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Positivity Session .

Positivity Session . Dr. Declan Aherne , Consultant Sports Psychologist. And Head of Counselling U.L. What confidence isn’t !. Self confidence is not the same as being egotistical or arrogant or cocky. Confidence. Confidence is due to How you think. What you focus on.

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Positivity Session .

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  1. Positivity Session. Dr. Declan Aherne, Consultant Sports Psychologist. And Head of Counselling U.L.

  2. What confidence isn’t ! • Self confidence is not the same as being egotistical or arrogant or cocky.

  3. Confidence Confidence is due to • How you think. • What you focus on. • How you react to events.

  4. Exercise • Remember a time when your confidence was at its highest – • Who and what made you confident ? • Why ? 2. Remember a time when your confidence was at its lowest – • Who and what made your confidence low? • Why ?

  5. Characteristics of a Confident Player • Has tremendous self-belief • Is not negatively influenced by outside comments. • Works consistently at developing and improving his game. • Is realistic • Is calm under pressure. • Is focussed on his task. • Knows that he’s not perfect and he’s not God. • Players to the best of his ability

  6. Myths about confidence • Only positive feedback can build confidence. • Either you have it or you don’t • Success always builds confidence • Mistakes inevitably destroy confidence • Confidence means outspoken arrogance

  7. Be on your guard –How and when can confidence be knocked ? • When you make a mistake. • When opposition score • When you loose a match. • When someone criticises you. • When you are dropped. • When you have a poor game.

  8. Self-talk Your thoughts determine how you feel: Think negative – feel negative, anxious, self-doubt. Think positive – feel confident You need to listen to yourself- what do you tell yourself ?

  9. The art of self talk Knowing what words to use and what words not to use e.g. ‘should’, ‘must’ and ‘have to’ are out, ‘can’ and ‘will’ are in. • Suggestion, Self-hypnosis and Self- fulfilling prophecies.

  10. Mentally strong Become mentally strong – By taking control of your self-talk.

  11. Develop an optimistic explanatory style • Permanence, not just a fluke or once off • Generalize specific successes • Personalise, taking credit where due

  12. Challenging you negative thoughts and beliefs • Are beliefs based on objective reality ? • Are they true all of the time ? • Do you want to have these beliefs ? • Are they helpful ? • Do they help you reach your goal ? • Do they help you feel confident ? • Are there alternative ways of thinking about the situation that are more helpful ?

  13. Mistaken beliefs • Perfection is essential • Catastrophizing • Worth depends on achievement • Fallacy of fairness and ideal conditions • Blaming

  14. Typical Thinking Errors • All or nothing thinking • Overgeneralising • Dwelling on the negative • Disqualifying the positive • Jumping to conclusions 6. Emotional reasoning 7. Should statements 8. Personalisation

  15. The 3 Steps to positive self-talk • Identifying your negative thoughts • Challenging and correcting your negative thoughts / thought stopping. • Developing your own positive affirmations

  16. How to learn positive self talk • Noticing your thoughts • Daily practice – • Keep a journal of self-talk

  17. Exercise Challenging your negative thinking • What are your negative thoughts, worries, fears ? • What aspect of this thought is irrational ? Rate this thought • What are the positive alternatives ? • Are you willing to believe these – Rate them.

  18. The Jonah Syndrome ( Maslowe) • We fear our highest possibility. • We are generally afraid to become that which we can glimpse in our most perfect moments

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