who is the head, Christ, from whom the whole body, being fitted and held together by that which every joint supplies, according to the proper working of each individual part, causes the growth of the body for the building up of itself in love.

22. Community Plan for community! • Serving each other – learning & exercising gifts • Proper delegation of tasks • Quality meetings • Serving the nonChristian community together • Regular prayer & workers’ meetings, retreats & consider vacations

23. Evangelism Matthew 5:14 "You are the light of the world. ... 16 let your light shine before men" Matthew 24:14And this gospel of the kingdom will be preached in the whole world

24. Evangelism • Convince team it’s critical to group’s health • Create a one-year calendar • Challenge the “status quo” • Maximize what you are already doing • Pray throughout Plan for evangelism!

25. Five Essentials of a Healthy Home Group EVANGELISM COMMUNITY DISCIPLESHIP GROWING LEADERS A FAITHFUL GOD

26. What Do Your Leaders Need? • Equipped with the word of God. • Know the goal(s) of your church. Visionary “high bar”. • God’s gracious timetable. (Pilot analogy) • Understanding of “Victorious Struggle”. Have a battle mentality yet, know God’s side has the victory. • Various needs particular to each leader that you must discern.

27. What Do Your Leaders Need?Slide #2 • John 10 – Sacrificial love of God’s flock. • Encouraged.- Hebrews 6:10 God is not unjust; he will not forget your work and the love you have shown him as you have helped his people and continue to help them. • Secure I.D. in Christ / Grace overflowing • You to ask plenty of questions. • You to help them with disruption, dissent, discipline, etc.

28. Questions & Comments

29. Recommended Reading • “How to Be a Great Cell Group Coach” – Joel Comiskey • “Loving God’s Way” - Gary DeLashmutt • “Strange Things about Xenos” (www.xenos.org) • “Jesus Driven Ministry” – Ajith Fernando • “The Call to Joy and Pain” – Ajith Fernando • “Walking in Victory” - Dennis McCallum • Resources by Tim Keller www.stevekmccoy.com/reformissionary/2005/07/tim_keller_arti.html

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