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PROTECTIVE PARENTS AND CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE ALLEGATIONS IN CUSTODY DISPUTES

PROTECTIVE PARENTS AND CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE ALLEGATIONS IN CUSTODY DISPUTES. CHILDREN SENTENCED TO LIFE WITH ABUSERS . PROTECTIVE PARENTS AND CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE ALLEGATIONS IN CUSTODY DISPUTES. Description of Problem Children placed in the custody of identified offenders

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PROTECTIVE PARENTS AND CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE ALLEGATIONS IN CUSTODY DISPUTES

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  1. PROTECTIVE PARENTS AND CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE ALLEGATIONS IN CUSTODY DISPUTES CHILDREN SENTENCED TO LIFE WITH ABUSERS

  2. PROTECTIVE PARENTS AND CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE ALLEGATIONS IN CUSTODY DISPUTES Description of Problem • Children placed in the custody of identified offenders • Legalized kidnapping/aiding and abetting child abuse • New phenomenon (custody scandal cases) • Incidence – current research • Predominantly Affects Middle and High Income Women • Protective mothers v. protective fathers—how much of the problem is due to gender bias? • Problem worsening

  3. PROTECTIVE PARENTS AND CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE ALLEGATIONS IN CUSTODY DISPUTES

  4. PROTECTIVE PARENTS AND CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE ALLEGATIONS IN CUSTODY DISPUTES Contributing Factors • Society’s Denial of Incest • Myths about false allegations • Non-coordination of government agencies • Lack of education of judicial officials • Lack of common sense • Invasion of MHP’s into litigation • Due process violations • Lack of integrity • Gender bias and bias against maternal protective behavior • Financial incentives

  5. PROTECTIVE PARENTS AND CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE ALLEGATIONS IN CUSTODY DISPUTES Child Protective Services Role • SW’s may have no specialized training in child sexual abuse • SW’s may not be licensed—no requirement for continuing education • Emergency response protocol impedes disclosure of sexual abuse—failure to use expert interviewers • High caseloads, high turnover, inexperienced SW’s • Abandonment of duty to investigate and protect in favor of relinquishing case to family court • Bias re: myths of false allegations persist in dependency field • Example: Mother threatened with prosecution for alleging sex abuse—when abuse proved, children taken for failure to protect

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  8. PROTECTIVE PARENTS AND CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE ALLEGATIONS IN CUSTODY DISPUTES Society’s Changing Attitudes Toward Sex Offenses • Kinsey’s fraudulent research • Desensitization to sexual conduct and crimes • Society’s role in sexualizing children • Media--Fashion Industry/magazines/TV • Earlier physical development of children • Proliferation of pornography • Incest exception loophole

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  10. PROTECTIVE PARENTS AND CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE ALLEGATIONS IN CUSTODY DISPUTES • Victim Blaming/Legal Defense Tactics • History of father custody • Influence of “father’s rights” agenda on social policy • Retaliatory litigation in response to child support orders • Projection—offender accuses protective parent of his behaviors • Made-up diagnosis • PAS • Malicious Mother Syndrome • Syndromes R U$

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  12. PROTECTIVE PARENTS AND CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE ALLEGATIONS IN CUSTODY DISPUTES • Family Courts as Secondary Abusers • Court takes on the role of abuser • Legalized punishment of lawful conduct • Judicial hostility/retaliation toward PP’s • Violations of Human Rights • child’s right to be safe from sexual assault • parent’s right to protect offspring • Violations of victim’s rights • Crimes framed as domestic issue • “wallet incident” • family therapy model (both parties at fault) • victims forced to spend time with offenders • “get along or else” law (conciliation law)

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  14. PROTECTIVE PARENTS AND CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE ALLEGATIONS IN CUSTODY DISPUTES • Lack of Accountability in Judiciary • Judicial crimes rarely prosecuted • Refusal of courts to overturn bad decisions • prosecutions don’t result in re-hearing cases • Evidence proving error doesn’t result in correction • No effective remedies • Appeals too costly • Ethics commissions weak and don’t address injustice (foxes guarding hen house)

  15. PROTECTIVE PARENTS AND CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE ALLEGATIONS IN CUSTODY DISPUTES • Mental Health Consequences • Mental/Emotional/Psychological problems • Hopelessness/Depression/suicidality • Inability to trust • Fear of abandonment • Emotional numbing/disassociation • Guilt/shame • Anxiety/confusion (convolutes right v. wrong) • Emotionally regressed behaviors • PTSD, hyper vigilance • Sleep disorders • Self destructive behaviors

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  17. PROTECTIVE PARENTS AND CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE ALLEGATIONS IN CUSTODY DISPUTES • Traumatic Bonding • Intermittent terror v. care--creation of trauma bond • Isolation with dependency for survival needs • Child perceives societal acceptance (failure to protect) • abuse becomes normalized • Helplessness—captor/captive relationship • Brainwashing/alignment with power/distorted reality • Physiology (chemical reaction to abuse) • Fight or flight stage--adrenaline during abuse • Relief stage--Endorphins • Anticipation unbearable • Re-enact abuse to “get it over with”—achieve relief • Parallel to DV victim/perpetrator dynamic • NOT UNDERSTOOD BY MANY “PROFESSIONALS” • Abuse disbelieved • Perpetrator assumed safe

  18. PROTECTIVE PARENTS AND CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE ALLEGATIONS IN CUSTODY DISPUTES • Medical Consequences • from perpetual trauma/stress • Cancer • Brain Aneurism • Autoimmune diseases • Skin problems • Gastrointestinal problems • Heart problems

  19. PROTECTIVE PARENTS AND CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE ALLEGATIONS IN CUSTODY DISPUTES • “Warning to Mothers” • (www.mothers-of-lost-children.com) • Learn the pitfalls in litigation • Avoid hasty decisions—contemplate the backlash • Appease v. challenge the court? • Stay silent or speak out? • Stay or run? • Educate yourself on the issues • Maintain a support system—buddy-up • Take care of your health, work, make time for fun • Journal—memorialize your experience • PRAY! (a lot)

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  21. PROTECTIVE PARENTS AND CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE ALLEGATIONS IN CUSTODY DISPUTES • Reform from the Inside Out • Public education • Conferences • Trainings • Meet with government officials/entities • Research and tools • Custody evaluation template • Legislation • Copy good legislation from other states

  22. PROTECTIVE PARENTS AND CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE ALLEGATIONS IN CUSTODY DISPUTES • Activism—Make it Happen • Radical Problems need aggressive action • Think Outside the Box—develop a strategy/gimmic • BREAK THE SILENCE • Courageous Kids—most powerful voices • Protective Parent groups • Make your own Media • Op-Eds/letters to the editor/flyers • Challenge the status quo— “well behaved women rarely make history” • Prepare for battle, know your enemy • Public censure/public awards

  23. PROTECTIVE PARENTS AND CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE ALLEGATIONS IN CUSTODY DISPUTES • Suggested Remedies • Approximation standard as basis for custody • Separate Child Support from residential time • Government must pay for all court ordered services and fees of court appointed professionals • Jury trials for custody upon request of a party • Abolish absolute judicial immunity for all court professionals • Complaint to Inter-American Commission on Human Rights (filed May 2007)

  24. PROTECTIVE PARENTS AND CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE ALLEGATIONS IN CUSTODY DISPUTES • References • Dallam. S. J., & Silberg, J. L. (Jan/Feb 2006) Myths that place children at risk during custody disputes. Sexual Assault Report, 9(3), 33-47. • Keating, Sharon S. (1988) Children in Incestuous Relationships: The Forgotten Victims, 34 Loyola Law Review111. • Heim, S., Grieco, H., Di Paola, S., & Allen, R. (2002) Family Court Report. Sacramento, CA: California National Organization for Women. • Faller, K. C., & DeVoe, E. (1995). Allegations of sexual abuse in divorce, Journal of Child Sexual Abuse, 4(4), 1-25. • Bancroft, L. R. (1998) Understanding the batterer in custody and visitation disputes • Theonnes and Tjaden (1998) Allegations of Sexual Abuse in Custody and Visitation Cases • Lawson, L., & Chaffin, M. (1992) False negatives in sexual abuse disclosure interviews. Journal of Interpersonal Violence, 7(4), 532-42 • Sjoberg, R. L., & Lindblad, F. (2002) Limited disclosure of sexual abuse in children whose experiences were documented by videotape. American Journal of Psychiatry, 159(2), 312-4 • L.C. , Lyon, T.D. , & Quas, J.A. (2007) Filial dependency and recantation of child sexual abuse allegations. Journal of the American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry, 46, 162-70. • Stephanie Dallam (2008) Are “Good Enough Parents Losing Custody to Abusive Ex-Partners? Updated for the Leadership Council on Child Abuse & Interpersonal Violence • Pennington J., (1995) National Center for Protective Parents, The Politics of Incest • Chesler P., (1986) Mothers on Trial: The Battle for Children and Custody • Stahly G. (2003) Protective Mothers in Child Custody Disputes: A Study of Judicial Abuse

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