„Married Love Can Be Beautiful”

1. A Recipe for Happiness in Marriage „Married Love Can Be Beautiful”

2. „Marriage honourable in all, and the bed undefiled. For fornicators and adulterers God will judge.” (Hebrews 13,4).

3. 1. Priorities What is the most important value in your life? Family Work Hobby Making Money Career Continuing Education Volunteer work Being active in your parish Business travel

4. All these things are important , but… Because of God and because of the faith, MARRIAGE becomes the most important value from the wedding day through the rest of your life !!!

5. „Our marriage is a work of art.” „Creation of a work of art from our marriage is our greatest task.” „Our marriage is the greatest pursuit of our lives ” „The most important goal of our lives is the holiness of our marriage.” „Our marriage is our greatest investment.” „Happy marriage- What we want most.” “The road to happiness in marriage is always under construction.”

6. 2. People Priorities Who is the most important person in your life? Your child (children) Your parents Your siblings Your friends at work Your parish priest Your friends from prayer group

7. All these people are important, but… Because of God and because of the Faith, YOUR SPOUSE becomes the most important person from the wedding day through the rest of your life !!!

8. 3. Nurturing Married Love Love and infatuation are two separate things: Infatuation does not depend on us. Love only depends on us. Infatuation is takings. Love is giving. Infatuation is without God. Love is only with God.

9. 3. Nurturing Married Love Love and infatuation are two separate things: Infatuation does not depend on us. Love only depends on us. Infatuation is takings. Love is giving. Infatuation is without God. Love is only with God.

10. 3. Nourishment of Married Love Words Assurances of love Compliments Talking about your feelings Kindness Politeness “My life without you would be meaningless.”

11. B. Actions Patience, kindness, gentleness Hugs Listening with empathy Helpfulness Help in work Working together Time Long Walks Watching TV together Presents Going out to the movies, dancing or dinner

12. C. Marriage Rituals ( repeated, important to both spouses) Tender goodbyes Loving welcomes Talk and coffee Texting each other every day Shopping together Praying together Going to mass together

13. 4. Holiness of the marriage bed(operating instructions) Owning a bed. Its the most important piece of furniture in marriage. Sleeping together Going to bed at the same time Couple’s prayer Chemical and pollutant free.

14. 5. Spiritual Foundation

15. Who answering, said to them: Have ye not read, that he who made man from the beginning, Made them male and female? And he said: For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife, and they two shall be in one flesh. Therefore now they are not two, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let no man put asunder. (Mt 19, 4-6).

16. Couple’s Relationship with God Praying together – just you and your spouse Assisting at mass together Wearing your wedding band Celebrating each wedding anniversary – renewal of marriage vows. Unceasing prayer for the spouse Taking retreats together

17. Stability of Marriages Living the Faith American sociologist Mercedes Arzu Wilson researched various unions and their permanence . Civil union- one in two couples devorces -50%, After a church wedding, without religious practices –one in three couples - 33%, After a church wedding, with weekly Sunday mass attened together. – one in fifty- 2%, After a church wedding, with weekly Sunday mass attened together and daily couple’s prayer –one in 1429 couples, only 0,07%.. (Das Gebet, Schlüssel der Heiligkeit w: DER FELS (Katholisches Wort in der Zeit) 11/2002, s.325, Rycerz Niepokalanej, no 556, September 2002, pg. 289, Published inSPRAWACH RODZINY, no 63-64/2003, pg. 164 )

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